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Strap yourself in and journey with us down memory lane in our latest Who's Driving episode. We'll stir up a cocktail of nostalgia, laughter, and thought-provoking conversation, guaranteed to quench your thirst for all things past and present.
Hit us up on Instagram and give our hotline a call at 864-982-5029. Happy listening! And remember to leave us a rating and review.
We mentioned The Nested Fig App in this episode. You can Tap Here to get our app and join our live sales on Sundays and Thursdays at 8pm est. Use Code Fig10 for 10% Off.
Follow Steven on Instagram at @Keepinupwithsteven and follow Wesley on Instagram at @Farmshenanigans. Shop our online store at TheNestedFig.Com Use Coupon Code Fig10 for 10% Off Your Purchase. Find The Nested Fig on Instagram at @TheNestedFig
Look who's on time this week.
Speaker 2:Well, if you'll get in the damn car, you won't be late.
Speaker 1:I'm in here, let's go, I'm driving. Hmm, it's time for another episode of who's driving. Welcome to who's driving.
Speaker 2:I'm Wesley Turner and I'm Steven Merck. We're two best friends and entrepreneurs.
Speaker 1:Who's driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and business. These are the stories we share and topics we discuss this two best friends would on a long road trip along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things homey-part buckle up and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 2:You never know who's driving, or?
Speaker 1:where we're headed. All we know is it's always a fun ride. So I have to ask you a question.
Speaker 2:Sure, I can't wait to hear this one.
Speaker 1:Do you ever watch the Drew Barrymore show? I brought this up.
Speaker 2:Funny Instagram stories funny, you mention it. I just watched a clip last night or this morning. I can't read, it's all the same, drew, yeah so my question is I see clips.
Speaker 1:I've never watched the show like an actual show so it may come off different. But is it just me? Or does it seem really fake, like the way she gets up in people's faces and down on the ground?
Speaker 2:Okay, the first time, and I have watched her show. The first time I watched her show I was like oh my god, I love Drew Barrymore the first time Because I felt she Connected so like she cried on the show. She got down in the floor at the person's Ankle's and held their hand and I was like, oh my gosh, because I, if you know me, I am a touchy-filly Empathetic. I am.
Speaker 1:I'm very empathetic. So I was like oh, I love her but when I see that, I'm like when you but, but that would be a one-off, yeah, if I had a talk show. That is a good moment. That happens once a year. Yeah, like oh, I had a touch.
Speaker 2:Yes, if I had a talk show and that happens and I'm crying on the show. That's once in a five-year thing. Mm-hmm and it's real.
Speaker 1:Well, you get down in the floor right now and cry and hold my shit.
Speaker 2:But I wouldn't get down in the floor for nothing for you, but Then. But here's what turned me off is it's every show? Yeah, and then it doesn't seem genuine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what and that's what from just watching the clips, because I Like, I don't know, obviously don't know her, but I don't. I mean you know the idea of Drew Barrymore. I always thought she was really nice and bubbly and whatever. But then when the clip started popping up in my you know Social media over and over of her in the floor crying and like this Dramatic, some goes over the top Is that every show does that happen, all?
Speaker 2:I mean, I mean, I could deal with it if not once a month. Right, I could say, well, she's just an emotional and and she's had a lot of problems. First of all because I know we're gonna get people calling in Insinuous well, let us know, but she was a child actor, she started very young, so I know there's a lot of trauma that goes with that and I get that right, I am not let us know.
Speaker 1:Do you connect with her? And because I'm sure. Yeah, obviously she's all in the air.
Speaker 2:So some people connect and some people don't, but I would like to know what well, and I did the first time, and then I was, and then it kept happening and I like and maybe it's something.
Speaker 1:If you watch the show regularly you do realize maybe it is truly sincere and that's who she is. And if you watch the show regularly you connect with that and know that that's who, but who she is. But when it's taken out of contact context it's on my social media, clip after clip I'm like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:I don't. Maybe it. I hope it's. If it's real, I don't. Well, I couldn't be friends with her. Should tear my nerves off, cuz I'm too empathetic that you would just be like you know, because you only get a clip. I feel like the same is with Ellen, right? I've always been a huge Ellen DeGeneres fan, mm-hmm, because I love her sense of humor and her personality and I always was like, oh, I want to be her friend. But now you here and I don't know what's true.
Speaker 1:You don't know what's true and what you don't. You don't because I feel like a lot of people who and like and it may be true, I'm not, I'm not saying it's not, I'm not saying it Maybe mean as hell to people, but but also I feel like sometimes bosses get a bad, especially women bosses get a bad rap because if they're Stern or if they're, you know, a true boss, they're a bitch, yeah, whereas a man doesn't get that bad right is bad and it's not fair because, women and your grandmother and they have to.
Speaker 1:And I feel like women have to be extra Balsy or stern or disciplined, because they have to prove themselves unfairly. But they have to prove themselves and then they get the rap of being a bitch.
Speaker 2:Well, and when you look at that, I so agree with that, because I worked with a lot of female owner operators that were Amazing. And then and I don't know if I've ever told you this but the first First operations and training manual that McDonald's had I mean, it's at a museum, of course, but it actually says in there that women are not allowed to be hired. That's crazy, that is insane and and first of all, I completely think that's horrible. But the other funny thing is is what took McDonald's, in my opinion, when, when women really got Involved in operations, mm-hmm, is when it took off. It made it a lot better because women are so attentive to details right, you need the mix you have to have your customers, just men.
Speaker 1:Right, you can't have all of just one or the other.
Speaker 2:So when you look, at the history in the way women have been so discriminated against. Yeah, you have to be tough, just like Martha Stewart's got that rap you know, she's, you know, null for being a bitch. A bitch, which is so unfair, right, because she's, I think, a great, great savvy business woman, right.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm a stigma that comes with it, because well, your grandmother, you're not gonna get run over yeah non.
Speaker 2:A non celebrity example is your grandmother was in business for 50 years. When she went in business, women were not owners. Well, she may have had to be tough.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she did have to be tough.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got to make your own.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she was Going back to Drew Barrymore, though. What kind of the same thing is people? Another thing we need to talk about. But I don't have any friends like this. We've had employees like this. I would not be friends with you. The people who get in your personal space. You know that. Just talk too close to you.
Speaker 2:Oh, they want to get right in your face. In that the worst, and I hate it. They get like right up, why? I like, I'm like, I do not want to see your tonsils back up, but why do people?
Speaker 1:do that. That's kind of like a Drew Barrymore thing. That's what drives me. It makes me secondhand cringe, because if I was in that Situation of her like in the floor at my feet and hold my hand, I would literally want to die in that moment.
Speaker 2:Well, that then, would make me more uncomfortable than that ironically, this morning I read a whole article on communication and body language in communication and what it means. Right, and that is some people's Response to Empathy and that they're really into what you're saying is to get close to get close. Turn their head, get closer and we're gonna need you to back yeah.
Speaker 1:It's their way of saying I'm invested in what you're funny because I've talked at different times, I guess, on social media, instagram or whatever. Like I'm not a hugger.
Speaker 2:I'm, but I am a hugger but I have figured it out.
Speaker 1:I have figured it out I'm not as like, a big hugger, like I'll hug you people I'm close to, but I'm not just gonna like, oh, my god, so nice to meet you and hug you. Naturally that's not me. And it's funny because I've had people who have followed and they have Met us, like at the warehouse sale or in Atlanta at market, and they're like oh, I want to hug you, but I know you don't like hugs. And I'm like no, it's okay. If you ask me for a hug, I'm totally comfortable with it. I've decided like, because people will say like, okay, like we have thick vest, oh, can I have a hug? And I'm like, yeah, and then. But then it's like an invitation.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:It's just when someone walks up to me without any whatever you know I'm a natural hugger.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've always been a hugger, right in McDonald's. I'm surprised I never got hit with a lawsuit Because I'm just a natural. Oh, my mother died. My dog, I'm gonna hug you, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm just a hugger and I mean not unless I know, you know.
Speaker 2:But I can read people that I can hug or not, yeah, and especially men and straight men I can pick up on when it's okay to hug or not. Hug, yeah, but some people can't do that, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:I just don't it. I don't know what it does. The feeling that it gives me is so uncomfortable If someone just walks up and hugs me without, like now one thing that makes it sound so bad.
Speaker 2:It doesn't. It's just you sound so bad.
Speaker 1:It's okay, but it's like but again, I have realized those people who walk up and say, can I give you a hug?
Speaker 1:It's like yes, and then I'm inviting them and it's not awkward to me, but if you just walk up and do it, it's very awkward Internally and I don't make a big deal. And it's not like I don't like it, it's just an internal feeling. You know what I'm saying. It's like I mean I guess I don't like it, but I'm just saying if you did that to me, I'm not gonna think, oh, she invaded my spacer, whatever. It's just a moment of like awkwardness, like I don't know what to do, or something.
Speaker 2:So I'm gonna step on somebody's toes out there, but I'm gonna do your favor.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm and it irritates me. Okay, I'm as queer as a three-dollar bill and Like, and I don't want to get into religion or anything like that, because I respect everybody's religion and you know, I'm a spiritual person. I was raised in church, so it's not about that, right? I don't even know where you're coming from, but it's a thing. Because I'm a hugger. Yeah, there are women that do side hugs, mm-hmm, because I guess there's something about they don't want their breasts touching you. Just don't hug, oh, yeah, just don't. And I'm not trying to get up on your breast, but the side hugs are weird and awkward.
Speaker 1:Oh, I Mean, but it's, I don't know. A side hug is more like to me to be on the other side. A side hug is More like a friendly, like hey, buddy, kind of hug, and a full-on hug is like no, I'm saying a content like no.
Speaker 2:I'm saying these, the women that do that, that's their hug, unless they're hugging their spouse.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, but that's what I'm saying. It's more of a like a open hug.
Speaker 2:I mean we're not gonna have sex. It's not an invite, I'm not interested.
Speaker 1:Hey, well, a full-on hug, I'm good with the side hug.
Speaker 2:I'm. Good with the walk up the side.
Speaker 1:I'm sure, and the heart arm around me, little squeeze, little side hug.
Speaker 2:If you're gonna hug me, hug me. I don't. I don't care about your breast disease.
Speaker 1:Maybe it doesn't have anything to do with that it does it.
Speaker 2:Does you think it does? Because, like, and maybe it doesn't with everybody, maybe it doesn't with everybody, but where I got, maybe where I got turned off on it is the Duggers Watching that show they did side hugs, oh, but that was because they're in, so yeah religion.
Speaker 1:But conservative.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I'm like Good grief. If you're that pent up, you got bigger problems. You can't hug somebody.
Speaker 1:Okay, you don't know what you think. See, I feel like a side hug is a little bit more casual. Where is a full-on hug? Is a little bit more.
Speaker 2:Correct me if I'm wrong. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.
Speaker 1:Yeah, maybe you are. But I feel like see like if you walk up for me, he's not a big hugger and give me a side hug. That doesn't make me feel anything like. That's like a nice gesture.
Speaker 2:Where it's like oh, you really didn't want to hug.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, they probably didn't want to hug you. Maybe you need to read the room.
Speaker 2:No, I'm very good at reading the room. I'm very. That is a talent of mine. Like I do not hug, just hug everybody yeah okay, I have a new.
Speaker 1:We're gonna move on. If you have an opinion on this text, or Call our hotline, or hotline numbers eight, six, four, nine, eight, two, five zero two nine. It's in the show notes.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and maybe there's something I don't know about the side hug and enlighten me. Okay, enlighten, maybe I'm taking it the wrong way.
Speaker 1:Maybe people mean it as more casual.
Speaker 2:But I don't care if you were naked, it's not gonna do it things for me, I just want to get that made up.
Speaker 1:I have a new social media Irritation. You know how. You know we talked about the smear boards. Mm-hmm in how gross that is. That was in a previous episode. I hope they don't come back this holiday season.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm smear board with that, just Crap all of it. Well, now people are doing the butter candle. Have you seen this butter candle? Yeah, and they are doing it so wrong and it looks so dumb and like cuz. We went to I don't know if you remember we went to a restaurant and they did a butter candle the we love it here in Greenville. Oh my gosh urban ren urban ren.
Speaker 1:They did a butter candle where it was lit and it, but the butter was melting. Well, these people on Instagram are doing like a candle in like a they're making melting butter, put a, I guess, a food safe cotton wick or whatever in it. They're doing it like in some kind of cup, like a paper cup or plastic cup, and then they peel that off and they light it and then they try to dip it in this like butter candle that ain't even melted, mm-hmm, whatever. Like you need to do it like in a ramekin or something, have it and then you let it start to melt, mm-hmm, like a candle so it can be.
Speaker 2:It's practical dip in it, because I noticed one, I've noticed several doing that. Well, when it does melt, it's just gonna run all over the Table or anything.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's my new holiday.
Speaker 2:You know, people see, people see something and then they try to run with it and just make a damn mess.
Speaker 1:I know and she's gonna do all that. You already melted the butter, then you got a mix in some seasonings to it, then you got to put it in a candle with the wit, and it don't even look good the way they're doing it Mm-hmm, and it's separated and it's wrong.
Speaker 2:It's just wrong.
Speaker 1:So recently on my Instagram, I was doing a late-night snack on Instagram and I brought Uh-huh. Well, I was eating, okay. Well, first of all, we can discuss this. I was eating sliced apples with caramel drizzled on them, mm-hmm, and I was talking about how, as a kid, it was such a disappointment to get a whole caramel apple.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Hey, you know, as a kid to me they look so good you can never eat the damn things and I was always afraid I was gonna break off a tooth, or yeah, yeah I guess as an adult you would cut it up and eat it.
Speaker 1:But it's still a mess, and the worst ones were the red ones, the Candy-coated. You can't even bite into them. I would never buy that for my kid, I know so I was somehow. What a disappointment that was. But that led me to talking about bobbing for apples and how Things have changed and like nowadays like surely no one bobs for apples, but how gross it was.
Speaker 2:Every, every fall at my church we had a thing and we or they bobbed for apples. I stood there with a grimace on my face, thinking I'm not doing that, even as a kid. You didn't do it. No, I was worse as a kid, ocd wise. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:That's too funny. So that led me I mean, think about it, though, like nowadays you would never bob for apples so that led me to putting up a box on Instagram and saying what are some things that we don't do anymore. You know, like, what are some things that we don't do? So I have some funny ones here. First of all, one thing that we don't do anymore that someone said actually a few people submitted this riding a bike behind the truck fogging for mosquitoes.
Speaker 1:Back in the day, you know, the mosquito truck came through town even in our small town, so people used to ride their bikes behind it because of the fog and think all those pesticides.
Speaker 2:I've never seen a person do that Something's wrong with you if you do that. If my kid was doing that, I would take them in for some kind of evaluation.
Speaker 1:But not back in the day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, back in the day you would have. Yeah, that would be like me going out and playing as my grandparents were using seven dust in the garden.
Speaker 1:No, Okay, that's weird to me. All right, we would never nowadays ride in the back of a truck down the country, roads or a highway.
Speaker 2:Yes, we did that all of the time we would drive. We would go from six mile all the way to Anderson in the back of a truck.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And we rode on the wheel. What is it called the, where the wheel is cut out, you know so higher.
Speaker 1:That was the chair. Yeah, the tire. Well, the tire well is where we, I would say in the back of the truck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean you hit a bump. You could have gone just tumbling.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and now I think it's illegal to ride in the back of a truck, but back in the day, no yeah, this one was riding an open truck bed on the freeway. No one thought of a thing about it. There was another one that said look, here's another one that said we used to run after the mosquito spray trucks going down the alley Like. I got that several times.
Speaker 2:I guess they liked the fog.
Speaker 1:That's weird. Another thing that they said we would never do or use nowadays is those hand towels and public restrooms that just rotated around.
Speaker 2:Oh God, okay, we have to talk about that for a minute. Let's talk about it. What the hell did that do? That was so gross to me. I can remember as a kid thinking I don't wanna touch that. Yeah, and I usually wouldn't. I would wipe it on my pants before I would. I mean, was it supposed to clean it as it rolled through?
Speaker 1:Maybe, yeah, I don't know. I mean, I've only run into those a few times.
Speaker 2:Most of them looked like somebody had wiped on them. Oh great, I mean, they were so nasty.
Speaker 1:That's funny. Yeah, I've only seen those a few times. To me they were outdated. When I saw them, like nasty, I wanna say, but maybe they were supposed to be clean. I mean, maybe it was supposed to clean it.
Speaker 2:Clean it, see it. I don't know, it's gross. So gross.
Speaker 1:This one said a group of us would pile into the back of a pickup with blankets and a cooler of drinks and ride Friday night. So just drinking in the back of the truck and riding around.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah, and mudding too, but don't people still go mudding.
Speaker 1:People still go mudding in the country, for sure. Lay along the back seat windshield and take a nap in the car. Yes, yeah, up in the old cars they have that deep window.
Speaker 2:Yes, like the big impalas and the big osmobiles you could fit A kid could lay all the way down.
Speaker 1:I did, yeah, riding in the. It's a wonder anybody made it.
Speaker 2:And I can remember in my mom. I can remember this vividly because in the early 70s so it would have been like 75, my mom smoked. You know, everybody smoked. Oh yeah, back in the day and I would stand behind her right shoulder in the seat.
Speaker 1:In the seat. I stood because I could rest my you were navigating, I'm sure I could rest my head on her shoulder, mm-hmm, and I can remember.
Speaker 2:So I was a toddler, but I can remember the smoke bothering me, mm-hmm, and I can remember saying please quit smoking, I don't want anything to happen to you.
Speaker 1:Oh, and she quit smoking. Yeah, well, that's good and it still killed her, but that's crazy. Crazy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, but I remember that and in one time we got, I told you, I told you this, like we got hit by a school bus one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you told them no seat belts we didn't I mean, they didn't even have them back in the day, really.
Speaker 2:Our car did, but I remember I was driving. I was driving when the seat belt law got passed and it wrecked me Like you had to have the seat belt. Yeah it drove me crazy. I thought I'm never gonna get used to this. It was like wearing a helmet.
Speaker 1:Now, if you get in a car, I mean for me, I'm sure people still don't wear their seat belt, I'm sure I do. I do too, and if I don't, I feel very naked, I feel very insecure, like unsecure, I guess would be the like it feels, just like I'm just gonna fall around, or something.
Speaker 2:I tend to not wear my seat belt in the back seat, which is probably not good because you can, you know, in a crash that can hurt you, right? I tend to not wear it back there because they're never as accessible and comfortable. Yeah, I feel like when are you ever in the back seat, though? Just a few times, and, like with the Uber, I don't ever wear a seat belt cause I'm like who all these people have touched it, mm well, another thing that someone said that we don't do anymore is fishbowl drinks.
Speaker 1:One giant margarita in the center of the table with six straws in it oh, my God, that's disgusting.
Speaker 2:I never did that.
Speaker 1:Stephen never did that. I never did that, but I have seen them, I know that.
Speaker 2:I've seen that that seems like back in the day Applebee's had something the fishbowl kind Did they Disgusting?
Speaker 1:I know, but it's funny when you get, is it we got older or got smarter or things changed Like I would never? I mean, I didn't do that then cause. I wasn't gonna drink after you.
Speaker 2:I'm the same with Fondue. Yeah, I'm not dipping around in Like I won't share sauces like on a table.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I will with you, yeah, and we'll with Dylan.
Speaker 1:But we're really good, like if we get, say, cheese sticks or something and there's a sauce like honey, mustard or marinara. Like we get our own, we get our own, but if we have to share it, we're both very. Like we only dip once, or we'll bite one in and flip it around and dip the other.
Speaker 2:Exactly, I'm a respectful dipper. Yeah, me too, but I won't do it with just anyone else. But I also, I wouldn't do it with anyone else either.
Speaker 1:That is true. Another thing that was mentioned, and I never did this I mean this was like a TV thing for me. I mean I didn't know people really did. It was pin the tail on the donkey, but like I never played that, so I can't really.
Speaker 2:I think I did that at church for a church party one time. I thought it was stupid.
Speaker 1:But I don't know why we wouldn't do that anymore. Because of the pen. Did you pin people?
Speaker 2:I guess it's just so outdated, like now everything's so much more exciting. I'm guessing, yeah, I don't know either.
Speaker 1:That one came up a few times, though as well. Oh, another one that came up, but I don't know what this means. It says drop a closed pen in a jar at a birthday party.
Speaker 2:What is that? Oh, I remember that you would. I vaguely remember this.
Speaker 1:I think in a church party. Oh, I was like is this something risque? Is this like dropping your keys? No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2:No trash, I think you hold, I think you set the jar in the floor and it's like a mason jar or whatever and you hold a closed pen up like this Uh-huh, and you try to Drop it into it Drop it in, I think, if I remember correctly. I didn't know what that one really meant, so I was like we're gonna have to discuss that I think that's what it was.
Speaker 2:I vaguely remember that and we did you know something that I don't remember doing. You don't ever hear anymore or musical chairs. We used to do that at church and you won a cake.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but those are things that you could still do. I was asking you things that you wouldn't do anymore because we kind of got smarter, like riding in the back window bobbing for apples.
Speaker 2:right seatbelt those fondant restaurants are still out, still there, even after COVID.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you're going to those with your family or something, but you're not dipping over and over. I mean you don't dip. You don't take a bite and dip it in there. They're bite size. So you cook them, dip it in the cheese and you eat it. You're not like-.
Speaker 2:It seems a big mess. It's not a community pie, it just seems like a big mess.
Speaker 1:The last one that I got, which is a newer one after COVID, and I thought I mean I guess I haven't experienced this or been anywhere since then and I knew during COVID we didn't do this, but the one that I got the most of saying that we don't do anymore is Water fountains oh no, I didn't get that one. But is blowing out birthday candles on a cake? Get your like blowing, you know, slobber, I guess, across the top of the cake.
Speaker 1:And it was, wasn't it but I would have thought we would have converted back to that.
Speaker 2:Wasn't it there was an invention that somebody had a cover that oh yeah, they had the cover and the candles fit in Into the cover and you could blow them out.
Speaker 1:but I mean, what's the I mean whatever. But no, I don't I think if I had a kid I would buy them like a cupcake and put the candle in that. I mean if I was having a community party.
Speaker 2:You know family like my kid and me Well, I still don't know they're spit, but I've noticed people aren't using water fountains.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, water fountains are, I guess. But then I'm like, are those, I don't know? But I feel like everybody has their water bottles now, so they just refill.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I think it was a COVID thing that really pushed that off. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I guess that is, oh, that big old Stanley Cup carrying it around.
Speaker 2:I know, listen, I know 98% of you listening or have your Stanley Cup right now and I have my hydrate bottle and I wish the hell it had a handle on it.
Speaker 1:You should get a Stanley Cup, but it doesn't light up. So yours tracks how much water you drink and I need accountability. Right, yours does track. I get the water thing Like I carry one too, but it's just funny when it's all one trans. Stephen loves to put ice in his and shake it around and drive me crazy. It's so funny. Okay, I have another topic that I want to bring up. I we need to talk about something gay, some gay things. Oh my gosh, I know.
Speaker 2:Nothing too graphic.
Speaker 1:It's not graphic, it's not political, it's funny, okay, because, hey, do you whatever? But there are gay things that happen. You're looking at me like, where are we going with this that straight people don't have to deal with and they don't have a clue, right, for instance, the awkward has this ever had? It's had to happen to you? I just don't. We've never talked about this. Or, and I don't know how you handle it, because I feel like certain people would handle it different ways.
Speaker 1:But say, maybe you're in line at the grocery store, someone looks down like Daniel and I are married, so I have a ring on. You have a ring on because you're engaged, whatever. And they're like oh you know, you're just having to conversate, what does your wife do? Or whatever. Because they automatically assume because that's the society norm which I get and it's not. I'm not bringing it from the gay like anything. Again, it's the funny part because that's the society norm. But then when you're the gay person, it's like do I correct them? And it makes them feel awkward or do I just go along with it?
Speaker 2:and oh, I would totally correct them and make them feel awkward or I would say I don't have a Y, it's just a ring.
Speaker 2:Why would you? Well, I did have someone recently say oh, you're wearing a ring, so I'm assuming that you and Dylan got married. And I said, no, actually we're engaged. And they said, well, you're wearing a ring. And I said, correct, this is the engagement ring. And I said we're doing another thin band. That will be the wedding ring that matches this band, and they were like, oh, I said, just the way we're doing it Right. And they were like, oh, yeah, but yeah, see, there's a whole thing with straight people that don't Because it's the norm.
Speaker 1:They just say, and it's really awkward if you're in, like like I've been in the gym sauna before and I'm the one who will not talk, I sit over there in the corner and I'm like I just want to have a spa moment. But there's those people that are always there's, that bubbly one that just comes in and you know talking, and then they'll be like oh, what are you and your wife doing, or something? They just assume that. And then I'm like now this gets real awkward. You know what I'm saying. And then, though, it gets even more awkward when you see the same person, and then it goes too far and you never corrected that you have a husband and not a wife. So that's the thing. Like I'm the type I'm going to. Unless it is going to get more awkward immediately, I'm not going to correct you, I'll just be like oh, da, da, da, da, da, da, or whatever. But in that funny, because I was thinking about that like, straight people don't have to deal with that.
Speaker 2:Mm-mm at all, no. And the other thing is, and if you're listening, don't do this, don't, just don't. And I know you don't understand and you don't, you can't help it, but you know you have that, you, we all have the. Either you are the neighborhood gay or you have the neighborhood gay.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:It's always think because they're the popular people with the beautiful home. And I love it when people say or assume well, you know so and so you know you're in the same city and you know so.
Speaker 1:And so they're gay, they're gay, you know, you know them, yes, yes, and I'm like who? Straight people think straight people think all gay people know each other. It's like I guess we assume all celebrities know each other and they don't and they're like oh, we never met All gay people don't know each other and all gay people don't want to know each other. Right, it's just like everybody else. You don't know the straight person that lives five miles across town.
Speaker 2:Mm-mm.
Speaker 1:Like why would you know them? It's funny they will do that. People will come into the store and strike up a conversation and then, like you said, they'll just uh, you know so and so they're gay. Yeah, and.
Speaker 2:I'm like no, no, no, no. I mean, I'm going to when the next person that says that I want to say oh, you know so, and so they're in the nominate, they're in the nominate. What is it called? The dominatrix? Dominatrix, aren't you in the dominatrix? They are. Or oh, you know so-and-so, they're swingers too. When they be like we're not swingers, but it doesn't have to be anything like that.
Speaker 1:I'm just I'm going to say you know so-and-so, she's a Karen like you. It is very funny. The other funny thing that's happened to me a few times from and this comes from like straight women or whatever is, and they don't mean anything by it. And all of this, no one means anything by it. It's just funny, the things you think about that the other side doesn't think about, or how it feels, or me, you know anything like that. But someone and I've had this happen, like I said, a few times, like you know, I never thought about it. Y'all are gay, so like y'all have to do your own grocery shopping and you have to wash your clothes and y'all have to clean the house, and I'm like, yes, we're adults.
Speaker 1:Now I will tell you one thing, but it's because they think, you know, and probably in their marriage, they're stereotypical roles. The woman is, she's used to well doing everything, but she's used to washing the clothes, doing the laundry, changing the sheets, that sort of thing. And it just dawned on them like, oh well, how does that work for you? And I'm like well-.
Speaker 2:Now I will tell you, here is a stereotypical thing that take note of if you and most of it, most everybody's got gay friends or gay family, now you know we're all busted up out of the closet, and if not, where are your gay friends? Where your people. So here's one thing for gay men, not necessarily lesbians, because they can be petite ladies, even gay men are men-sized people. So we like a king-size bed, like I feel like some married couples, like straight people will do a queen-size bed because see, there's-.
Speaker 1:Oh, like a petite woman.
Speaker 2:You can be a petite woman, a normal-sized man. You're good to go.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But with gay men. I don't even know any gay men that do not have a king-size bed. King-size bed. Yeah Huh.
Speaker 1:I've never thought about that.
Speaker 2:I just was thinking about it when you were going to bring this stuff up. But I mean-.
Speaker 1:You're right, I guess men are bigger. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying, yeah, so like I'm a realtor, if I were showing a gay couple a house and I was like I'm in a small bedroom and there's no king-size bed in there, I would be like y'all, we're going to have to knock on a wall or something Wall down, Because you know we're, you know normal-sized men, Right, but that's true, I never thought about the king-size bed. That's a practical thing, that is a practical thing.
Speaker 1:But who doesn't have a king-size bed at this there's a lot of people that don't have king-size bed. Yes, I just assume everyone had a king-size bed. You need to get a king-size bed Some people that don't like a king-size bed.
Speaker 2:I've had straight friends not any gay say they do not want a king-size bed because they like sleeping right next to their spouse.
Speaker 1:Well, you can still snuggle up, you can still sleep close.
Speaker 2:You can still move to the other side of the bed.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Just sleep closer. But you know, maybe in the middle of the night your back hurts, you get hot or you get hot. You roll two times over to the other side of the bed.
Speaker 2:That doesn't mean you have to have a wall between the two of you, but I think that's I feel like with gay men that's more of a norm. You're going to have a king-size bed.
Speaker 1:I mean, I would think even straight couples would want a king-size bed, because sometimes you do not want to be that close.
Speaker 2:But give us feedback on that, do you Because I personally know people that want a queen-size bed.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, I mean, I was like wow, I mean I can understand from this point. It may-a king-size bed may not be practical for everyone's room size.
Speaker 2:I can too, and if you're-.
Speaker 1:But is it-let us know if you just don't want one because you're against the king-size bed.
Speaker 2:Well, dylan and I went to the beach with his parents and, um what? This was several years ago and it was an unexpected-we were not planning to go, mm-hmm, we had a couple of free days and they were at the beach. And you know, it's a big house, it's like five bedrooms. But you know, they had-Dylan's grandmother was there, his sister was there, she had friends there, yada, yada, yada. So the only bedroom that was left was a full bed. Oh Lord, oh my God, that's and Dylan's tiny. He is Dylan's tiny, he's pocket-sized, but-and I'm not big. I'm-i'm pretty slim, but oh my God, I thought I am going to have to throw him in the floor. That's too funny.
Speaker 2:And it was fine. For one night it was fine. It really wasn't a big deal, because you know, dylan's mom was like I'm sorry, this is all in. I was like it's fine, for one night it was fine. But I was like-and I was thinking in my head it's totally fine.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Wet and fine. Well, you know, in my bedroom at our house in Florida has a queen-size bed and we've adjusted to that.
Speaker 1:But I-and I-and you know I take the king-size.
Speaker 2:Well, I prefer that room because it's darker.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you do.
Speaker 2:And I like the TV. I just-that room works for me. Yeah, I just like it. I don't know why the other room is, you know, in the morning, it's Right, hello, wake up.
Speaker 1:So back to the gay things, and since we're gay, we don't have the stereotypical roles you know, like when I'm saying like I just said how women have been like oh, you got to-I just thought about y'all have to go shop for your own groceries and that sort of thing. So do you and Dylan have-we've never talked about this, do y'all have-because I feel like we-you, naturally, when you live with someone, end up having kind of certain roles. What is y'alls like? Do one of you do the laundry more than the other?
Speaker 2:We share that. I like to wash the laundry because I honestly do it correctly. I like it sorted. You know, I just like to do it. Yeah, I wash it and put it in the dryer and then Dylan folds it and puts it away.
Speaker 1:Okay, what about grocery shopping? Well, dylan-surely Dylan does that because he's the manager of the grocery store. Well, he does that, and y'all eat like birds at home.
Speaker 2:And I hate it. Yeah, you know, we have to go for my godmother grocery shopping, so we do some of ours when we do hers. That's just every three weeks so but Dylan pretty much does all that and I've kind of pushed dry cleaners off from Dylan. Dylan does a lot of errands for me. I do all like all banking and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:Dylan we kind of have similar roles. Daniel, here he does-but okay, here's the difference. Daniel is a natural doer and checklist type person. So he does, like, all the dishwashing, loading and unloading. He does all the laundry. We share that. Yeah, he does all the laundry and he does what else? Do you do Grocery shopping? We kind of both do grocery shopping, but he loves he does it mostly. Yeah, he loves the grocery shop. If I'm going grocery shopping is for specific things, I'm going to make this certain thing or whatever. But here is the difference that I think even every couple needs to pick up on.
Speaker 1:If-so Daniel does the let's say, laundry, for example. That's just his natural. He's always kind of done it. He likes he'll put on the TV and he'll put it away, and that's his thing. I hate like stuff like that makes me anxious, honestly. But here's the thing If he doesn't do it because he's busy, I would never complain. I would never say, oh, you're behind on the laundry, like he has said before, like, oh, I'm sorry, your laundry's gotten backed up and I'm like, don't be sorry. Like I'm an adult, I can do the laundry. If it's bothering me, I will do the laundry.
Speaker 2:And I will say this, dylan, if I'm working a lot, like we are working a lot from now until December, 20th 15th.
Speaker 1:20th 15th 20th.
Speaker 2:Um. So Dylan will do things like go ahead and wash the laundry and dry it and fold it and do all that. So he's very helpful when I'm overwhelmed and I try to be the same.
Speaker 1:Right, which I think is key in a relationship, is you know when your person is feeling overwhelmed or have other things going on. You can't look at them like they're falling behind on their job. You can pick up the slack or whatever. I mean I might tease him and say you're falling on your job, but I'm not Right serious, but hopefully you also have a relationship where you're, you know, like equally doing things, like you can't not say anything if everything is falling on you and they're like over there you know doing nothing.
Speaker 1:Well, I know I could see some lazy people getting you know.
Speaker 2:Well, my last relationship, you know that lasted 12 years. For the most part, 10 years too long, no, it was good for mostly good. But now he did work a lot, but hell, I did too. I mean, I was in McDonald's, right, I did everything and you do get a little reasonable.
Speaker 2:Like I did the yard and you know how I kept my yard. My yard was immaculate and it was exhausting and I didn't have a yard person and I didn't have a housekeeper. I was the housekeeper and the landscaper and the dishwasher and the laundry and I did it all. And he cause he was out of town a lot too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I had to. So that can be a little. That's when it gets a little, mm. Mm mm.
Speaker 2:You can get a little bitchy Right when you're doing like when he would come in from out of town and just drop his shit right in the middle of the floor after I, mm, mm, mm, mm. You better walk lotally around here, sister.
Speaker 1:And so there is that balance. But I just try, like in our relationship, because Daniel does do all those things, if he gets behind because he's busy, or and he does the same thing If I'm busy, you know I have things that I do as well, and then he'll pick up the slide.
Speaker 2:Well, you shouldn't hit him when he gets the hot shit.
Speaker 1:I would never hit him at all. Oh my gosh, that's so funny. Speaking of working seven days a week, though, and gay things, we got to go glitter up the retail store.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not feeling it. Yeah, you better be.
Speaker 1:It is the holiday kickoff season, so last weekend we reset the home store, our home store here in Greenville, south Carolina, for the holiday season and here in about we're supposed to be there in 20 minutes. Yeah, I suppose. Yeah, we're going to the garden store and we're going to reset it. Help reset it. We have fabulous employees at both locations but the garden store. Our very season now. Yeah, so we're just going to go in and put our little touches on it. Just change something to Balsam Arale or something.
Speaker 2:No, our store manager there is amazing. If you live in Greenville, you probably know Jennifer and she's thebombcom yeah so that's what we're headed out to do.
Speaker 1:So I think we're at our final stop. Remember to check out. Speaking of holiday and everyday decor, remember to check out our online store, the Nested Fig. You can find it down in the show notes the nestedfigcom. We also host live sales and live decorating events. We've been doing that, I've been decorating in my home, You've been decorating at yours, and we've been doing that live. It's fun. And you can see all of that inside the nested fig app. If you don't have our app yet, just search the nested fig in your app store or again tap the show notes and you can get the direct link right there.
Speaker 2:You can watch us screw it up. You can watch us and then fix it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you can watch us do it live, decorating and join our live sales and have a lot of fun. But if you don't want to join us for a live maybe you've had too much of us just shop the app in the website and get yourself some great holiday decor, great gift items. I mean, I would probably get tired of us at some point. I'm kind of tired of you.
Speaker 2:so I've been tired of you for years, but we're kind of stuck here, so it works out okay. We have some amazing Christmas stuff this year, like of I was amazed. This is my favorite.
Speaker 1:I was looking through, though, at a lot of stuff that's already sold out. We're just getting going, but we still got stuff coming in too, yes, so that was a question that I was asked during our last live sale.
Speaker 2:Are you still getting stuff in? Yes, and some amazing things. So we're gonna have new things for the next several weeks to still introduce.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's a lot of fun. Let's head on out of here and we'll see you next week. See you guys. Bye.