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Who's Driving- Socks, Sales, and Surprises: A Quirky Conversation S3E5
In this light-hearted episode, we look into the humorous experiences both Wesley and Steven have had during live sales, including the surprising rise of foot fetish culture where socks can become a hot commodity. From absurd anecdotes about selling to the ultimate cringeworthy moments discussing bad handshakes, we navigate through topics that perfectly showcase life's quirks.
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Here and it's time to roll the windows down. It's a nice day outside.
Speaker 2:It feels like spring. I know it isn't, but it feels like it.
Speaker 1:Let's go for a ride, baby. It's time for another episode of who's Driving. Welcome to who's Driving. I'm Wesley Turner.
Speaker 2:And I'm Stephen Merck. We're two best friends and entrepreneurs.
Speaker 1:Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and businesses.
Speaker 2:These are the stories we share and topics we discuss, as two best friends would on a long road trip.
Speaker 1:Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things home and garden.
Speaker 2:Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 1:You never know who's driving or where we're headed. All we know is it's always a fun ride. What are we going to talk about this week? You got some good things. I have something. I'm starting it off because I have something I am dying to talk about right off the gate right off the bat out of the gate off the bat Out of the gate, off the bat.
Speaker 1:Jeez, whatever. Anyway, we did live sales this week. Well, this past week we did a bunch Like we always do, whatever. You spring something on me in a live sale and I have been dying to talk about it. So when he mentioned this, I said we cannot talk about this until we're recording the podcast.
Speaker 2:So I haven't heard any of the stories. First of all, I thought you knew.
Speaker 1:Well, I didn't, and that's maybe what's more surprising is the fact that we have been friends for so long now. Yeah, years Since 2009.
Speaker 2:I can't remember everything I mean.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty when something like this comes up.
Speaker 2:It's not that good. It's not. You're going to be disappointed when you hear the whole story.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, we were in a live sale and I'm not sure. Actually, we have two things to talk about from the live sale. I'm not sure how it came up. From the live sale, Feet or something came up, I don't know, but Steven just nonchalantly dropped in the live sale. Oh, did I ever tell you about the time I sold my socks? Dirty socks, is that what it was? Oh my God, dirty socks, is that what it was? Oh my God, am I red? I hope so. So he says the story's not that good. But just that line alone it's funny, is that good?
Speaker 2:So it all, it all makes sense. When I tell you the story, you'll be like, ok, I can see you doing that.
Speaker 1:So I'm taking notes.
Speaker 2:OK, so the story was yes, I had read or heard, I don't remember, people talking about people selling socks, uh huh. Or their underwear yeah you know I was like and I guess I I mean I at the time I had never heard of people having like a foot fetish and all this crazy wacky stuff and listen if you're in defeat.
Speaker 1:You do you I just don't get I don't understand it, that's okay, if that is your thing and you want some of our socks, let us know. Or underwear, I mean, I have a few extra pairs.
Speaker 2:You gotta pay for mine, mine's expensive.
Speaker 1:We're paying for all of it, we gotta get our coin, but you know, reach out we have.
Speaker 2:You know how to get in contact and they can be as soiled as you want.
Speaker 1:Oh God, We've already taken the turn.
Speaker 2:I'm kidding, I'm kidding, not really so. Anyway, I had heard about that and so I looked it up. I can't, for the life of me, I cannot remember where this took place. Maybe, maybe was it. Would it have been Craigslist in 2007, 2008? That?
Speaker 1:sounds about like you.
Speaker 2:So I giggled with another friend of mine and I was like I am going. This is so you, I am going, and I so you, I am going. And I mean, I own freaking McDonald's then. So I had to be very careful, discreet, discreet, but I just wanted to see if this was real or a bunch of BS. So I remember it like it was yesterday. I remember it like it was yesterday. I put these athletic socks on at my desk and snapped pictures.
Speaker 1:With your little chicken legs in there Just my feet yeah, just my knees down.
Speaker 2:Uploaded them, put them on there.
Speaker 1:And they sold and they sold. Do you remember how much you sold them for I? You were a newbie, so you probably do not remember it wasn't.
Speaker 2:It wasn't enough to change my life, but it was enough to go to the trouble yeah, you know, do you think it was like fifty dollars, thirty dollars? Fifty ish, maybe? Yeah, because I wouldn't have fooled with it if it. Do you think it was like $50, $30? $50-ish, maybe? Yeah, because I wouldn't have fooled with it if it hadn't, but it came up. I think it was really a.
Speaker 1:It was truly An experiment, yeah, and then I did.
Speaker 2:What experiment again. I did it but I was like, oh God, that's so Like. After I did it I was like, oh God, that's so weird. And then then the paranoia set in. Like, oh my God, what if someone tracked, tracked it back to me and you know it made it to McDonald's corporate, because let me tell you they're like the mafia you would get a letter. I got letters, okay.
Speaker 2:Not about that, but uh, you know, but they would do things like once an owner put it it might've been on my space or Facebook, I can't remember, but she was an owner and she had on like a string bikini and I put her photo on Facebook.
Speaker 1:In a string bikini, mm-hmm, and they didn't like that.
Speaker 2:She got a phone call.
Speaker 1:Please remove that. I feel like they're a little more lenient these days with things that are going on. Well, obviously you go to?
Speaker 2:I mean, you go to a McDonald's. I'm like this isn't the standard Right. So obviously things have changed, but I would say it probably hasn't changed too much about how you have to act.
Speaker 1:So now there's like isn't it like Feet Finder? Isn't that a website I had?
Speaker 2:never heard of that until the live sale.
Speaker 1:Until the live sale. Let's look, I got my computer in front of me.
Speaker 2:I'm going to look it up and see, because I mean, listen, I don't own McDonald's now and I don't have any reputation to uphold. It's kind of shot all to hell now.
Speaker 1:So I am.
Speaker 2:You don't have a reputation I'm there to sell socks, underwear, whatever. I'm just not putting picture. The thing is to sell more.
Speaker 1:You gotta post more, and I'm not doing that feetfindercom feet find, so your little chicken claws would be great on there.
Speaker 2:You know somebody's into it, I will have you.
Speaker 1:Listen, a lot of people are into it, it's fine. A lot of people, that is a thing. That is a thing, and that's fine.
Speaker 2:I mean that's one of the lesser.
Speaker 1:No, I mean that's no different than finding like a butt attractive or boobs, no, no, no, I'm not listen, I'm not judging it at all.
Speaker 2:I could, I could give, I could give a rat's patootie about it, but it is so not something that appeals to me, that it's like so I'm gonna have you signed up before, but I know a lot of this I know I have. I've had female friends tell me that men have like begged them to give them like a foot massage. I think it's this is more of a. Definitely I think more men are in to feet. I don't. I think women are not so much.
Speaker 1:I don't think so either, but maybe let us know if you are. If you're into feet just let us know. But I feel like women in general are more into I mean, of course they find people attractive and there has to be attractions, but they're less.
Speaker 2:They're more into emotions and the way it should be probably Right.
Speaker 1:And the feel not feet Little classier than you know men, you know so when I click on Feet Finder, I did not Sell feet pics remotely and earn money. Users have spent over $80 million on Feet Finder. That doesn't seem like that much, $80 million.
Speaker 2:They wouldn't pay for my feet. Because, let me tell you, I'll call myself out I was born, I had severe, severe club feet. My feet were like turned all the way behind me so I had to do the whole wear cast, wear braces, you know, like, um, what was his name? Like Forrest Gump, and uh, so my feet were really, really deformed. Yeah, and they're not atrocious now, but I don't feel like they're pretty feet, like I have an extra little bump on the side of my feet. Yeah, see this right here. And then there's extra bone here.
Speaker 1:But maybe that's what people. You never know what someone's going to find attractive. I have pretty good feet, you know, with some pruning and maintenance and polishing.
Speaker 2:You have to get a dremel out to knock those claws down.
Speaker 1:That's true, I could do it, so something y'all need to know about Wesley is his nails grow.
Speaker 2:It is bizarre. It's kind of gross. They do grow. It is bizarre. I would fill a jar up in a week. You would. I've never known any Women would love to have your nails. It's true, it is. Yeah, you have the fastest growing nail. I've never seen anything like it.
Speaker 1:Look, I literally just cut these yesterday and you can already see where they're like yeah, they're talons, they're not talons. If you're watching. They're not talons. Pull those feet out.
Speaker 2:Feet finder, though, though I'm gonna sign you up. No, don't sign me up, I do not need any more crazy in my life.
Speaker 1:So this is how. I don't know how we got on it in the podcast about making money, something about feet finder, I don't know, but anyway. So we got on the topic of the I can't I can, so see you doing that and this.
Speaker 2:Well, here's the thing I'm a skeptic, yeah, I'm a.
Speaker 1:I'm a skeptic but he's very naive. We've talked about this, so I can see you hearing like that's not a thing it was and it's a thing you're like oh my gosh, it was, it was like that's not a thing and it it's a thing.
Speaker 2:You're like, oh my gosh, it was like that's not a thing and it was like it's a thing. I was like, oh my God, let me delete everything off here. It was like one of those things. You're like that's not real and you find out it's real and you're like you run in the other direction, that you run in the other direction. That was me. Yeah, it was funny, though I mean I'm the lead. I mean to know me, you really wouldn't think. I don't think you'd think, oh, he would do that. But I'll do listen. If I'm curious, I will. I'm on, I'm on bust up in there. I'm going to see, you know, and I'm going to ask the questions too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you are so, but you know and there's people evidently I read like into like smelling feet, yeah, the whole thing that you know. Some like just naked feet, some want feet rubbed on them. Smelly feet, lint.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know it's crazy, just to make it normal.
Speaker 2:don't send me pictures of your feet. Don't send me your socks. I don't want any of it. It does nothing for me but gross me out.
Speaker 1:I don't want any of it it does nothing for me but gross me out. So moving on from that, but still on feet, led to topic number two that we brought up in the live sale when we got off on the feet thing and you were talking about not liking feet and that sort of thing. We started talking about weird things like people clipping their toenails, like I saw someone on an airplane one time clipping their toenails.
Speaker 2:They should have been thrown off the plane like midair, like open the door, push them out.
Speaker 1:So we were talking about that, which reminded me the time that Stephen got a rap fired all about feats and I was like we got to tell this on the podcast. Okay, we won't have to name the vendor?
Speaker 2:no, I wouldn't want to name them because it wasn't their fault and they did, it was taken care of.
Speaker 1:But you literally got this woman fired. Steven did, and she did.
Speaker 2:And I've always said you know, nobody gets fired, you fire yourself. That's true, that is true. And this heifer, this nasty heifer and I'm so glad I don't remember her name, but she came across nice, but she wasn't very serious about the brand, and this is a big brand this is a big that we still sell.
Speaker 2:Yes, today and um, her knowledge level was very poor and she just wasn't like most of the people. You know, you drink the kool--Aid when you're working for a company like that, a brand. Well, she hadn't even sipped the Kool-Aid and she came. We were having an event.
Speaker 1:Yes, an open house, An open house.
Speaker 2:It was very, very busy and it was at our last location.
Speaker 2:For a home store we had handicapped parking directly out front location and we had yeah, we had um handicap parking directly out front. Well, don't think she is a rep Didn't sling her car up into the handicap space. So that was the first turnoff, cause I'm like there ain't nothing wrong with you, honey, you could, you could walk a minute. Because I'm like there ain't nothing wrong with you, honey, you could walk a minute. So I was like, okay, that's a big turnoff to me, but it gets better. And so she's there and I'm like why is she even here, like she's doing nothing? So I'm walking around and I look outside, outside, and she is sitting in her car, her windows are down, she has her shoes off and her feet slung out the window, the side window of her car. Yeah, lay down in the car.
Speaker 1:Yeah, taking a break, just relax, just like she's at the car. Yeah, taking a break, just relaxing, just like she's at the beach. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I was like what? In a handicapped space? Yeah, I was so embarrassed for her. Yeah, but I was also like who the hell does this? Right, you know, when you're representing a brand, I'm like Well, and she came in and she didn't like you said.
Speaker 1:She didn't know anything about the like brand.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't want to call it out because people would know what brand it is. But I mean, it was embarrassingly not knowing anything. And then she was laid out there in a handicapped parking space like a like she was drunk she wasn't drunk no, she wasn't drunk, she was just stupid and um.
Speaker 2:So I told her boss. I was like I've never experienced anything like this from anybody that works in this company, but I felt like somebody needed to know. Yeah, and she went bye-bye and I'm assuming you know. If her behavior was that gross, right? Can you imagine everything else she was doing?
Speaker 1:And they probably picked up on it already, but that was the end of her.
Speaker 2:The end. I don't know where she is now she should. I don't even know where she should work.
Speaker 1:Like a gas station.
Speaker 2:Third shift, because she could handle that Maybe she's selling peat picks now, it was so.
Speaker 1:He was so disgusted, I was just so he came in. I was so put out yes, you were just. You can see you just spinning around. Just Just he was over the top.
Speaker 2:Well, first of all, like, okay, I don't have, thank God, I don't have any disabilities and no one in my family really does. However, we could break our leg or have something wrong with us at any time and I just feel like, don't park in that space, right, people need it. Right, and especially when you're fine like if she had hurt her leg and was on crutches but didn't have a sticker I would be like, well, she really does need it.
Speaker 1:What the damn thing wrong.
Speaker 2:And then to do that, to like stick her feet out the window and people, it was right on the sidewalk.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was right in front of our door, this location.
Speaker 2:It was like and I was like and it was busy.
Speaker 1:It was a spring open house, nice day like today, yeah.
Speaker 2:She was just. Her dogs were barking and she was ironing them out Needed to air them out.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. And you know they smelled. You know it. Oh my gosh, that is crazy. So I went through our some text messages from our hotline. Oh gosh, before we get into that, though, today, when you're listening to, the day that this comes out is tuesday and if you happen to listen early enough, we are going to be at the atlanta market doing live sales from one of our on tuesday, on tuesday. So if you happen to listen to this early in the morning, we're going to be live sometime in the afternoon, eastern time, probably one ish, I don't know. We'll probably start around one um eastern time. We're going to be live at the market. So jump in um the nested fig app and watch us live and you can pre-order some fun things. So that's going to be. I know that's only relevant on one day, but I just wanted to throw it in there in case you weren't paying attention and was like oh, let me jump in on that.
Speaker 2:Help us not have to sell feet pics.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly so, and get the Nested Fig app. If you don't have our app yet, it's always down in the show notes. Always put the link down there. Or you can just search the Nested Fig in your app store for your phone, tablet, android, apple. We are there, you can find us. But what was I talking about? Oh, I went through our squirrel yeah, I know Went through our text messages for our hotline, where you can always text us, and pulled out a couple of funny ones. So a few episodes back we were talking about Funny ones. So a few episodes back we were talking about. I think this was stem from when we were talking about the generation taking or bringing their parents to interviews with them, which, I have to say, daniel listened to that episode and he was like that's not really a thing and I was like yes, it is a thing, like he thought we just honed in on some little one-off like thing and I was like no people responded.
Speaker 1:It is truly a thing. And he was like okay.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I was like, yeah, it's really a thing. But anyway, from that someone text in and this is a fun idea, I think you need to do this more than me. I'll pick up some extra slack and you could go do this. They suggested that we need to be substitute teachers for just a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2:Oh hell, I would be in. Do you want me to go to jail? Because the first one that smarted off to me, I would be like I will kill you. I will end you right now.
Speaker 1:I busted out laughing at the thought of that for either of us we would not. I would be late. First of all, first of all, we would not make it to school on time Never did.
Speaker 2:First of all, first of all we would not make it to school on time. Uh, never did. Second of all, I would order, I would. I would order food from doordash. Yeah, I would have something brought in caught starbucks. But you.
Speaker 1:Neither one of us would handle kids like not obeying or smarting off or something like that.
Speaker 2:I would be like you have had zero raising and a lot of kids. I'm going to tell you listen, I don't have children. I know I don't.
Speaker 1:But some of them ain't Well and they were saying and it's also the parents' fault too, but we ain't getting into that, but just the idea of you being in a room full of kids and Stephen loves kids, I love kids, I love kids. Yeah, and you're very good, but in a room full and if they didn't obey he would.
Speaker 2:But I'm going to tell you something my 30 years in McDonald's is like being a teacher in some regards and, fun fact, if most people that become McDonald's owners, that is a second career, obviously because you have to have a little bit of money to do that. So they're second careers. And the number one profession for owners is teachers and high school principals. Oh really, mm-hmm. And I get it now, like at first I was like really yeah, it's kind of odd. At first I was like, really yeah, it's kind of odd.
Speaker 2:But they understand the training and the discipline that you have to have Right and, as goofy as I can be, I am a pretty disciplined type person. So I did as a manager and a director and all the jobs that I had in McDonald's and as an owner it was. We had fun, but it was on a very solid foundation of discipline, Like you're going to do your job and you're going to do your job right to my standards. But we can have fun, but you're going to do it my way and, honestly, I didn't have a lot of issues with people.
Speaker 1:Well, I think everyone in human nature does good with structure, and it's about the structure and when it gets. I mean, that's how we run our stores. Now we expect you to do your job and know your job, and we're going to let you do your job.
Speaker 2:We're not going to babysit you.
Speaker 1:If we're having to babysit you, there's a problem. You're the wrong person, right? So I mean there's always corrections or you have to come in and guide and guidance and that sort of thing. But you set up. It's the same routine, it's structure.
Speaker 2:And that's what you know. And I always felt like in my restaurants, like you know and this was a personal thing All of my employees if you worked in the drive-thru, the front counter, wore button-up shirts and ties and people were like other owners were like how do you do that? And I'm like, well, but it was just the expectation set when they were hired. This is what we're going to do and I got that. Where I got that was, you know, I had been in McDonald's for many, many years in the States and the first time I went to London I toured the McDonald's there, and touring the McDonald's there it opened my eyes. Like there was a sense of pride that I had never seen in working at McDonald's, from the cashiers to the fry cooks.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But they all had on button up shirts and ties and it was just a very prideful professional environment and that was something I took back when I came home. I was like, okay, we can do this. And I feel like that is also what makes Chick-fil-A stand out above McDonald's and every quick service restaurant is that expectation and that professionalism they set.
Speaker 1:Right, and if you set it from the beginning, then it's followed Restaurant by restaurant. Yeah, Exactly. See, the problem you know that happened with McDonald's or is happening is one of the reasons you got out is they went from wanting owners to have a few McDonald's to wanting them to have yeah. So when you are stretched that thin, you can't set that standard.
Speaker 2:And that's where it begins to suffer Exactly, and that was my issue with the brand. Obviously I still bleed ketchup. But you know I don't understand if you can own three to five McDonald's and make seven figures, you know, if you can make one and a half million dollars a year, why, why do you need 20? Yeah, who the hell needs that much money? And it hurts the brand, like I guess I cared more about the brand than I did the money, and you know, it's just not. It's a different direction, it's different leadership.
Speaker 1:So anyway, Speaking of leadership and I have a I'm going down my list here I have an ick that kind of plays into setting the standard and that sort of thing, and if you're a parent, I remember my mom practicing this with me.
Speaker 2:I can't wait to hear this.
Speaker 1:If you're a parent, it's very important. But Daniel and I were talking about this and it's happened. Well, we've been together I guess I don't remember where we were but a few times this year we've been together and we've met someone, specifically men, I know what you're going to talk about.
Speaker 2:This is a big deal.
Speaker 1:This was a big deal, and you go to shake their hand and it's a limp fish and it is a big deal. This was a big deal and you go to shake their hand and it's a limp fish.
Speaker 2:And it's a limp fish that is the biggest my doctor. So when I went from pediatrician to family doctor, so my whole family went there and we all talked about it. This is how our doctors shook our hand.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, that is the grossest. It feels like a dead body hand you're shaking.
Speaker 2:It literally makes me literally want to go, ugh.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then I'm like you puss yeah, that's it In my mind, I'm immediately, and if you've got a problem, shaking hands, do a fist bump.
Speaker 2:It's so much better. Yeah, and I don't love that.
Speaker 1:But do something. Don't If you don't know how to shake a hand, and Daniel's done it and teach your boy, especially that's what I'm saying my mom was like mm-mm, Let me show you how you shake a hand.
Speaker 1:That's what my mom did, too Firm, but you're not going to break their hand. But Daniel, he's like, oh my gosh, like Daniel. He's like, oh my gosh, the like. I've met two people men, not you know whatever and I went to shake their hand and their hand was limp and I felt like I broke it. Like you know, he like squeezed it and it like crunched or something.
Speaker 2:Well, I can always and listen. I judge on that. Okay, you're not supposed to do that, but I do. I judge parenting. Oh wow, I. You're not supposed to do that, but I do. I judge parenting. Oh well, I do. I judge parenting on that, because you drill that into your kid's head.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's like especially like when you go for a job interview Well, it just puts a and it for me as an owner of a business and stuff like that. If I'm meeting another owner or like someone that's going to work for me as an owner of a business and stuff like that, if I'm meeting another owner or someone that's going to work for me like a contractor, anything like that, I feel like you're then like if you don't shake, well then I'm going to dominate you. You're submissive to me. Now I'm going to like you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:well, it's like and I really, I really thought about it. Like dylan's little sister, she's in college now. Yeah, she has her first real boyfriend and he's from out of state and she brought him home to meet all of us. Yeah, we went out to dinner and and immediately, you know, he came up and shook my hand. Was it limp? No, oh, it was like this.
Speaker 1:It was like nice to meet you sir.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I was like I immediately in a positive way judged his parents. I was like he's been raised well, yeah, isn't that?
Speaker 1:crazy. They reared him well. It is so crazy the signal If he had been like what's up? I would have been like, oh, he's a loser, he's lazy.
Speaker 2:He had no raising. That's why, in my mind, right, wrong or indifferent, don't attack me for saying that, oh, attacking me either way.
Speaker 1:But that's how I feel, yeah, I agree, but besides I feel like I do kind of agree with you. I feel like when it's a younger someone college, high school, something like that I do kind of think that way.
Speaker 2:And there's a lot of things I don't judge parents on. So not all behavior I don't immediately judge, like go to the parent, yeah, handshakes, I immediately judge their parent. That's crazy.
Speaker 1:But when it's an older I'm thinking through this as we're talking about it I do agree. If it's like a college, high school younger, I do kind of think that way If it's an older person, but if it's older, then I think you're a puss and you are. Yeah, I'm just like ugh. I mean, it's disgusting Well, the feel of it, especially when it's an older I really don't want anything to do with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, after I'm being honest. It's true, but now I will tell you this I will tell you everyone practiced especially for guys.
Speaker 1:Yeah, women's a little different because they can be dainty, you know you can like.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they should still have a good firm handshake but it's not you don't. I don't judge that as much and that's probably sexist and wrong of me, but I don't yeah, it's, but with guys I'm like you're a puss and um, it's just the way.
Speaker 2:But now I grew up my mother, you know she was great a lot and I hated this as a kid. But etiquette Nazi I mean, and see, I'm very bad and we're on video. You'll notice I'm very bad about slouching Not me At dinner, this is the way I was supposed to sit and if I didn't, I got a tap on the shoulder and a whisper in the ear Sit up, honey, sit up, sit up honey, yeah, straighten up, yeah. And then a lot of times it was just a look and I hated that until I was about 30 years old, yeah. And then I'm like I understand, yeah, and I mean that was what I got the most trouble of in my entire life was etiquette and grammar in my mouth, yeah, grammar in my mouth, yeah.
Speaker 1:You'd be popping off in the mouth. Yeah, but why?
Speaker 2:Why that's stupid, why I got slapped so many times I couldn't count it and I never learned. I mean, it took me why, why? Or say mama, say, say I could. It took me a while, wow. Or say Mama, say I could. Say, say Mama, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:Say that was your OCD, say it was.
Speaker 2:Say Well, and this I'm going to do a little public service announcement while you're, since you bring that up, because I do, I do have OCD, you do, I do have OCD, and I want to explain to everybody listening something about OCD and what people don't understand. Ocd is not obsessing about your windows being clean or your house being clean or things being in order. That's just being an anal person that likes cleanliness and organization. Yeah, OCD is the best way I can describe it is your brain is constantly in a loop.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you cannot move on. You cannot move on. And even if someone answers you, if you're in that loop of obsessing you can't move on and it will drive you. You're driving the individual nuts in their own head and then it's going to drive everybody around you nuts and it affects your mood. You can't concentrate. So I always cringe when I hear people and they don't mean anything by it, but they always say, oh, I'm so OCD, yeah, probably you're not, yeah, and I hope you're not, because it's not a good place to be. Not, and I hope you're not because it's not a good place to be. And when you know somebody that in some people have it really really bad, especially if they're not medicated or haven't found the right medication, it's very, it can be, it can be really be disabling. So it's kind of a.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I can tell that. I mean mean your anal retentive. Is that the word about? You know cleanliness and stuff like that? That's just a structure, that's a personality, personality thing, but your ocd kicks in sometimes.
Speaker 1:It's been a while since you've got on it like I try to control it have like not an episode, but a time that, like you used to more and you would get on something and be like like I think we've talked about it Like are we going to meet Wednesday at three for this? Yes, we are. Then you call me back. Are we going to meet Wednesday? Are we good for Wednesday at three? Yes, stephen, I already told you Now we're going to meet.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes, yes now we're, we're gonna meet. Yes, yes, yeah, yes, so nothing has changed. As a child and I've, I've shared this with you as a child and my poor mother bless her heart, I would drive her crazy. Yeah, and you know, as a parent, I, you, and there wasn't as much known about it. Yeah, I can see. I mean, I would have hit me. Mom, can we go to the mall this weekend? Yes, honey, promise, mom, I want to go to the mall, we're going, we're going. We are going to the mall, right, yes, we're going to go to the mall at 10 am. We are going to the mall, right? Yes, we're going to go to the mall at 10 am.
Speaker 1:We're going to the mall, sweetie, and it can't Just on and on, but the medication is better.
Speaker 2:I will tell you, ann, I have noticed in the past several years and it just really hit me in the past month and I think I probably need to revisit medication Readjust. My new and it's probably to do with age is ailments and health.
Speaker 1:Your new OCD yeah. You told me this the other day You'll stay up now. Yeah, just Googling.
Speaker 2:And all it takes is reading something and this is what people really need to understand about OCD. I can read, like the other night. This is when everything clicked with me. I was like, oh my God, stephen, you're doing it, so I'm trying to be conscious of it. But I read about Bruce Willis and his frontal lobe dementia. Okay, I don't think I have dementia. Hope and pray, I don't.
Speaker 1:You have no signs, let's just go there.
Speaker 2:But then you read, you know. I read, Robin Williams had it. Oh well, that's probably the reason Robin committed suicide. Well, let me read all the symptoms. So I read everything that goes with it. Then I read well, you know what vitamins and minerals work against this, yeah. And then I read you know, and it's just. And then you do it again and again. Oh no, go here, go here, go here. And it's hours, Like you realize. For three hours I went down this rabbit hole and I didn't even realize I'm diagnosing myself and it could be anything, yeah, but it was frontal lobe dementia and I thought, oh my God, I mean, I was exhausted, yeah, and it happens a lot at night. But then I realized what I hadn't been doing. I had not been taking my twine CBD with the melatonin, yeah, so I wasn't falling asleep.
Speaker 1:You weren't cutting off.
Speaker 2:So shutting down, like I took it last night and I shut down, yeah, I rested and I wasn't any of that nonsense. Yeah, and I'm not saying like reading isn't good, it's just saying when you're, when you're obsessive on something. Yes, In a loop, yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness. Well, I have an appointment coming up, so we're going to have to cut this short. We have five minutes.
Speaker 2:Well, we've got to talk about one other thing.
Speaker 1:Okay, I had another thing, but I'll save it for next week, so let's talk about your thing.
Speaker 2:Okay. So a listener messaged me on the toenail or the fingernail thing. Okay, so I'm not going to. I don't want to out this person in any way, because we love some feedback. Yeah, and it wasn't her family member, but it was an in-law. Uh-huh, it wasn't in her family but it was an in-law. It wasn't in her family. But the lady passed away and they went to clean out her freezer. Yeah, and she had saved all of her son's teeth. Well, I'm going to tell you, a lot of moms did my mom saved mine.
Speaker 1:I had a few feedback on that, Like oh, I do have my kids' baby teeth, my mom saved mine and I said I'm going to throw that shit away when she passes.
Speaker 2:She passed, I couldn't throw it away, so I have my teeth.
Speaker 1:What are you going to do with them?
Speaker 2:I just couldn't. I felt like she was watching me. I could not do it. Yes, I have my cute little outfits. I could not do it. Yes, I have my cute little outfits. I have my cast. I have my braces off my leg, I have it all. I don't know why. Anyway, but here was the wackiest thing the lady had kept a dirty diaper.
Speaker 1:What, yes, you're going to wait to the end to drop this down when we got time to talk about it. So someone's in-law had kept a dirty diaper of their kid.
Speaker 2:And where In the freezer with their food? Okay Well, uh, uh, uh, uh, okay, um well. So I got a couple of questions that you probably don't know.
Speaker 1:First of all, why. Why are you doing that? That's the first that. Okay, but we're going to move past that. Was it a number one or number two?
Speaker 2:A number two.
Speaker 1:Okay, so there's that. I just had to know that for myself.
Speaker 2:I assume it was a soil.
Speaker 1:How old was the kid? I mean, like how long had she had this diaper? Would you think Like how long did?
Speaker 2:she have it, I think. Well, I mean, the child was grown and married so decades.
Speaker 1:So this is my main question did your power never go out and you had to clean out your freezer in all that time? I mean our growing up in adulthood never had a power outage where you just had to throw everything away. I mean, oh, I can't process this. What Are you for sure? True this?
Speaker 2:is true. Yes, the lady. She thought it was nuts and she shared it with me and I am so glad because you know there's some that is crazy.
Speaker 1:We're just going to leave you hanging with that one today. We're going to settle in on that.
Speaker 2:But I want to say you will be surprised and listen, my mother did not have dirty diaper, anything gross. But, you know when someone passes away and you're cleaning out a house?
Speaker 1:I mean, I've heard of people saving like the baby teeth or hair, like a snippet of hair.
Speaker 2:And my mom had been in that house 35 years, yeah, but I knew where all my stuff was and I had always said, being the brat I am, I was like I would tell her you can save that crap if you want. I'm throwing that shit away, yeah, and it came down to that day. Even driving there, I was like it's going in the dumpster and I opened it. I was like it's going in the dumpster and I opened it. I was like can't do it, can't do it. She's watching. I was like can't do it. And then I was like I was dressed so cute.
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