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Girl get in here. Is that you smelling good?
Speaker 2:I am. I took a shower. That's good. I'm not on that. No shower kick.
Speaker 1:Thank goodness, it's time for another episode of who's Driving. Welcome to who's Driving. I'm Wesley Turner.
Speaker 2:And I'm Stephen Merck. We're two best friends and entrepreneurs.
Speaker 1:Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and businesses.
Speaker 2:These are the stories we share and topics we discuss, as two best friends would on a long road trip.
Speaker 1:Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things home and garden.
Speaker 2:Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You never know who's driving or where we're headed.
Speaker 1:All we know is it's always a fun ride. Speaking of shower, we've really got a stir going with our topic, talking about showering and not showering. If you missed it, a few episodes.
Speaker 2:I don't know when that was. I feel like most of our listeners are regular showers.
Speaker 1:Yes, most of them messaging in said I have to shower every day. Yeah, but you know there's a lot who didn't message in because they're like, ooh, they're talking about me, y'all's crack stinking, Y'all's stinking oh gross. I just I'm still. I'm a little taken back back, flabbergasted about people who don't shower regularly. It's funny the comments we were getting and, uh, like someone said, I'm uh, 60 something years old, I've showered every day. My skin is just fine. I'm gonna keep showering every day, exactly.
Speaker 2:No, no, I'm like it's true, I just can't imagine not showering every day.
Speaker 1:Exactly and I'm like it's true, I just can't imagine not showering every day. If you missed it, a couple of episodes ago we talked about, I saw on social media someone had posted asking how often do you shower? And the comments threw me off because some people were like oh, twice a week, three times a week, I'm like no, I got to shower every day.
Speaker 2:And different cultures do, and I'm not going to call out any here because, honestly, I'm like no, I got to shower every day and different cultures do. And I'm not going to call out any here because, honestly, I'm so dumb to it. I would probably not do it correctly. But I remember when I was in Clemson I had professors from other countries and it was part of their culture. They didn't wear deodorant or cologne.
Speaker 1:But they stank.
Speaker 2:Well, they bathed. They did bathe, Okay, but they would like, because when I went to Clemson it was back in 1957. But, it was a long time ago, a long time ago and unfortunately we had back then we did have situations where we had some buildings that didn't have air.
Speaker 1:Oh, I mean, they were old as hell.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and one of my calculus professors.
Speaker 1:In fact, when you went to college, if they didn't have air it was fine, sit your ass in there Sit your ass down now.
Speaker 2:They would be oh, we're online class. Yeah, whatever, no, we. I got to sit in there and smell it was in summer school and smell my professor's uh sweat like she would sweat so much it it would be all the way down her side under her armpits.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But I will say this she smelled sweaty, but she wasn't rank. I knew she bathed. Yeah, she was clean. She was clean. It was not her culture. Right, and listen, if it's not your culture, that is fine. As long as you're clean, you're not going to be stinking up too much, yeah, but if you're just not going to bathe, you don't need to take a plane, train or any other shared transportation, transportation thing, it's true, it is true.
Speaker 1:So, talking about college and going to college, because a lot of people, I guess it's that time. Well, they've gone back now, but I still remember talking about and this isn't directed in, I don't know, however, someone could take it, I'm just telling you the facts. So I still remember when we went to college, orientation and we had, you know, my parents were there or whatever, and those people, the college I went to, mississippi State, got up this is something that still irritates me to this day and they were talking about. You know, you have foreign professors, which is fine, nothing, whatever. But they were like, don't let your child tell you that they can't understand their professor because of the accent or whatever.
Speaker 2:Oh, I had some. I couldn't understand a damn word.
Speaker 1:Me too. They were like don't let your kids, Our professors. They can speak and the accent is not an issue. I have been out of college for I don't know how many years now Long damn time Damn 20 years 21 years this December. I could not understand what they were saying.
Speaker 2:I couldn't either, and I put that on my little survey Right Every time. And listen, listen, we're not being racist.
Speaker 1:No, I'm not saying that I'm not being political, none of that. I learned from them because I learned and guess what.
Speaker 2:Most of them are smarter than us, right. That's why they're here teaching us Exactly but Right. But if you're going to teach here and you're going to teach Southern people especially, we struggle with English. Okay, as you've heard, yes, but damn I would sit there and I wouldn't know. Well, I've told you.
Speaker 1:But then I was in that orientation and I was like, oh my gosh, I can't tell my parents, I can't understand this, because they've already told them.
Speaker 2:Don't let that be an excuse. So I used it as an excuse all the time and the sad thing is is I realized there's not a thing I can do about it, right, and I've got to make it through and I've shared with you because we still say this word to this day. So I had. My degree is finance with a concentration in real estate. That sounds fancy. I can tell you my degree is in economics.
Speaker 1:That's what it really is.
Speaker 2:And I had this economics professor. I do not even know what country he was from if he held a gun to my head, but the way way he, I had to figure out the way he was speaking so I could take notes. It was like a different language and he would give us different economic scenarios, right, he would say the problem is the problem. And I thought problem, problem, problem, problem, so problem, problem. We still say that, problem, problem.
Speaker 1:So problem, problem.
Speaker 2:We still say that the problem is.
Speaker 1:The problem is, you got me to saying that.
Speaker 2:You know, and it was so frustrating.
Speaker 1:The other one I got from you is fuck us, we got to fuck us, we got to fuck us.
Speaker 2:We're not saying a bad word. We're saying F-U-C, you got to focus. No, saying F-U-C you got to focus. No, f-o-c-u-s, focus, focus. So I worked with one of my McDonald's owner-operator colleagues. He's a great guy, hilarious guy, and he is from Puerto Rico and moved here from Puerto Rico and I love him to death Great guy and he would in a meeting, in a meeting, very serious meeting, he would say okay, guys, we got the fuckers. So, needless to say, every time he said that Stephen sat there and giggled yeah.
Speaker 1:I would like to throw in that this isn't, I guess you could say, necessarily like a foreigner thing, because I know people who can't understand what I say Like.
Speaker 2:I've met people and they're like what are you saying Me? And you couldn't go be professors in Connecticut?
Speaker 1:or New York. That's what I'm saying. Or, if you listen to some Boston people, I'm like what?
Speaker 2:The cop the ca, the pa the ca. I'm like what are they saying? Well, and here's my thing.
Speaker 1:So it's an accent thing more than a foreign thing. It's a dialect, yeah.
Speaker 2:But damn, I mean, when you can't handle your given English language and you throw that in there. We are a hot mess, we are.
Speaker 1:I know, like I would sit there and say Well, we talked about it. You know, in my generation I was a little older, I mean I can't remember thinking but maybe middle school, when. So I was never really involved in this, and it could have been when it reached my small town, I don't know but hooked on phonics became a thing and it was like sounded out, sounded out to spell and whatever. Well, when you learn, rert is the word, you can't rert, rert, rert. How am I going to spell that? Well, hell, rert isn't even a word, it's ruined. So hooked on phonics doesn't work when you learn the word completely wrong.
Speaker 1:It's like Chester drawers, you know.
Speaker 2:Instead of chance, it's change. Yeah Well, change is not a word, it's chance.
Speaker 1:And it's chest of drawers, not Chester drawers.
Speaker 2:But do you know, I have seen on Facebook Marketplace oh, it's all over there.
Speaker 1:People still send that to me Because, you know, one day I did a whole story on it years ago about Chester drawers and I still get DMs and I find it so funny.
Speaker 2:I didn't know that I remember one time my mom and I were talking. My mother was a lot of good things, but she was a grammar not so good. Can you imagine if I hadn't had the mother that I had? I don't even think you would be able to understand. No you would almost sound like inbred or something. I drove my mother, poor thing, insane with my speech.
Speaker 1:In so many ways.
Speaker 2:In so many ways insane with my in so many ways, in so many ways, but she was such a nazi about saying everything correctly and she was telling me one time she said when I was younger people used to say, instead of chest of drawers, they called them chester drawers.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I said really yeah, she was like yes, and so don't ever. So that was always like one thing. And my grand, her mother, said change.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Instead of chance Uh-huh Drove my mother crazy, right? She would say. And instead of saying Tylenol yeah, she said Tylenol.
Speaker 1:You still say that Tylenol saying tylenol. Yeah, she said tylenol, you still say that tylenol.
Speaker 2:You're like I gotta take some tylenol. Well, I didn't. I said that to drive my mother crazy. My mother would say oh that is too funny yeah, I mean, I'm so thankful I had my mother in like I don't know if it was this way at mississippi state, but at clemson back in the day you had to take this grammar they had like Clemson had this grammar exam.
Speaker 2:You couldn't get out of English 101 unless you passed it. Well, that's a lie, because I never passed it when I graduated. But they gave up on my ass. When I tell you they were like just get him out of here. So I would take it home to my mother and we would sit in the dining room and she would get— this was in college, in college. And she would get so mad and frustrated she would bang on the table and say I do not understand.
Speaker 2:I can't understand this, but to this day, like who, who's, who's, whom, whom.
Speaker 1:I know. Just be glad I get some of the letters right, it's true, I just try to get what I can out of my mouth. It's so funny, I mean, it's just, it's terrible. Oh gosh, so you have a game on the table. I bought a again you bought a game and brought it. I don't know anything it's about. It's this box sitting here of cards. Well, and you said I got something for us and so okay okay, I am not a game person, right a gay person game oh, game let's not get this all twisted here, but I saw this online and I got it.
Speaker 2:And I got it because it's not a stupid game with a dice or little cards or anything weird. It's a. It's four decks of cards and the. The game is called Delve Deck and it says conversation starters for every situation, from getting to know new friends to bonding with your closest confidants. So it is different levels. It starts out like, I guess, just little simple icebreaker, simple things, and then the questions get deeper as you go.
Speaker 1:Oh, so are we just going to pull out cards and ask each other yeah, okay, so let's do it.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm interested. Where do you want your cards?
Speaker 1:Since I don't know the game, let's start with a couple of the simple ones. Okay, let's just see how that goes. Oh Lord, we'll be talking about the damn Grand Canyon, or something before we know it.
Speaker 2:Who knows, I don't know. Okay, so I got to pick your card you pick mine.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me just pick. There's a whole deck here. They're stuck together, okay.
Speaker 2:They're very substantial cards, I might add.
Speaker 1:Oh well, this is kind of dumb, but it's fine. Well, you want it?
Speaker 2:Wait, oh, I got two. You want it to do this?
Speaker 1:one. Okay, so you want me to read it first. Yeah, which fictional character would be the most fun to have as a friend? Is this a cartoon character or fictional?
Speaker 2:Fictional anything, I guess I would say probably Superman.
Speaker 1:I was thinking can it be a fictional character? Could be someone from a show too, right?
Speaker 2:Anything Like a character? Yeah, anything.
Speaker 1:Mine would be Karen from Will and Grace.
Speaker 2:Oh God, I love Karen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you're kind of like her honestly.
Speaker 2:Oh honey In the male version. Oh honey, yeah, Milk, milk, lemonade around the corner fudges, it's one of my favorite, okay I miss it so much oh my goodness.
Speaker 1:Okay, so you said superman. I guess that's fine, he could do something, you yeah?
Speaker 2:Okay, what holiday?
Speaker 1:does not exist, but should oh holiday that does not exist, but should Surviving the holidays, you know like, I think we need like a week-long holiday in January when you've survived the holidays.
Speaker 2:That you recoup. Well, we've created that for ourselves, but you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's kind of like you know the Chinese New Year's they take like a month off.
Speaker 2:I'm all about it.
Speaker 1:Or that, like they shut down and everything. So I think we need that kind of holiday. I'm all about it. Okay, I see you're switching decks.
Speaker 2:We're going to the next level, so we're going deeper and each deck is like a deck of cards. Yeah, but don't you think this would be fun? For people especially if it's people you don't. I think it would work great for icebreakers.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it can kind of tell you what someone you know personality we should probably do this in.
Speaker 2:you've got more than one. We should do this to interview people, Are you?
Speaker 1:choosing. I want both of these, so I get two. I got two cards and you can have two. These are actually good conversation starters here. Okay, what does everyone but you seem to love? And that could be like an Instagram thing that's going around.
Speaker 2:Something that everybody seems to love, that I don't. That's going around. Something that everybody seems to love, that I don't.
Speaker 1:There's something popular or it could be an everyday thing. You don't like sushi.
Speaker 2:I don't like sushi. You want to go for sushi? Hell, no, I want to go with something that's getting scalded. Good, I get cooked sushi and you have to sit there and smell fish. No, no, like olives Like I want to like them.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, and they're so bougie.
Speaker 2:I mean you go to see these great olive bars and all this stuff. I don't like them.
Speaker 1:Okay, I used to love olives. As a kid I used to drink the olive juice, but I think your taste buds changed. Now they taste like pennies to me. They taste very metal.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'll go with another. Okay, you didn't really answer.
Speaker 1:I feel like there should have been something better. That it's like what does everyone love that you don't seem to love, you know, like a big trend or something. A big trend.
Speaker 2:That you're just like ugh. No Well, there's a lot Smear boards, smear boards.
Speaker 1:Although those haven't taken off as much. People are smarter than that, yeah they're sick of those booger boards. Read me your option.
Speaker 2:Oh, what did you think was cool when you were a kid that you cringe at now?
Speaker 1:Cool as a kid that I cringe at now.
Speaker 2:Like as a little kid, I guess.
Speaker 1:Um.
Speaker 2:God, what did I think? I know what I would say. What would you say Smoking?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, Because, like in the 70s, you thought that was cool.
Speaker 2:Because everyone did it. Yeah, thank God I didn't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm glad you didn't either. God, nothing comes to mind off of that one Drinking. I know there's something.
Speaker 2:Is it stuff like that? Drinking of that one?
Speaker 1:Drinking. I know there's something, is it stuff?
Speaker 2:like that Drinking. Did you think that was cool?
Speaker 1:No, you know, I was a good kid.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I mean.
Speaker 1:I didn't think that was cool, like you, dumbass. I don't know. I mean mine would have been had to have been something you know like a trend, like done that or whatever.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, you flopped on that one, I know. Okay, what is my next one?
Speaker 1:What do you and I feel like I don't know if anything will come to your mind on this one, but we've talked about this regular because you're good at making fun of people but what do you wish people would stop bragging about? I feel like we talked about something recently where you were like, oh my gosh, have you noticed?
Speaker 1:everybody is like talking about this or whatever Bragging about oh, everyone remember you had to have your rescue dog and you were like have you noticed everyone is bragging about I rescued my dog I rescued, which is a good thing, it is a good thing.
Speaker 2:But you just can't say I got a new dog.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a rescue.
Speaker 2:It was a rescue.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was a rescue and they were wearing shirts and stickers and everything, yeah, I mean, it's like oh, I heard you have a new little boy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was an adoption.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's the same Right. Just say I got a new dog. I got a new dog fun of, because that's what you'll call me. You'll call me sometimes. We'll just be driving down the road and I feel like that's a common thing. You'll be like have you noticed? Everyone is blah, blah, blah and then we talk about it for 10, 10 minutes and well, it's just so irritating.
Speaker 2:And then like and I live in the city, so there's a lot more irritations, right, and another big irritant that I have and it shouldn't be, it's fine, it's y'all, if you're listening and you do it, it's fine, it's great. Just irritates me. Like in my building you can rent a garden plot.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:And my dad came over. I mean it's like a four by six or four by eight something Garden spot and my dad was like my dad came over to do some work, hang a door or something, and he said what is that? What's going on there? And I said oh, that's their gardens, that's their garden plots.
Speaker 1:And my daddy said isn't that cute that's funny, but okay, okay in everyone's defense, not that, like you said, it's fine. Not everyone grew up I know with property and had acres of gardens or an acre garden that your grandparents did and shared with the whole family I get it and if you still want to. You can grow in a small plot enough to have stuff for yourself.
Speaker 2:You can, you totally can, but what makes me giggle though?
Speaker 1:is that they're growing for the whole community.
Speaker 2:Honey, they are serious, they are dull, yeah, are they are dull? Yeah, I mean they, they have got oh my goodness, they work out there and it's like oh, we've done something, you know, you can tell they've got their right shoes, they've got their baskets. They've got in their hats and everything. I'm like damn, yeah, I mean that's all.
Speaker 2:Every time I'm getting in my car and I see that I just go well, damn, yeah, I mean, I just you know, when we were on vacation a few weeks ago, we went to going back to you not liking sushi.
Speaker 1:We went to a really good sushi place in Destin and all they gave us was chopsticks. I was still trying to use these damn chopsticks. I would have left, I know. And Daniel posted a video I think I shared it of me just still trying to use these. I've gotten better. I even the other night, you know Janet, who works for us at the garden store, gave us really nice chopsticks.
Speaker 1:And I have mine. And so the other night I was trying to watch videos and learn how to do it. My fingers just, I don't know. It's got to be a mental thing. I'm going to have to go to Janet and say put my fingers where they're supposed to be, Because it looks effortless in mine. I feel like I'm gripping for my life trying to get these chopsticks to work. But anyway, Chopstick Betty showed up. That's all. People were messaging me on Instagram. It was hilarious.
Speaker 2:Betty's there.
Speaker 1:Chopstick Betty Anyway.
Speaker 2:Okay, what scares people, but shouldn't what scares people, but shouldn't?
Speaker 1:I almost went into this like it was. I'm like is this a riddle here? No, you're just saying what do I think scares people? That shouldn't Flying People get scared of flying. Yeah, that irritates me, you shouldn't that's you know, that's stupid. It's very, very safe when you look at statistics.
Speaker 2:But I'm scared.
Speaker 1:You're probably more likely to choke on food than die in an airplane.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, you know I choke all the time.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God.
Speaker 2:And I'm terrified of snakes as you know. Yeah, and I downloaded a guy on Instagram and that's all he does is catch snakes, show snakes on Instagram and he tells about the snakes. So it helps you get a little more, I feel like, because before I was like, and then I was like, okay, and I download it and I watch it and I've learned and even the poisonous most of them kind of don't bother you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're not going to chase you down. I mean, it's one thing if you step on it.
Speaker 2:Well, that's what I'm scared of. I'm not going to poke at one.
Speaker 1:Okay, where in the last five years have you been where you might step on a snake? Hawaii.
Speaker 2:But I don't think there's snakes in.
Speaker 1:Hawaii, not like that. No, you haven't been anywhere.
Speaker 2:We did a hike, we hiked in.
Speaker 1:Hawaii.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I'm just saying they didn't really have snakes, but like I used to walk our property in Six Mile Acres and acres and acres and go through the creek Get water out of the spring. Yeah, I never saw one snake.
Speaker 1:I know you don't see them, that like we've lived here eight years and I've seen maybe like three and I always see them when I did was they would get in the chicken coop because it'd be a black snake getting eggs or something like that.
Speaker 2:Daniel did see a copperhead the other day. He it mowed over it.
Speaker 1:Oh good, because that's the third most poisonous snake in the united states, but um, we really don't see that many even that like that's the first time we've seen one of those here we have cats and stuff and they tend to take care of them, but you know well, I still don't.
Speaker 2:All right, we're stepping up and they tend to take care of them. But you know Well, I still don't All right, we're stepping up. Are they?
Speaker 1:supposed to get harder or more in depth, or what? In depth, oh, in depth, let's see Deeper. Deeper. I want to go over here. I feel like.
Speaker 2:I don't know what they are.
Speaker 1:He's spanning these cards out like pick this one.
Speaker 2:I haven't gone through these.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, let's see, you want me to go. What do you wish was more socially acceptable? More socially acceptable? Gosh, that's a lot, I know I wish I mean I can think of things that I wish weren't socially acceptable. Gosh, that's a lot, I know I wish I mean I can think of things that I wish weren't socially acceptable.
Speaker 2:I just wish it were more socially acceptable to just have an opinion these days. That's true because I feel like everyone gets offended, offended.
Speaker 1:yes, that is true, I agree with you on that one, because we've gotten to this place where opinions used to be conversation starters and you could agree or disagree or discuss the opinion and now it's like your opinion. It's like if you say your opinion, they think that is the rule.
Speaker 2:Or you hate them.
Speaker 1:And you have to debunk it and they take it personal whoever they are, if they disagree.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I think that's a really bad slippery slope.
Speaker 1:That's a thing that needs to be worked on social across the country is it's okay to have different opinions and it's okay to agree, it's okay to disagree. It's okay to agree to disagree or discuss it, but you don't have to discuss it with anger or emotion or get into it, or just people nowadays will simply not like someone because of this one opinion, of something that maybe not even matter in the daily life, but because they don't think the way they do. That is a little.
Speaker 2:And I think, I think it comes up a lot more during an election year because, you know, that's why I just do not discuss Right, because I have, I don't have one blanket opinion or anything like that, right, but now I mean I would never and this is sad, I would never wear a shirt, a cap, a bumper sticker or anything with anybody that I might even consider voting for.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Because you're going to end up arguing with people, right, because nobody can. You can't have a difference of opinion, right, that is.
Speaker 1:About everything. That is something that needs to be worked on. And yes, it's about everything, not just political things.
Speaker 2:No, but it's that. That's the social. You know the social stuff that goes with it. You just can't even have an opinion anymore. When we were in Florida.
Speaker 1:I went and got a massage and the person masseur is that what you call it the massage person masseur walked in and when I get a massage, don't talk to me, I am sorry that you have to stand there and deal with that all day long.
Speaker 1:But I do. First of all, I don't like small chat anyway, especially something like that situation where I'm probably never going to talk to you again. Actually, I've gone to this person a couple of times when we're down there, but anyway, the first thing out of his mouth was something political and I was like any, and it wasn't just a statement, because that's fine, because I could be like uh-huh, it was like what do you think about something political happening, or whatever. And I was just like, oh, I don't know. I didn't answer it because I was like I don't want to. First of all, I never discuss politics Like. That is not my thing.
Speaker 2:I don't care to discuss it. Did they start discussing politics?
Speaker 1:Yes, right off the bat, but I just said I don't know anything about that. I guess he got the message and he didn't. He changed the subject or whatever. Oh gosh, I was like, if I have to lay here while you discuss politics, I am going to get up off this massage table and leave and walk.
Speaker 2:I came here to escape that. Right, yeah, that's why, and that's why, yeah, I don't even want to. Don't talk about that with me, yeah.
Speaker 1:I don't even want to talk about it. I don't even want, I wouldn't have even wanted to talk about it if it was something I wanted to talk about, like in that situation.
Speaker 2:No, and I wouldn't want to talk about them if we agreed on everything. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I just didn't want to talk about it, but I don't ever want to talk about it, because that is so not my thing.
Speaker 2:It's a slippery slope.
Speaker 1:I get a lot of messages on Instagram like followers that will send me their posts, their political posts or whatever.
Speaker 2:I don't know any part of it.
Speaker 1:I open it. I don't like it. I don't do nothing. I close it when I see that I'm like I'm not responding. I don't care, because you, let me tell you, save your little fingers, because you are sending it to the wrong person. Like I don't care to discuss politics at all, I'm like I will Just leave it alone, yeah. I will never discuss politics with anybody.
Speaker 2:It's a slippery slope. Talking about that and religion so funny you bring that up.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, what's the next part?
Speaker 2:I got a message from a community person, a resident in the community, because I'm on the board and you know there's a community person, a resident in the community because I'm on the board. And you know, there's a community bulletin board and people put different things. They have Bible studies, they have different whatever, and I'm fine with it. But you know, some people just can't even leave that alone.
Speaker 1:Are they offended by what is posted on there that?
Speaker 2:they're being invited to yes, I'm like we shouldn't allow. We. I took this down like, if it doesn't, that's my thing. Can you have an opinion if it don't? Go to it if it's not your thing, just keep moving, honey. Yeah, I mean, I don't go to any of that crap.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:I don't even half of it I think is ridiculous. Yeah, and I might go to the Bible study or something they were having, but I don't like most of the people, so you're not going to go to that yeah. I don't think they're good examples. So you know, I can keep my ass at home, that's funny, but I mean, I don't expect everybody to not put something up there.
Speaker 1:It's just amazing to me.
Speaker 2:Nowadays. That's just a good example, and I don't even know what it was. I don't even know, I don't even want to know, I don't know who put it up.
Speaker 1:But what I think on the outside, because I'm not like that with opinions I can honestly say you can have your opinion, you can tell it to me to my face, and I will agree, disagree. I am not going to not like you because of your opinion. And I forgot what I was about to say about.
Speaker 2:that was but you don't mind other people having.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like none of that bothers me, like I don't mind other people having. Yeah, like none of that bothers me, like I don't mind you having an opinion. I will still be your friend, I will still whatever, you can have your opinion, I can have my opinion and I have an opinion.
Speaker 2:I have an opinion about everything, but I don't always voice it. Yeah, I mean I. I might think you're Lulu, right?
Speaker 1:You are. I had another point there. It's going to tie it into, but it totally went out of my head.
Speaker 2:So yeah, I mean.
Speaker 1:I look at people all the time and think you are Well no, what I was going to say is what blows me away is how upset people will let it make their day, they will let it ruin their day that they have had this discussion with someone else and they didn't agree with him. Like you are not using my energy, I am not wasting my energy on you and your opinion. If I disagree with it, I will just move on and be like that's their opinion.
Speaker 1:And I might think, oh, they're crazy or whatever, or whatever or whatever, or just giggle and move on. Yeah, I'm still going to be your friend, I'll still talk to you. I won't even really judge you or anything. But that's the way it should be Right. But these people get upset Like upset ruins their day. Not going to talk to this person anymore, can't hang out with them, like it just becomes you know I'm like that is crazy. Use your energy in other ways good ways and laugh about your differences.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, dylan and I had drinks with a neighbor a few nights ago and we are we're good friends, but the four of us have grossly different opinions on some things.
Speaker 1:I mean we are Different ends of the spectrum.
Speaker 2:Oh, on different planets. But that's okay, it is okay. But you know what?
Speaker 1:We can tease each other every now and then and not be offended.
Speaker 2:No, give each other a little wink and we laugh and go on and we're still friends. That's the way it should be.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we definitely need to get back to more of that. I think. The social media. That's one of the negatives with the social media it is. And the spread of it. I don't know.
Speaker 2:And you can't get away from it.
Speaker 1:You can't yeah, you can't escape it. But anyway, what's my question what's your most irrational preference or opinion Irrational preference? I don't even know what that means.
Speaker 2:Irrational. I know what that means Something you prefer. You know it's irrational, but that's the way you want it.
Speaker 1:Oh, irrational preference or opinion? I don't know. I'm a pretty rational person, am I? Do you think of anything for me?
Speaker 2:no, I think some for me. You know what I, what comes to my mind, that I've never said it yeah but it's. It's irrational, I think, because I'm so nice to people like I'm a very nice person If I go into a restaurant wherever I go if I'm not nice.
Speaker 2:You have really tried hard to piss me off, because I go in and I'm very nice, I joke with people, I try to treat people well and sometimes I guess in my mind I think I should have my way about a situation. Or, or, you know, if I'm making a service appointment because I'm really nice, I should get that appointment that I want.
Speaker 1:And that's irrational, that is irrational.
Speaker 2:Huh, that's irrational and entitled. Yes, but that probably goes back to being the only child, though it kind of goes back to that stinginess of or you know mine is mine, but but maybe it's because I do that like if you're really really nice to me and you go out of your way, I won't bend over backwards for you.
Speaker 1:So maybe I think other people are gonna do that, yeah, and so when they don't? You perceive it as like? What did I do to them, or why?
Speaker 2:and I don't because I am rational, right, and I'm like, oh, it's just the way you know right, it's the way it is, but in my mind I'm like nice yeah, what was the question again? What is? What's your most irrational preference or opinion? God?
Speaker 1:God, I don't know.
Speaker 2:That's a good question. I don't know Where's the card. I gave you my card back.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so yeah, I don't know. Do you have an irrational opinion or preference? Text us on our hotline. Because, that's a good question, Like what is something that you're?
Speaker 2:like you know, is irrational.
Speaker 1:Our hotline is 864-982-5029.
Speaker 2:That is a good one, that kind of.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's the only thing I feel like this game is good and we should call like listeners and ask them these random questions. We should, I think it would be fun Just call them up and be like what you know, it's been a while since we've just randomly called people. We need to call people and ask them. Okay, now we're into the deep, deep these are the deep.
Speaker 1:Okay, this is the deep, deep. This is a good one for you. I could not have picked a better card. I could not have picked a better card for you, oh Lord, okay, are you ready for this?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:What song must be played at?
Speaker 2:your funeral. Oh gosh, that's hard for me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, another one bites the dust.
Speaker 2:No, probably Tuesday's Gone by Lynyrd Skynyrd Okay.
Speaker 1:I'll have to refer back to this.
Speaker 2:Hopefully many years from now. That's a hard one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know, I don't have any preferences. You're not a music person either, but any preferences about my funeral.
Speaker 2:I don't either, just close me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you have always said I don't want to be open, and I don't want I don't want people gawking at me look how good he looks dead.
Speaker 2:That's how he looks I can't stand don't have me open, okay. Well, this is a good one. Okay, if you could go back and talk some sense into your teenage self, what would you say?
Speaker 1:Huh, what is some sense? Okay, again, I was a very level-headed kind of teenager. So was I, so I don't know if there was anything. I'm trying to think of situations.
Speaker 2:Again.
Speaker 1:I'm very sensible and I'm very rational, so I'm trying to think what I would have gone back like when I maybe overreacted to something. Huh.
Speaker 2:I think if I could go back and talk to my teenage self, I would say be more confident, have more fun and worry less.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's all good, but that's not. What was the question?
Speaker 2:If you could go back and talk some sense into your teenage self what would you say?
Speaker 1:Okay. So I guess those I was thinking maybe sense like about a specific situation. Like hey, I need to talk some sense into you Like no, but just in general. I would definitely say it's going to be okay, be more confident, although I got that in my older years, but not as a teenager.
Speaker 2:Maybe for you be true to yourself.
Speaker 1:I felt so not confident like teenage years but everyone does into like college. But after that I was like I got this Move out the way. Bitches, I don't know. You know, like here I am. I learned not to let other people's opinions and stuff really affect me. I really tried hard for that and maybe that was part of being a gay thing and just putting up walls of like would you have talked and would you have came out of the closet sooner? Would I have.
Speaker 2:Is that something you would have told yourself? I wouldn't. I think everything worked for me the way it was supposed to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, see everything, I don't have any regrets and I think everything was the way it was supposed to be. And I mean, I came out, I had graduated college, See that's not teenage. Yeah, when I came out is what I'm saying. I'm just saying I don't know if I would have told myself to do it any sooner, because I think there was a lot of figuring out who you are growing up before that.
Speaker 2:I think I would have said three things like be more confident, yeah. Have more fun and worry less yeah, because I was not not confident, which is people always say that's so opposite of me yeah, but I put up a good confidence thing.
Speaker 1:You still worry about the damnedest things.
Speaker 2:I'm like steven, you gotta stop worrying I do you gotta stop worrying. I do you're a worrier I'm a worrier about in general, in general, yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean even little things, not like, just little things.
Speaker 2:Stop worrying.
Speaker 1:It's going to be fine, it's good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, anything, you know, I just have to have something to worry about.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you've gotten better at having a little more fun in your older. I've helped you with that.
Speaker 2:That you have and you know, getting older. You know because every year that we grow older is one year less, and I think it's like, oh shit, I need to enjoy, well, the buckets of giving a shit is getting a little empty. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:You have less to give less care.
Speaker 2:My giving shits have really worn down low.
Speaker 1:Listen, gosh. I mean, we can go through that thing forever.
Speaker 2:It's great. I mean that's great, I think.
Speaker 1:But let's talk about. I feel like fall is in the air. It is, I feel like we're having a little false fall right now. You know we're still, but we're just had Labor Day, so Labor Day to me is the unofficial official beginning to fall. Labor Day is time to you know, get the pumpkin spice out. Pumpkin spice lattes are at Starbucks pumpkin spice everything so we need to talk about a little fall and I feel like we need to head off.
Speaker 2:I have a question. I just thought of it.
Speaker 1:I got to interrupt. You Go for it.
Speaker 2:Speaking of fall, I'm very allergic to ragweed. Are you still taking your Singulair every day?
Speaker 1:I am and I currently need to call my stepdad because I need a new prescription, because I think I have three pills left.
Speaker 2:I have not missed one day in it in 30 days, no side effects. I haven't had side effects and the first day was a little weird but it's all gotten better yeah, and I have dr murk told you yeah, well, I have singular, that was a random question in the middle of the. Well, I just thought about it because I'm like it, because I haven't been taking mine, and I'm like, oh, it's getting fall, I need to start taking mine.
Speaker 1:Yeah Well, speaking of fall, the thing that I feel like we need to have is our annual announcement. It's time to bring up, because you're going to start seeing it within the next two weeks. Pumpkin care, pumpkins, pumpkins. Do not wash your pumpkins in the sink, in the bathtub. Do not wash your pumpkins.
Speaker 2:They don't look cool piled in it. Yeah, don't post your picture on.
Speaker 1:Instagram of your sink piled full of pumpkins and you giving them a damn bubble bath. Stop the insanity. Okay, so we're going to talk about it one more time. Pumpkins rot from being wet. You want to keep your pumpkin as dry as possible. So all those people on Instagram and social media piling in their pumpkins, washing them, giving them a bath, floating them in the water that is going to cause your pumpkins to rot. Don't do it. Do not, let me see you do it.
Speaker 2:We need to start a board of people. You know what I did when I was a kid. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. You might tell me. I don't think it's bad.
Speaker 1:I tell me I don't think it's bad. Um, I would wash my pumpkin off with just a moist. You can do that like paper towel.
Speaker 1:You can even use like a all-purpose kitchen spray or clorox spray and, you know, spray it on a paper towel and clorox actually isn't bad because that's going to get rid of some bacteria and you can wipe it off if it's dirty and you need to, but soaking it in the tub or the sink or a bucket of water, those stems are still porous and absorb water right into the center of that pumpkin.
Speaker 2:It starts to rot.
Speaker 1:And it starts the rotting process.
Speaker 2:Immediately, so don't do it. I use Weston oil to shine them.
Speaker 1:You can shine them up. Yes, some people will shine them with that or Vaseline and stuff like that can help because it can seal it up. I mean the thing the most important thing keep a pumpkin dry. Second most important thing is don't puncture it in any way, because when you puncture the skin then that opens up. You know an avenue for bacteria in it to start to rot. So if you oil it or you know, do something like that, you can even shellac it or spray it with a clear coat. That kind of seals it up. But yeah, but like Clorox wipes or just spray your Clorox kitchen cleaner on there and you can wipe them down and that's how you can clean them, but don't soak them in the water.
Speaker 2:I have not seen any of the idiots posting their pumpkin bath shit on Instagram.
Speaker 1:Well, it's a little early, that's why I wanted to head it off.
Speaker 2:But you know, there's those influencers out there, because we know who they are and they will be posting giving my pumpkins a bath.
Speaker 1:And I'm like who does all that work anyway? The second thing, leading into fall that I thought was a good little tip in for the going into the fall season because you know you're going to start seeing all the moms at your garden center and at your box stores and everyone loves a good mom. So I thought we should talk about a few good tips on selecting moms or the idea behind moms. I think I still have highlighted stories from when we had our garden shop on selecting the right moms. No telling what I look like and whatever. You know. I'm not going to go back and look at it, but if you want to, you can go back, but I used to do this at our garden shop every year on Instagram. Talk about selecting the right moms and having the right idea behind moms, because moms need to be thought about.
Speaker 1:You know the big pretty moms that you get at your garden shop or box store that are in full bloom. Those are decorative plants. You need to think about those the same way you think about a poinsettia You're going to use it for the season and you're going to toss it. So that's the first thing that you need to do Now. You can plant them in the ground and it depends. Moms have been bred so many different ways nowadays to give you those full blooms, tight blooms. You know all of this thing. So, depending on the variety, a lot of them really aren't that hardy. They won't come back year after year. Some of them will, so you can plant them in the ground if you want to try to save them from year to year. You're never going to have that same look as it being a full rounded mom, like you bought it at the garden shop. I hate on planting. I know Stephen hates planting, but I think the right thing is going into buying your moms, for success is to know this is a temporary plant that I'm decorating with and so when you're starting to see them because you'll see them now we've hit Labor Day you want to think about when do I really want this plant to really shine. You know, am I having a party next weekend? If you are, get that baby in full bloom. If you're wanting it to be later in the fall season when it blooms, then you want to buy one now that is in full, tight buds, not showing really any color. Because when you go and you see the mom at the garden shop and you see that one, this is a good example to teach yourself. Go over and look at that one mom that doesn't have any color on it yet it's sitting there with little buds, or maybe it's just starting to show a little color. Go look at that plant. When you see all of those buds covering that plant, that is the only flowers you're going to get this season on that month. So those flowers, that's all you're going to get. It doesn't continue to flower. So then go look at the mum that already has a lot of color on it, or maybe it's full in color. You will see that's all the flowers you're going to get on that mum.
Speaker 1:So you want to buy your mums that you're decorating with. At what stage do you need them at? So if you're wanting one to last the longest, throughout the whole fall season, then buy that one that doesn't have color on it, that has the tight buds, because you're going to get to watch the whole process of it. The buds are going to form, they're going to open up and then they're going to bloom. And when a mom is in full bloom, like right when it reaches its peak of full bloom, it's probably only going to last you after that two weeks. You might get three depending on where you are in the country. Here in the south, once a mom hits full bloom in the fall, it's usually about two weeks because we still stay pretty warm. Now if you're up north where you start cooling off a lot, you might get a little longer out of it when it blooms. So keep that in mind when you're going to buy your moms.
Speaker 1:Again, if you have a party coming up and you're like I need these to fill in on my porch and patio and I want my containers to look good for this party, then buy accordingly. You know, if your party's on Saturday, you're going to want to buy the one that's in full bloom because you want. You know you want it already ready because it's going to take time to bloom out. If you buy the one with no color, if your blooms, you know, or your parties. Middle of october and this is the first of september, you're going to want the one that doesn't have any color right now, because it's going to bloom out and, generally speaking, generally, when you can leave them in their pot right and just drop them in right, leave them in their pot and just drop them in.
Speaker 2:Leave them in their pot. They're very fragile.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's the next thing. The moms are very fragile. A lot of times they're grown and if you look in there, there's actually a netting in there. Sometimes, if you buy them at box stores, they won't do that because it's an added cost. But if you go to a garden center and get like a really good quality mom, they'll have a netting inside because moms are very brittle. So, like Steven said, it's a seasonal plant anyway, so just drop it down in a different container, don't take it out of its container. The other thing is moms are really thirsty, so you want to make sure you're watering that mom. Probably, you know, every couple of days. There's a funny trend that's been going around on social media the last two years with misleading on moms.
Speaker 2:Oh, dunking them.
Speaker 1:They'll say dunk them in this, dunk them. Oh, dunking them. They'll say dunk them in this, dunk them. I have seen a person say dunk them in this bucket of water and let them soak overnight and then you won't have to water it For like weeks. They said.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:No, Okay. First of all, when you dunk a mom in water, you can do that, but it's no different than watering it with a water hose or a watering can. That soil is only going to absorb so much water. It's like if you take your kitchen sponge that is brand new and you dunk it in your sink of water, that sponge can only hold so much water. If you let that sponge sit there for three days, it's not going to absorb any more water than if you let it sit there an hour. It can only hold so much water. Soil is the same way and the plant's only going to use. So when you dunk that plant in water, that is a good thing that you could do, Maybe if you forgot your mom and it really dried out and you're like I want to get it as wet as I can, then drop it in some water for an hour. After an hour it's not going to absorb any more water.
Speaker 2:But there's also negatives to that, because you can wash away soil Right.
Speaker 1:The soil and the fertilizer can bubble up out of it if you're dunking it that way.
Speaker 2:And then you're creating a lot of heaviness in the blooms and the leaves Right and everything and cause it to break Right.
Speaker 1:The more you handle them, the more likely they are to break. So the whole dunking the mums it's not a good idea. Well, it's really just dumb. Take your watering can, take your water hose, water the mum, that's it.
Speaker 2:And the warmer it is, the more you better water them here in South Carolina. You better water them every day.
Speaker 1:And when you're watering you don't want the mom bloom to droop. If your mom blooms start drooping, it's going to start aborting those blooms a lot quicker, and it can even do that in the bud stage. If you get one that's just budded and not even showing color and you don't water it and all those blooms just completely wilt, they'll end up sometimes just falling off and it won't bloom at all.
Speaker 2:They're going to get rid of them to save the plant.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so you have to water it regularly. Save yourself the trouble, don't go dunking it in water. Get out your water hose, get out your watering can whatever and water the mom. It's not that complicated. One of my biggest irks, I guess, is when I see things related to our industry like the garden industry, the floral industry kind of goes back to taping the base the wrong way is when people show things the wrong way and I feel like it sets up people. And people show things the wrong way and I feel like it sets up people. Either they do it the wrong way and it sets up people for failure or they overcomplicate things Like buy your moms and enjoy them. Buy your pumpkins and enjoy them. You don't have to haul those damn pumpkins in your house, put them in your bathtub. Like to me, if I wasn't in the industry, I'd be like I can't do that with pumpkins.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to do that. And that turns people off from things like that and I'm like don't do that. Why are you overcomplicating the process?
Speaker 2:And here's a good thing If you don't see a farmer doing something like that, it's probably not a good idea. Yeah, it ain't worth it. And another thing with your moms getting back to moms is watering. They do like to be watered often, but don't water them like from the top of the plant. I was going to say that too.
Speaker 1:So yeah, like Stephen's saying, don't water, because we talked about how moms break very easy. So take your watering can or your water hose and water at the pot level, at the soil level. You're putting water on top of the soil, but don't water over the top of the plant. You don't realize how much weight that puts on the plant, especially when they're in full bloom, because all the water like sits on the blooms and that will split your mums in half and they're not like ferns.
Speaker 2:They're not going to absorb any water from the leaves or the blooms.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're not doing them any good by watering. Actually, their blooms will last longer. I know this sounds dumb because it's a plant that's outside, but watering on the blooms will make the blooms fall off quicker because they start to mold.
Speaker 2:Get mold and bacteria yeah and break down quicker.
Speaker 1:So if you can keep it, you know, if it's on your porch where it's not going to get any water, water it underneath the foliage at the soil level and that thing will last a long time is my tip for there. So that's a couple of fall tips headed in and we'll do some more fall tips as we get into the fall season, but I just thought those are the two. I feel like social media things the last few years that just really are false and you don't need to go through the trouble and that's dunking the moms. Don't bother, you're probably going to end up breaking them and just make sure you water them regularly and washing the pumpkins, which you know we've made a fuss about that many times. Do not float your pumpkins in the sink or bathtub.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 1:You ready to pull this baby over? I think we're out of time today.
Speaker 2:Yes, I am.
Speaker 1:Let's pull this baby over. It's time to wrap this up. We got some things to do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I need a pumpkin spice latte.
Speaker 1:Oh, that sounds good you know we are getting a little Starbucks up the street from us.
Speaker 2:I know I cannot believe that that shocks me so much.
Speaker 1:We're out here in the country next to your old McDonald's.
Speaker 2:It's an odd demographic for a Starbucks.
Speaker 1:It really is? I don't know.
Speaker 2:Well, there's a lot of business out here business.
Speaker 1:If you have any um comments, concerns suggestions, opinions, whatever you want, call us and leave us a voicemail or text us. 864-982-5029, that's our hotline number. It's also down in the show notes um, and we'll see you next time you could share your opinions with us.
Speaker 2:We don't get mad, no, we'll discuss them we would love to discuss some opinions.
Speaker 1:If they're good enough, we might call and talk to you about it.
Speaker 2:Thanks guys, bye y'all.