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Who's Driving
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Nothing reveals the gap between rural and urban childhoods quite like our latest conversation about the bizarre, sometimes painful, and always character-building experiences of growing up in the country. From fighting territorial roosters to discovering chiggers in uncomfortable places, these formative encounters shaped us in ways that today's iPad-equipped, safety-helmeted children might never understand.
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We're back for another episode of who's Driving, and someone was late.
Speaker 2:I was a little bit, I mean. I just wanted to point that out. Well, I knew you had things going on and my things were going on too.
Speaker 1:Welcome to who's Driving. I'm Wesley Turner and I'm Stephen Merck. We're two best friends and entrepreneurs. Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and businesses.
Speaker 2:These are the stories we share and topics we discuss, as two best friends would on a long road trip.
Speaker 1:Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things home and garden.
Speaker 2:Buckle up and enjoy the ride. You never know who's driving or where we're headed.
Speaker 1:All we know is it's always a fun ride. I haven't seen you all weekend either. You were out just gallivanting around. I was busy.
Speaker 2:I was showing houses.
Speaker 1:Oh, good, good, I wanted to pick up at some point from last week. I have a couple more things from our inbox or hotline that people messaged me about.
Speaker 2:Oh, and I got a message today from one of our favorite customers. Oh, I consider her a friend at this point. But, she texts me to terrorize me with something. What kind of something? Well, it wasn't a nudie or anything Cause that would have terrorized you. She knows that I'm not a big personally, a big bow person. Uh huh, she sent me this pillow.
Speaker 1:Is this something I can put in the? Oh, you need that. I can see that right in your loft. It is so bad I'll have to put it in our members only community. You'll have to send me that. See what?
Speaker 2:Steven does. My response was oh my God, that is disgusting.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, those are a thing. Oh my gosh, bows are a thing. I mean, we went to the Atlanta market last week, since we've done a podcast and we did a live sale From there. We did three, but I meant to point out or maybe I did there were several more bow things along the way. Everything has a damn bow on it and you know what the new thing is. So this will be in mark my word, mark my word. You're going to start seeing it in home decor, just like the bows. But the new things you see over, newer things you see over in the apparel or accessory thing is cherries. Oh oh God, cherries are, I don't know what the cherry trend is.
Speaker 2:Oh God, I didn't have on my headset. I'm sitting here like Can you hear me?
Speaker 1:I feel like I'm driving without a seatbelt you are, and I didn't even notice. Cherries are everywhere in the accessories, keychains on sweatshirts, just cherries, and now it's two cherries. I feel like there has to be some kind of like, some kind of message behind it and I feel like I know it's something naughty and I don't know why, like 20 years ago, it was naughty, it was yeah Okay, because people were doing those big latex cutout cherries on their cars. What Like stickers? Yeah, what did that mean I?
Speaker 1:don't know, but it was something nodding.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I had an employee that had cherries on a car and it said something like luscious.
Speaker 1:Oh's what I think, like, yeah, like, yeah, yeah, stripper. Yeah, there's something behind the chair. Yeah, we got to figure it out though. So, if you know, maybe you have a teenager, because I feel like it's in a younger, you have a teenager. Uh, that's into cherries. Let us know on our hotline hopefully.
Speaker 2:What's the?
Speaker 1:what the new? Maybe they just think it's cute. Eight six. Our hotline number is eight six, four nine. Eight two, five zero two nine. Or if you're in our members only community, scroll down to the bottom. You can leave a comment.
Speaker 2:I'd like to know, like I hope it's something a little more wholesome, because they're everywhere probably not, but watch, they'll be on stuff in home decor probably by july.
Speaker 1:Canisters, canisters.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there are little trays, little trays, I'm not I'm don't say you're not because they're gonna sell and we're no, I will sell them. You will not see them in my home, I mean, but you, you know, you don't see bows either. But I'll sell a bow, that's right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, everyone has their own look, so that's fine.
Speaker 2:And and honestly, I think bows are cute. If you're a teenage girl or little girl or whatever, bows are cute. I think if you, if you come to my home and you saw a bow, it's just going to look stupid, it would.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Especially if anybody knows you. Yeah, it would be like what the hell? Who left that?
Speaker 2:here Are you babysitting now, Like it wouldn't fit.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. So last week we mentioned briefly, you know, someone had recommended that we be substitute teachers.
Speaker 2:Just for two weeks.
Speaker 1:And I got so many people responding to that they were like oh my gosh, I cannot imagine.
Speaker 2:like Stephen going and being a substitute teacher. You know I would be like shut the blank.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it would not be. And then they were like then I had people, several. They were like I was a teacher and I wouldn't even substitute teach. Nowadays I'm like, no, I couldn't do that week to get to. It kind of goes back to you know your weirdness and obscenities and all that sort of thing about using the bathroom in a litter box, sort of thing.
Speaker 2:Well, that wasn't me. That was a crazy person on Instagram.
Speaker 1:Some things you just don't talk about, you just pretend they don't exist in the world and you move on. But this person wrote in and said that a furries convention came to Pittsburgh and some of them asked the hotels to provide litter boxes.
Speaker 2:Funny, you bring that up because, probably 10 years ago-ish, and you know, listen, about 10 years ago-ish. And you know, listen, if there's something weird out there, you know, and y'all know me at this point, I'm going to know about it. I have read about it or something. Yeah, so about 10 years ago, wesley and I were at Market in Atlanta.
Speaker 1:We had gone. I think it was in between major markets. It was a small market, or it was at the end of a market, I can't remember it was Market.
Speaker 2:There were not a lot of Market people there.
Speaker 1:There were none left by the time we were there.
Speaker 2:And so we go strolling through the lobby and I remember where we were at the Hyatt Regency and these people walked by in a group and they had ears and tails.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And Wesley said what in the world? And I said, oh my gosh, I know what this is.
Speaker 1:I know I think I said what in the hell is going on?
Speaker 2:here and I said I think I know what this is. I'm going to talk to them.
Speaker 1:Yes, oh my gosh, that is when we needed the microphone.
Speaker 2:So I, we should look it up and I didn't know the details of it. I had a former God I've had a very interesting life. God, I've had a very interesting life. I had a former roommate way back college days that was kind of into the furry roommate thing Straight, straight roommate, okay, kind of into the furry thing before it was a thing and I just was like, oh okay, you know, like bunny costumes and stuff, it's his girlfriend. Seriously, I'm not making it up. So I knew a little bit about that. But then I had read about this. I went and talked to them.
Speaker 1:Oh, he went strolling right up.
Speaker 2:I was like I need to know all about this, yeah, and so they're into different things and, like some people, are into having a tail not having a tail. They're attracted to people with tails, full costume, and now I think it has gotten to the point to where they're using litter box.
Speaker 1:It goes the whole spectrum so it can be, I think, sort of innocent-ish.
Speaker 2:Like bedroom play.
Speaker 1:You just like dressing up, but then it goes all the way to the bedroom Litter box. And then beyond. So we haven't run into that. I wonder if they have that every year.
Speaker 2:You know, I am really really good if I never run into that again but it would be.
Speaker 1:We ran into the cause to the cot.
Speaker 2:What was it?
Speaker 1:cosplay which is kind of a comic yeah, dress up, comic dress up, and that too can go from just more innocent to well, that was pretty, that was way more out there.
Speaker 2:The cosplay convention. So when we're at markets, especially in atlanta, but even in dallas, it wouldn't surprise me if we ran into anywhere. They have big. They have big conventions. You never know what you're going to roll up in the middle of.
Speaker 1:Yeah, every time we're at even in July at the market or January, the big markets there's usually some other conventions going on at the hotel that we stay at, Like when we're at the Marriott and that sort of thing, and like this last time when we were there in January, it ended up being the national championship football game, national championship, so all the football players. You just never know what you're going to run into.
Speaker 2:And Dylan and I took my nephew to. He wanted to go to New York City for his high school graduation gift.
Speaker 1:Yeah, y'all did that last summer.
Speaker 2:Last summer gift. Yeah, y'all did that last summer. Last summer and we rolled up, there was like we had like a two and a half week window between my schedule and his schedule that we could go, so it really we had to go, yeah and um.
Speaker 2:So I booked it and after I booked it I realized, oh my gosh, it's gay pride in new york city well and I don't have a problem with you, do you do whatever but I had never been in New York during a gay pride, and here I am taking my innocent little nephew, small town, to New York City for gay pride New York City for gay pride. So, needless to say, he saw more ass and breast than you can possibly imagine and it was quite comical.
Speaker 1:But you know he was graduating, he needed to see some of the real world.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he did.
Speaker 1:It was I'm like.
Speaker 2:He's going to be seeing a lot more than that. I'm like this is it, buddy, this is it, you know, and he we laughed a lot, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it's the world we live in. But going back to the furries, can you imagine working at a hotel and then getting asked to provide litter boxes?
Speaker 2:I would have said hell, no, because who's going to clean that up?
Speaker 1:That is something you bring on your own and take it with you. Yeah, that's true. So I had someone write in and I printed it off, because this is kind of funny. Okay, randomly enough, I don't want to out this person, but this is the same person that wrote you about the dirty diaper in the freezer. So she said I have more. This is something different, though, so she said here's a good one. When I was in college, I like this person.
Speaker 2:I really like you. I want you to know that you have the stories like I do, and I like it.
Speaker 1:Right and see, we need to get some of you who have these stories and we need to call you, like we did with the hitchhiking stories. We need to wrap back around and get on a schedule and call some of our it's circle back, circle back, wrap back around, whatever. Circle back, start over, circle back around and call some people, cause we got lots of you listening and I know there's lots of good stories.
Speaker 2:Well, we should have known there was some we should have known there was some people on here with some real whacked up histories behind them, if they're listening to this all the time.
Speaker 1:Right, you know, if they relate to us, yeah, they're a little messed up too, right, exactly.
Speaker 1:So when I was in college, this is what the person wrote in, not me, this person. When I was in college, this is what the person wrote in, not me, this person. When I was in college, unnamed fraternity members stole a cadaver from the science lab and moved it down to Potter's Pond, placed it on a beach towel with a hat and sunglasses. Morning walkers found the body. Exclamation point Funny when you're a kid, but not funny if you are the university. Who wants to donate a body to the school for educational purposes. If you might end up stolen out of the building, you should have seen the police activity on campus that day.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, like nowadays. You would be kicked out of school. You would be arrested and see back. Then they probably didn't have the cameras that they do nowadays. They would have found out who did it. That's a great story, but then you kind of feel bad for the cadaver.
Speaker 2:I mean, if you're donating it, you're good yeah.
Speaker 1:That person.
Speaker 2:The personality of that person would be like hell, yeah, that was a good ride. I mean, that was a good last ride. Yeah, that's true. I mean I might donate my body if I knew I was going to end up like on the beach, you know, in a hat and sunglasses or something.
Speaker 1:So this listener said you should ask your podcast listeners for the funniest stories they can remember from college. I bet there are some good ones, so tell us your funny college stories. You can remain anonymous, we won't tell on you. You can text us or call us on our hotline 864-982-5029. It's down in the show notes or if you're in the members only community you can contact, you can email me through there as well or put it in the comments there. If you don't mind, We'll talk about it.
Speaker 2:We may even call you because it would be good, that's a good one. That is a good one. And I, you know I don't have that many great college stories, but I do from high school. Like one of the senior pranks when I was in high school I mean, this would be, I, this would there's. I don't even know what they do to you nowadays, but the uh, some people that will remain nameless took a Playboy magazine and cut the faces out and glued teachers' faces.
Speaker 1:Now you could Photoshop it. You wouldn't even have to cut it out.
Speaker 2:And then they photocopied it and then they put quotes in. They put what teacher it was and put quotes in, and my spanish teacher. I'll never forget hers. I have this somewhere. Um, and one of my teachers made copies for me and we're friends on facebook. That's funny. She was young at the time.
Speaker 2:I need to message her about that um so like my spanish teacher said her said yo soy picante, which means I'm spicy. So in spanish class that day we were having to make sentences up for homework. And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to steven to make sentences up for homework. And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to Steven to make up, you know. And she's writing the sentence on the board. So we can. Everybody has to translate it to Spanish. And I said I made spicy bread and the whole class just bust out laughing and she just said I'll see you after class. I was like, okay, I didn't get in trouble. Everybody, they really liked me, so I really didn't get in trouble.
Speaker 1:I can see you talking your way out of.
Speaker 2:I was like what? What are you talking about? Spicy bread like Mexican bread? What?
Speaker 1:She was like mm-hmm oh my goodness.
Speaker 2:But you know, and it's funny, you're talking about way back when and how you get away with things. I was watching a video on Instagram. It made me think, do you remember? And this is what it was talking about kids. You used to see kids and All the time Like there was always. I still see kids when you were in grammar school, elementary school, there was always multiple kids with broken arms, broken legs, all kinds of little injuries. Yeah, you don't really see that that much anymore because we've made everybody so soft now.
Speaker 1:Oh, you know, think about it, you know, when I was growing up we rode in the back of pickup trucks, I mean didn't think anything On your four-wheeler, which was three-wheelers back then.
Speaker 2:Didn't think anything about it. I mean we drank water out of a garden hose.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know we did that and see, we grew up in the country, so definitely in our school. I mean my brother, I think he broke, I don't know, I'd have to ask my mom. Like his arm, my middle brother. He was notorious for like we would get out for the summer break and within 48 hours he would do something that he would be out of commission the whole. Something like break a collarbone, break a arm, break a something, and like all summer he was laid up. He was laid up about the time he'd get repaired. It was time to go back to school, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2:oh my gosh. But you know now everybody's. So you know in those remember the monkey bars at recess and all that you knocked the hell out of yourself oh my gosh. You know, people knocked out teeth and broke arms and fell, and that's what I personally think. That's why everybody's so soft now.
Speaker 1:So we made everything a little too protected, a little too, you know used to. We had the metal toys like dump trucks that you'd pinch your finger in.
Speaker 2:Or cut it off, yeah.
Speaker 1:I can remember. And now they're like you know, plastic and everything's protected. But also things I mean okay, in defense of I don't know who, I'm defending no one but it's also the way the culture and society and the world has shifted, whereas everything now is more technology based, like kids are playing with iPads and not that we made them, you know, we didn't. You know what I'm saying Like that just became the next thing?
Speaker 2:It's ruining them.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying it hasn't. I'm just saying that things are more technology based now, instead of being out and playing and you know, climbing from a tree, fall down, break your arm on the monkey bars. Break your arm.
Speaker 2:I had tree houses. I played in the woods. Oh, we did. In the creek All day, every day, yeah.
Speaker 1:We did too. I think I was talking, I don't know, with my mom or something, but like we didn't have a lot of stuff Like toys, like how kids like you'll go to someone's house and it is just like toys stacked everywhere, like we didn't have that. I mean we had toys and it wasn't like, but not like that, but we were outside all the time. I was always trying to find, you know, a turtle or a frog, or go to the easter egg hunt so I could get a free chick or duck, something like that. We were talking about that the other night in a live sale. How I used to love going to Easter egg hunts when I was a kid, like certain churches would do it and you could win like a baby chick or a baby duck. Little Wesley was hunting. That day I was going to come home with a chick or a baby duck. Little Wesley was hunting. That day I was going to come home with it.
Speaker 2:I mean I kept chiggers on my genitals all summer long.
Speaker 1:I mean I mean what? From playing in the woods and every, I mean I kept you know, all the time with something say that it doesn't help, but you would paint fingernail polish on there, yes, on it, and I mean it would be all like mom, I need some fingernail polish. I got chiggers and you. You look down there and it'd be pink and red, whatever color she had everything just painted all over it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, kids need that. I mean, I'm sorry if you do not have a little nail polish on your scrotum, you've missed out. You've missed out. Your childhood was not complete, it's true.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:It is true.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, first of all, you're going to have to tell some of our listeners what chiggers are, because not everyone evidently has them. Because I've talked about when we've been in Hilton Head. Like you don't want to collect the Spanish moss, chiggers grow in there Because there's chiggers in the moss, and then so many people were like what is a chigger?
Speaker 2:You know, I don't really, I don't know exactly. Is it?
Speaker 1:a mite. It's a small mite yes. Growing up I always learned that they like buried in your skin and I think that's why you would paint the fingernail polish on. That was the thought to paint it because it smothered them out. But I think I've heard as an adult they don't actually bury in your skin. I think it's just a bite that itches really bad.
Speaker 2:So it itches so chiggers are just— oh yeah, they're red. I remember that.
Speaker 1:They're just red little mites. They're tiny like, tiny like a pin dot size and they grow typically in very like grassy areas.
Speaker 2:And certain I can't remember. Is it milkweed? There's something they grow on like that that were in like ditches along the side of the road. Yeah, so if you ran through there, there's some common weeds that they grow it is not an insect. It is an arachnid, like a spider or a tick, and they are parasites?
Speaker 1:yeah, but they don't do that, does it say? Do they actually bury under your skin or is it just a bite? Because that's what I can't remember.
Speaker 2:Oh, you know where I bet we got them from. They're on rabbits a lot and you know we had rabbits.
Speaker 1:But any grass, like tall grass, like a meadow type place, they're going to be there. And your Spanish moss. So if you ever visit, say, charleston, south Carolina or Hilton Head, somewhere that has the gorgeous Spanish moss growing from the tree, don't just walk up and grab that, because it can have chiggers in it and they will bite you and you will be itchy.
Speaker 2:They'll be in your crotch.
Speaker 1:They do, and so, if you don't know, they like to go. I wonder why they are. I wonder if it's dark areas, warm and moist? No, but they also get around, like your ankle, where your socks are.
Speaker 2:It says oh God. Oh my gosh, that is that is too Waist, ankles and warm skin folds. Yes. Well, I think they prefer the warm skin folds the most if you know what I'm talking about, and I have very sensitive skin. No, and I am like mosquitoes and chiggers.
Speaker 1:It was just like they just ate me up and you're so pale.
Speaker 2:I bet they were just big red, but you know I was not pale as a child because I was outside all the time, so I was dark.
Speaker 1:So you're saying we've made kids too soft with these things. They haven't experienced Absolutely the things that you have an experience, absolutely the things that you have, Absolutely, and you know I mean.
Speaker 2:They need to drink some rat juice out of a whale. They need chiggers on their genitals, they need to.
Speaker 1:That word grosses me out by the way Genitals yes. I feel like cringey. I would rather you say like pecker. Yes balls or pecker or something I don't know.
Speaker 2:I'm trying, I'm trying to be a little classy, I guess that's supposed to be the classy way, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:That doesn't do it for me.
Speaker 2:I don't know, but it is. I mean, I do think kids, you know, and we didn't have seatbelts back in the day, is it?
Speaker 1:too late to warn you that this is a not safe for work episode Podcast. Why Can you imagine sitting?
Speaker 2:in your desk. This is a PSA. I mean, this is serious stuff. Listen, if you don't think it's serious, I am happy to ship you a box of Spanish moss and you just roll around in it to let me know how it goes.
Speaker 1:It's true, that's funny.
Speaker 2:But I used to pick the Spanish. Well, I kept chiggers, so who knows where I got it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean that's true? Oh my goodness, I was about to say you know, Daniel doesn't ever get chiggers, but see, his is. It's like mowed, and so it's not tall grass to be walking through. No, it's more like woods yeah it's always woods or meadows or, like you said, ditches.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you cut through or if you're gathering like blackberries.
Speaker 1:Something else You're going to end up with the chiggers. They haven't done either.
Speaker 2:You something else you're gonna end up with the chiggers. You're gonna end up with the chiggers and I don't know why you keep. I don't think you can keep from getting them I don't think there's anything you can do like I don't know it says soap and water, but I that don't work.
Speaker 1:You better get you some nail polish well, this kind of leads into something super funny that I just saw and I don't know. This could kind of go along with making people or the world soft. I don't know. I don't know how to feel about it. I really don't. You grew up in the country. I grew up in the country. We've been around a lot of animals and chickens and that sort of thing. Do you know what the hell I saw on TikTok last night and this isn't I know it's true because it was from a vet, not like someone making this up, it was a vet in their TikTok stories. Do you know someone had brought in their rooster and was getting it neutered? Did you know? I didn't even know that was an option.
Speaker 2:I want to kill that person. Okay, that brings out homicidal feelings in me.
Speaker 1:So they were saying you know, if you've never grown up or had chickens and you get a rooster sometimes not all roosters, but some roosters can be aggressive towards you Because they're going to protect their, their ladies, uh. And then sometimes it can be seasonal where they're more aggressive and then not, like we had one a few years ago when I had. Every time I would just walk into the chicken coop to even feed them, it would just come charging towards me trying to. I would kick that thing one day.
Speaker 2:It made me, so mad I was like I'm going to kill you, we had, my grandparents had one actually, and it was satan, yeah, and I would. Grandma would give me scraps to go like pour out in the edge of the woods and that damn thing would see me and come charging at me and I would be screaming because I, when I was really little, I called my grandmother ma, yeah and I would scream I'm gonna tell ma on you, I was talking to this rooster and it was so and everybody would laugh, because they were laughing at me screaming at the rooster.
Speaker 2:I'm'm going to tell Ma on you, and I would try to run, but then I would have to turn around and kick at it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because when you turn your back and run, that's when they charge more and they hurt, and so you got about the time they catch up with you. You got to turn around real quick and they'll kind of stop and then you kind of kick at them and cuss at them, yeah.
Speaker 1:So funny story. I had one when I was a kid. That was just a holy terror too and my mamaw would bring scraps like that that's a country thing, I guess. From the table Scraps Uh-huh Out to the chickens, like it might be old lettuce or whatever, and she'd bring scraps to the dogs whatever. And she was outside bringing scraps one time in this rooster, I mean it just like you're talking about, would just tear you up. Well, my mom was out there, like you know, talking to her, and then she's like, oh, I'm gonna go give the scraps. So she went and did that and came back and my mom had started like weeding the um flower bed or something, and that rooster came up and was just attacking my mom because she was been over or about to attack her, I don't know and my mom took she had the frying pan but the cast iron skillet and just hit the rooster I would have loved every bit of that.
Speaker 2:I'm like, oh my God.
Speaker 1:Did it kill the rooster? You can't kill those things.
Speaker 2:The mean ones. I'm telling you. They are the spawn of Satan.
Speaker 1:No, but a few days later that rooster was missing and then we had chicken. No, I'm just kidding, it was missing. But what she would do? There would be this other little country house and it was next to a church and they always had chickens in their yard just free-ranging. So she got that in her car and then drove up to the church and then just tossed the rooster out. So it would go right next door to all those and for the longest time we would drive by because it was on the way from our house to town and there'd be our rooster out there in the yard just protecting them.
Speaker 2:I was terrified of that rooster.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean terrified. So back to getting them neutered. So not all roosters, but some of them will become aggressive like that and very protective, and usually I feel like it's if you have multiple ones it's like whatever the dominant one and I'm sure it's per breed and that sort of thing too. So someone had taken theirs to the vet because they love this rooster but he was a little too aggressive so they were going to. I had no idea that was even a possibility, that that's ridiculous.
Speaker 2:If you've got a problem that if the rooster is that big of a problem, you needed to have him for Sunday dinner. It was time for some fried chicken.
Speaker 1:I'm just like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:It's crazy, and you know, geese can be just like that.
Speaker 1:A mean goose. Geese are naturally more protective too. They're good watchdogs.
Speaker 2:But I've had them where they would almost just. It looked like they were spinning wheels up from like the pond to attack.
Speaker 1:Don't talk too bad about them. I want to get geese, and then Daniel will be like I'm scared of the geese. These are sweet. We have wild geese and they're sweet. They're like pets. It's the same ones come back every year. They just showed up a few weeks ago, maybe like a month ago, and they'll be here. They'll usually have babies and leave, I think around june or something, and then we won't see them again until next year.
Speaker 2:well, every time I get out of my car you know if it's not cold, if it's pretty or not raining I go down and I say, oh, hey, babies, and all the animals come up so I can pet them. And the geese even come, the damn wild geese.
Speaker 1:They do. And I know it's the same two that come back every year because they immediately like when I go out there, they'll come up. Or when I go out there to feed the other animals, they'll come up and they'll snack some of their food too. If it was different ones, it would take them a while to like.
Speaker 2:Oh, no, it's like they immediately. They're always friendly, and how long can a goose?
Speaker 1:how long do geese live, though, I wonder? Let's look that up, cause I'm like we've been here, I don't know, almost nine years, and it's been like the same geese and you know, finally, we've realized the emus that I gave you.
Speaker 2:They are elmer and elvira. Right it is. There is an elvira, yeah, which is good to know, um, and she's not as friendly as elmer I must say the well she's not mean, so let's not give her she she's not mean no, no, no, no, no, no, but Elmer comes up Immediately, Immediately, for you to pet and love her.
Speaker 1:She's a little more standoffish, but she doesn't attack. She's not mean, but if you go in the fence you can pet her too. I've never, you just have to like reach out to her and for us.
Speaker 2:you know my cousins on the farm the meanest and they're wild. You know they're wild, but the meanest they are are just we'll peck you.
Speaker 1:But it doesn't hurt. Yeah Well, you know, you see the ones on social media and people you know they play that up and that sort of thing and kind of give them a. Is that one still on social media? What was that? Oh my God, geese can live up to 20 years. Oh well, good, who knew? I never had any that old.
Speaker 1:They all get eaten uh, there are some species that can live um up to 30 years dang, I'm gonna be sad when those stop showing up one day, though every year I'm like I wonder if they'll come back. Like wouldn't you like to have a tracker on those geese and see where they go?
Speaker 2:we used to have a. I think I told you this we had a homing pigeon. Um, funny story. We had a neighbor lived across the street from my grandparents, miss Huckins, and she was from New York, so she kind of didn't understand all this country shit, you know. And she was in the yard doing her flower she had beautiful flower beds and the pigeon landed on her head. You can't make this up. She reached up and grabbed it and called my grandfather to come get it. We, we tagged that pigeon. Yeah, this was my entertainment, this is how sad we were in the country, but I loved it. We tagged that pigeon and we would drive everywhere you know you can imagine hours away and let the pigeon out, and you, you know, sometimes it would beat us home that is crazy Pigeons Like don't you wonder, like how do they know what I mean?
Speaker 1:there has to be some kind of they have a natural GPS in there. I know. But like, is it magnetic? Like what is it that draws? They have to know like it's not, like a pigeon can just ride in a car. It's not looking out the window and going oh, we went left, we went right, we went left. You know what I'm saying? It's how do they instinctively know?
Speaker 2:It says, homing pigeons navigate their way back home using a combination of visual landmarks, a map, sense of their surrounding area and an internal compass believed to be linked to the Earth's magnetic field, allowing them to orient themselves in the right direction when released in unfamiliar locations.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It'd have to be something like that.
Speaker 2:Locations yeah, that's what I'm saying. It'd have to be something like that. Essentially, they imprint on their future home loft during their early development, creating a strong instinct to return to that specific place. Isn't that random? I wouldn't believe it if I didn't do it myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but that was entertainment, that would have been my kind of entertainment, I would have had that pigeon everywhere.
Speaker 2:Well, and at first Stephen was not down for it because I didn't want my pigeon gone. Oh yeah, I should get some pigeons. Pigeons are fun. That's what I could put out there in the chicken coop I love. And the fantails are beautiful, they are beautiful, I love those, I love those. The fantails are beautiful, they are beautiful, I love those, I love those. So we used to say I need that on my porch. We would buy and sell those at the flea market.
Speaker 1:Let's go to, let's take a trip to the flea market. I've been wanting to. We gotta wait to a nice spring day. We're gonna load up on something, I don't know what it's gonna be.
Speaker 2:We're gonna load up on something. I don't know what it's gonna be. We're gonna load up on something to terrorize daniel. Uh-huh, be like honey, we need. We need like a goose that's gonna chase him around the field.
Speaker 1:Right, beat the shit out of him that's why I was like you can't talk about geese because he'll be like uh-uh, don't bring those near me well, I I'm going to tell you it took a while Now with the emus he's fine. He'll go in the pasture with them, but he is like if those things get out, don't call me to come get them. He's like I ain't going to have nothing to do with them. Okay, funny story about little Daniel. He grew up in the suburbs of Charlotte and in a neighborhood.
Speaker 2:This boy. He's not really soft, though you have to give it to him because he's a hard worker outside and he works on the farm. He's not soft like that.
Speaker 1:But he was not exposed to a lot of things. One time before we moved to the farm he had never been around cats at all A cat. I guess his dad was allergic and he says he's allergic. I know, Daniel, you're saying I am allergic, but anyway, it's to be determined, Although he had an allergy test 25 years ago and he said he was allergic. It said he was allergic, but anyway I digress. Any whoosie. I got a little 25 years ago and he said he was allergic. It said he was allergic, but anyway I digress. Any whoosie. I got a little kitten at our old house and he was terrified of this little kitten.
Speaker 2:Oh, I remember that.
Speaker 1:And then when it got, you know, we had it I don't know, maybe a week, two weeks or something, and it came running through the house and it climbed up our curtains. He's like, ah, cats got to go, cats got to go. It wasn't the fact that it was going to like damage the curtains or anything like that, it freaked him out that it could climb like that. He was like cats got to go. So I had to get give the cat to a new home and then we moved to the farm, you know, and he got more used. It came with cats and then he got used to them and we've had several kittens since then and he's fine. But it's funny how not being exposed to even a cat, but and I guess I take all that for granted because you grew up with it, so it was second nature yeah, I mean it was just there.
Speaker 1:so that's why, with like the emus and stuff he's like and I could see him with geese being like they're going to attack but they really not all of them do.
Speaker 2:And like you talk about not having toys and stuff, and I mean I had toys. Let's face it, I was an only child. I had rights. I had stuff, but that is not what I loved.
Speaker 1:I know that wasn't, that didn't entertain me as much. No, Like I enjoy unless it was something that did something with animals.
Speaker 2:Like. I remember how, in the spring, I love to take a rabbit gum. I had a rabbit gum at my grandparents. What is that A trap? It's called a rabbit gum. I had a rabbit gum at my grandparents. What is that A trap, it's called a rabbit gum you should know that we called them a rabbit gum and I would take that down to. We had a huge garden, probably three acres. You're going to catch you a rabbit, and I did. I would catch one every time, it was just so fun.
Speaker 2:Just what did you do with it? It was just so fun, just let it go, put it in a cage and play with it a while and then turn it loose. Just you know, after you've done it caught it. I mean that was the fun. It was the fun catching it. Yeah, you know, it's not like I was eating them or anything like that, but yeah it's. I think it's really sad, like kids that don't experience stuff like that. The nature part I remember being in New York city one time.
Speaker 1:Can you imagine growing up just in the city and never being exposed?
Speaker 2:This was probably 30 years ago I was in New York. You are old, now I am old and I was in going. You are old now I am old and I was walking through Central Park.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:And it said that they were having a petting zoo. They had a petting zoo brought in in New York and I was like, how cool is that? You know, I wanted to go to the petting zoo.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:So I go to the petting zoo, uh-huh, mm-mm-mm, it was like goats and cows. It was like basic and cows, it was like basic ass stuff. And I was so mad because I'm like what in the hell You're advertising petting zoo? But I had never thought. Those kids in New York City do not, unless they drive out to the country. You know they can drive north in New York and they're in the country.
Speaker 1:But that's like I mean for them, that's a trip.
Speaker 2:That's a vacation, yeah.
Speaker 1:Going out but they don't get to see that, I know. Isn't it crazy? Because for us a goat, a cow, that's like seeing a dog, you know, like that's just oh yeah.
Speaker 1:That is crazy. It is funny when you think about think back about it. Okay, we have a little bit more time, so I think we need to do a little. I was thinking about this today. I meant to mention this to you, so you might not be down to discuss this, but we're going to discuss it. No, it's a little PSA. I think we need to do a little PSA because you just got your will updated and Daniel and I just got a will done as well, we got to sign it.
Speaker 1:So, something happens between now and then, the will is legit or whatever, and it kind of goes back to my stepmom, your aunt, what happened to us, and we won't get into all the details, but if you haven't got, daniel and I had never done a wheel. And what made me think about this is tomorrow is the anniversary of when my dad passed away, and so I was like God, is it?
Speaker 2:And do you always remember that? Because you've never pointed that out? Yeah, so it was the month of your birthday.
Speaker 1:Yeah, march 10 is when he passed away.
Speaker 2:That is a date drilled in your head. Yes, we've never discussed this.
Speaker 1:We haven't.
Speaker 1:Never, you've never brought up, and it's funny my oldest brother's birthday is March 8th, and I'm sure I remember more than because it was in my birthday month, maybe I don't know, it just stuck in my head I guess. Well, it's kind of a big event, yeah, march 8th. And then my dad passed away on March 10th and my birthday is March 30th or whatever. So I don't know why Some years I don't think about it until after. I'm like, oh, you know, it's passed or whatever, um sort of thing. Uh, but I was thinking about that somehow.
Speaker 1:I looked at the date, was like, oh, tomorrow's the day my dad passed away and, um, the importance because we've made fun or laughed or joked about my stepmom and your aunt, the importance of having your wheel done and things the way you want it, you want it, and Daniel and I have never done one until now. It's been something we, I'm sure like if you don't have one have probably thought about. And you're like, oh, every year we say, oh, we're going to do that. And then we're like, well, let's wait till January, when things are slow, and then we'll do it. And then January passes, it's another year. Da, da, da da. But we did it and it was super simple, like I just thought it was going to be more.
Speaker 1:It can be as complicated as you want it, that's true.
Speaker 2:And it can be extremely simple.
Speaker 1:But at least do one extremely simple, because it's better than nothing. Because, going back to my stepmom, my dad had some things set up through his work that were supposed to go to his kids, you and your brother. Yes, with our names on it, but then he didn't have a wheel, so my stepmom found a loophole. I guess you would say Within the state. Yeah, and we never got, you know, any of our inheritance or anything like that.
Speaker 1:And my you know my dad worked at DuPont and he was. He had good like insurance and stuff because he was on the hazmat team. So she took it. So now is the time. Just a little PSA, if you haven't done it, because I was surprised at how simple it was and another thing every state is different and state laws and regulations override federal Right.
Speaker 2:So don't ever assume and you have to be very careful with the verbiage in your wheel that varies state to state. So if you google certain verbiage at a, at a federal level, it's different than at a state. Yeah, so that that came into play with my aunt. Yeah, and, and basically what? What it all comes down to is she manipulated and did not. It was very clear and obvious. My grandparents wishes Right and she manipulated it and basically stole my mother's part, and I do consider it stealing Right, like legally. No, and basically stole my mother's part and I do consider it stealing Right, like legally no, Well, and what's crazy.
Speaker 1:so your mom passed away very shortly before your grandmother passed away.
Speaker 2:Was it Three months? Three months.
Speaker 1:So if your mom had passed away three months later, like if your grandmother had passed away first, it would have been completely different. Oh yeah, is the thing. So there was a technicality. And if she had died.
Speaker 2:If they, she died they died just over a hundred days apart, but if it had been within the hundred days it would have been different. But in South Carolina the laws changed. So what changed was when my grandparents did their will in like 1970. Right, so in 1970, the will in South Carolina, your will overrode banks. Well, and they changed the law in 1987. The bank's documentation overrides your will.
Speaker 2:So that's very important to know and that can be a good thing because, like in every state, your inheritance tax is different. For South Carolina I think it's $5 million. So if you know, if you're a state and listen, you might go $5 million. Listen, when you start adding up your assets, you will be surprised what you come up with Like property, cars, money, jewelry you'll be surprised what you come up with like property, cars, money, jewelry You'll be surprised. But the good thing about that law change is you can set beneficiaries on money, like your bank accounts, so that that is just automatic and it's separate from the estate Right. That that is just automatic and it's separate from the estate Right. So, like when my mother passed, we had my name was on all of the bank accounts and investment accounts that did not go through probate at all. Yeah, so the only thing that went through probate was the house and car. That was it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and made it very simple.
Speaker 2:It made it very simple and it was very simple anyway because I'm an, was it, yeah, and made it very simple. It made it very simple and it was very simple anyway because I'm an only child, yeah, but you know it, it's so important and my will is not very complicated. But I was very specific with with things and, and you can, if you've got a family family like I do unfortunately not one side of my family, you know my attorney felt the need to not only leave them out but also do an intentional disinheritance clause. So if, if, well, I mean obviously I'm going to die at some point, but when I do, it's in black and white.
Speaker 1:Like you, left them out intentionally, so they cannot contest it.
Speaker 2:No, Because it's in there. They can contest it, but they won't get anything. Yeah.
Speaker 1:So just a little PSA. Maybe it's time to do your will it. So just a little PSA. Maybe it's time to do your will.
Speaker 2:It's not as weird as I thought it would be either, and you need a health care directive.
Speaker 1:And you know, or maybe you need to update your will. And if you are like very relaxed about it, then go ahead, like, if you are doing a will, go ahead when you're doing it and line it out for several Like OK, if we pass away, I want it to go to so and so, but go ahead and name the next step. Well, if they've passed away, then I want it to go to their kids or I want it to go to. However, go ahead and lay it out, so it just helps out.
Speaker 2:And it's important in my opinion, you can do a will on your own, you know, online and get it notarized. I personally think it's important to have an attorney in your state. Look at it, because that what you're speaking of. Right, there is where it can get really, really convoluted, depending on what state you're in. Convoluted, depending on what state you're in. If it's the verbiage, the legal jargon is not correct.
Speaker 1:It doesn't match your state. Yeah, so you need to go to someone that knows in your state and it's not that expensive.
Speaker 2:It is not To do it at all, it is not. And you need, you need adorable power of attorney, yeah. And so a friend of mine we were talking about this and you know she expressed concern because her, their investments are all in his name, yeah. And I said, well, you know, you really don't have to worry about it. You're in South Carolina, 50% of it is yours. It's really not a big deal. And she said, yeah, but what if we were on a trip and he went missing and I couldn't get a death certificate? For five years I wouldn't have access to anything. And I was like, oh shit, you're right. And I said, well, that's when, if you have a durable power of attorney problem solved, one piece of paper you can sign anything.
Speaker 2:You can do anything. So you know that's what I had with my mother, that's what you know I have with my godmother. You know, just have that durable power of attorney and you can take care of whatever needs to be taken care of. Planning on the front side is a lot better than hiring attorneys and figuring it on the backside.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cause that ties up a lot.
Speaker 2:And keeping it updated. When you have major life changes, you know whether you bought property, sold property, you've lost a spouse. Just update it, keep it updated.
Speaker 1:I might take you out at some point. Take you out of mine.
Speaker 2:I'll probably take myself out because I'm probably going to kick Well.
Speaker 1:I know that's not the most fun topic to talk about, but if it's something you haven't done, you need to do it and I'm glad, like I said, we've been meaning to do ours for like 10, 12 years at least, I don't know and it took us this long to get it done. Yeah, I've nagged you for like 12 years. Yeah, it's just been so. It was so much simpler than I thought and it wasn't as weird as I thought it would be to do it it weirded me out the first time it did.
Speaker 2:It depressed me the first time. It didn't mean, I was just like now.
Speaker 1:Now it doesn't, I'm like, yeah, take them out, add them in to me it was more just like business, like I don't know, like, yeah, do this, do that, I don't care no, and I mean, you know if you have time, you know when you're before you pass, like my mother did.
Speaker 2:You know she had a little bit of time so she could have given things, she could have made decisions, but we all don't have that time. You know, I could kill over with a heart attack or die in a car, we don't know, right. So I think it's really good to have it yeah.
Speaker 1:It's true? All right. Well, we're going to leave you on that note, so call up someone and get your will done.
Speaker 2:I guess what a great way to Happy.
Speaker 1:Tuesday what a great way to leave you off. But no, it is important. It's important to talk about, and you never know, and you think here's the thing, you think your family is going to do the right thing, but you never know what the situation is going to be at the time. And you never know who is going to be. Step up and be the greedy one. Or you know, you just never know. You never know how people are going to respond.
Speaker 2:Money brings out the worst in people and you know, sometimes you can pinpoint who it's going to be. And the one thing is, is my whole family, my entire extended family, even people not in our family, literally came up to me and said I hope you have a good attorney because she is going to screw you over? Yeah, and I'm the fool. No, she wouldn't do that. Yeah, no, she loves me too much to do something like that. Let me tell you what she loves the dollar.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more. She loves the dollar.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more than you, the dollar.
Speaker 1:She loved you a little bit, but she loved that money a lot more she loved me a little bit, but she loved that money a lot of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you know what? Listen, I was brought up. I just want everybody to know, stephen did not fight anybody for any money, nor did Wesley. We were both of us were not. We were brought up make your own way, make your own money, do your own thing and you don't fight over dead people's money. And Wesley and I, wesley well, wesley's mother he didn't, he was a minor at the time, but you know, walked away and that's what I did. You know I, I walked away. It's not worth it. You said that. You said if I had been 18 it would have been a different.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't have walked away today because I have a different. I'm not going to fight over your money, but I'm going to fight you because you're doing wrong.
Speaker 2:Well, that's what you said about my aunt. You said don't fight her for the money, but tie it up and just let just spend all of it in attorney's fees. Yeah, that's mine, that's my family that had that perspective, but then at some point you're like, I'm not dealing with that.
Speaker 1:I'm not harboring the anxiety and the hate and the negativity and at the end of the day, my love and respect for my grandparents and my mother.
Speaker 2:You know they worked so hard to acquire that money. I mean, they worked hard. They had a lot of money, but they worked. I mean sweeping floors in the mail. I don't even know how they accumulated what they had and I couldn't disrespect that. Yeah, it was better for me to walk away. Wow, I mean, I still would. Every now and then I want to slap a bitch. It's true. Me to walk away, well, I mean, I still would love. Every now and then I'm going to slap a bitch, but it's true. But you know.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right, we're going to wrap this baby up. That's all the time we have for today. Remember to leave us a review wherever you're listening to the podcast. So remember you can listen for free anywhere. You can listen to podcasts, and you can also join our members-only community. If you haven't done that yet, it's a lot of fun. You can watch the video version of the podcast in our members-only community, which you can find at whosedrivingpodcastcom, and come join the fun there. You can leave comments. We can put up polls there. I put in the little clips. I'll put in your little bow pillow you talked about. I sent it. You'll have to send me that. I did. Oh good, I'll have that.
Speaker 2:And if you guys have a wheel story, tell us about it.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, Because you know there's some good story.
Speaker 2:You know, some people do some quirky ass things in their wheels and I may throw something in there real bizarre too. You should Just something weird as hell, I know. But if you have any of those stories, tell us about it. Yeah, because there's some people that do some weird things Like you have to do this or this, yeah, or if you do this, this happens, yeah.
Speaker 1:You know what that is A controlling person?
Speaker 2:Well, my attorney put something in mind that I liked and I had nothing to do with it. Yeah, I did not ask. But then they did it and I said, huh, I kind of like that. It was in my first will and it's in my second will and basically he put in there if you can test, if anyone can test my wheel, whatever you were in there to get, you get nothing.
Speaker 1:That's a good. That, to me, is Act right. This is what you get.
Speaker 2:This is the way I wanted it. You're going to get what you're going to get and shut up yeah, that act. Right. This is what you get. This is the way I wanted it. You're going to get what you're going to get and shut up yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1:All right, We'll see you next week. Thanks y'all, Bye y'all.