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Wesley and Steven catch up after separate travels, sharing stories about their live sales business and preparing for a busy week ahead, Including Steven's first colonoscopy.
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Girl, get in. I'm coming in hot. We're on a schedule. Today. It's Sunday for us while we're recording. Of course, this doesn't come out until Tuesday.
Speaker 2:Is everything recording over there before we do this for 20 minutes and have to redo it it looks like it's time for another episode of who's Driving.
Speaker 1:Welcome to who's Driving. I'm Wesley Turner.
Speaker 2:And I'm Stephen Merck.
Speaker 1:We're two best friends and entrepreneurs who's Driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and business.
Speaker 2:These are the stories we share and topics we discuss, as two best friends would on a long road trip.
Speaker 1:Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things home and garden.
Speaker 2:Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 1:You never know who's driving or where we're headed. All we know is it's always a fun ride. I think we're good to go. I hit the button. Look, both of us are on there. Was that last episode? No, two episodes ago we recorded, like the beginning, three times before Camera staying recording. Last week we did it separately. That was fun. You were at home? Yeah, I was here, if you were watching.
Speaker 2:Which is good. You know that, we know we can do it, because vacation and travel schedules we can make it work Right.
Speaker 1:I know, because we got a lot coming up and, speaking of a lot, it's a busy week coming up. But before we get to that tonight, which is Sunday night, which will have passed, we're kind of in a little bit of a hurry because we're going to do a live sale from my patio. Yes, got in some new things. My patio's all set up.
Speaker 2:I'm not looking forward to it. I'm just going to tell you, because it's a little toasty out there.
Speaker 1:It is a little toasty out there, but I think by the time we do the live it will have cooled down a little bit. The sun usually shifts.
Speaker 2:Well, they'll know when I get too hot, because they'll see my ass leaving.
Speaker 1:No, I tell you, you know, we, dylan and I just went to the Atlanta market, right, I was going to say, speaking of live sales and busy weeks, y'all went to the Atlanta market, I went to Florida, you were in Florida. It feels like that's been a month ago already.
Speaker 2:We were. Yeah, it seems like we were gone. It seems like that was two weeks ago and it was like we got home Two days ago.
Speaker 1:No, yeah, that was two weeks ago and it was like we got home Two days ago. No, no, friday night and it's Sunday afternoon, yeah, which is also I just realized. I mean, you literally just walked in my house like five minutes ago. This is the first time we've seen each other since over a week ago. Yeah, because we didn't see each other in person.
Speaker 2:But we talk every day, yeah, so it feels like you're there and we're going to be back in Atlanta on Tuesday.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I got a lot to work in here. First of all, tuesday this Tuesday when this podcast is coming out, y'all are going back to Atlanta to the bag vendor that's not at market that I have literally never had so many people message me saying they have been blowing all of us up, even Dylan's.
Speaker 1:Instagram. Go back there, go back there. Some of them have gotten them and they want more. Well, I knew once they got them they would want more. Some people watched the replay but they couldn't order because it was literally you had to order right there and we were switching apps. So I'm excited for Tuesday for y'all. Y'all are going to go. Do that one. It's been fun. Y'all are going and doing your own lives and I've been doing my own thing, it was fun, and then we do ours together.
Speaker 2:It was fun and we really enjoy the Cash and Carrie lives. Yeah, it's. You know, it's just, it's fun Funny story. Nana did not take a sweater he's referring to himself Myself.
Speaker 1:Nana gets a little cold in market. You froze to death, were your nips, cutting glass.
Speaker 2:You never know the way it's going to be, you don't? It varies building to building, floor to floor, and some of those floors.
Speaker 1:It is literally like 60 degrees. I mean it is.
Speaker 2:Creative co-op is like Cold Teeth yeah, you're going to be chattering your teeth, yeah, you get so cold.
Speaker 1:So I also have to say I'm impressed with you because we got the new app for the nested fig. By the way, if you haven't updated your app or maybe you're new and hadn't gotten the app yet go to your app store. Doesn't matter Android or Apple, just search the nested fig, update your app or download the new one. If you're on an Android device, look for the nested fig and it'll say app tile under it, but I'll also put the link in the notes. But we got a brand new app. We got it launched. That was Friday, a week ago, and I was here Friday, saturday, sunday, we did the Sunday live sale and then I left town and left you with it and you made it not only to market and did the lives, but with the brand new app and system and I set it all up myself and you did it, you didn't even have to call me for issues well, we had one issue, but that was not related.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, we had a crash, but that was shopify went down. That wasn't related.
Speaker 2:Wasn't related I was a little shocked myself, to tell you the truth, and I was. I got to thinking, okay, you know. Driving down there, I was like do I know thinking? Okay, you know. Driving down there, I was like do I know what to do? And I'm like don't even think about it, just do it. The best thing is not think about it. I was telling myself you know what to do, yeah, don't think about it, right? So I just got in there and I did it. Yeah.
Speaker 2:The only time, the only time I got stressed, which was you're the same way, but we had um this one vendor that we have now. I've now made friends with her but at first she was angry, yeah, and she was like no, you're, I mean, they're from New Jersey, not knocking anybody, but you know they're a little more abrupt. They're a little more abrupt and a little scurry. And she was like you be here at four and it was like 20 till four and I had nothing nothing loaded at all.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no photos, nothing. Yeah, that's the only time it's hard, like if she hadn't, if she had just said you know, get it on there, we would have been there at four, 15 and it would have gone a lot better. Yeah.
Speaker 1:But Well, it's so funny because you know it's like anything new when you're getting the live sales set up and I don't think you, listening in, our customers understand how much goes into that, like the sourcing of it and a lot of times not even the technical part, the convincing we have to do for vendors, because live sales are still relatively new on the boutique level. You know there's people who do TikTok lives but they're not doing them with the vendor, they're doing them in their house or whatever. But going to a vendor and saying, hey, we want to do a live sale here, sometimes it takes a little convincing and then we always get invited back.
Speaker 2:So our vendor, list is growing and a lot of them are like no. And then we're like do you know what this is?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we have to talk them through it.
Speaker 2:And then we tell them and they're like okay, we can try that. And then we do it and they see how it didn't bother them. They make money, yeah, and they're like please come back.
Speaker 1:The next market, yeah, but besides that part of going into it, there's the technical side of like a lot of times, when we're doing the live sales from the Atlanta market even you know, we'll go in July to the big show where we're there like 10 days, we are shopping and finding the items for you in real time. And so then, like when you went this week, you had vendors that you're like okay, I want to do this vendor, but you didn't know the product.
Speaker 2:And then you even found new vendors. I only had three vendors that I knew we were going to do, yeah, but had not one damn clue. Items you what items? And I wasn't sure that I was gonna do them, because I wasn't sure that I was gonna love it, yeah, and if I don't love it, I'm not doing it. Right was like you know, it's got all those questions Like cause then I don't love, if I don't like the people, I'm not going to do it. If I don't. You know, like the, the one lady we worked through and I was thinking, if this doesn't change, if this doesn't change, we're not going to do this together, yeah, if it doesn't change, we're not going to do this together, yeah. And so I went back and I said the next day and I said you know, stephen, you've got you can, you can outsmart these people.
Speaker 1:But now they love you.
Speaker 2:So I went, yes, but I went in and I was very kiss ass nice, that's good. I pulled out my customer service friendliness Mm-hmm and we started talking Mm-hmm, and it was sincere yeah. I told her that she reminded me of a friend of mine that was a McDonald's owner which it happened to be the people that bought my restaurants when I retired, so I leave.
Speaker 2:You threw out the McDonald's card and that changed it all I did and I felt a little smarmy doing that. And she stopped me mid-conversation and said, wait, you own McDonald's. And I was like oh yeah, yeah and I tried to keep going. And she's like, wait, you own McDonald's. And I was like oh, yeah, yeah, and I tried to keep going and she's like, wait, did you get out? I was like, yeah, girl. I was like I was in that 30 years, I was, you know, it was wonderful, I loved it, but it ran its course and I moved on.
Speaker 1:Stephen does pull out the McDonald's card from time to time. I just must say but you know, it's a good thing to have in your back pocket. I guess I think I'm going to start saying I owned McDonald's, use it. I own four of them. I know all the stories, you know you can sound legit and I can say and they'll say oh, do you know? Oh, I got out before they were there. Oh, yeah, I remember them. We were in the same co-op together. You see, you know the lingo.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know the lingo I'm gonna start and it was funny. So I was like okay, I think this did it. Dylan just kept his mouth closed this the whole time. It was just kind of smiling and the funny thing is I asked her the first time we went, when she was really rushing, and asked her to take product, to get it online just out of the showroom and to come right back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I've never had anybody do this. She said, OK, but they photographed every piece that I was taking out of their showroom. Oh, to make sure you brought it back. Ok, after I told her that I owned mcdonald's, we she just gave us everything. She's like, gave us everything to take out. No photographs, nothing, yeah, plus, we came back with a whole bag to do lives whenever it's convenient for you know you gotta that's called networking, right it really is, it's called networking.
Speaker 2:Dylan was like wow, she really changed. I said and I told amanda that she was laughing. She's like yeah, she said basically you told her honey, I don't, I don't need your stuff, I've got better at home. That's funny. I said oh God, I said, it makes me feel a little smarmy and I'm like, hey, you know, whatever it takes is not Right and maybe, in all fairness, maybe she just needed to know that I wasn't a crook.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she never met you before I'm a legit business person and I get it. It's fine. But yeah, I will use that if I need to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's crazy. But back to, it's impressive that we are like customers, that we're shopping for our customer in real time, and there are vendors that we oh I think we want to do this vendor and then we'll get there and be like they don't have anything. This time we're not doing it and we're on the hunt for something else it's not special enough and listen.
Speaker 1:People don't realize in how real time it is and then you got to put it. The technical part is that I was getting to. You have to put it all in the system.
Speaker 2:She said you know, they've had people do live sales. And they said we have never seen anyone as efficient and fast, efficient and organized as you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we've gotten that a few times because we have really honed in that, because we do them during market, when we're also shopping. Because we do them during market when we're also shopping and it's like interrupting, we're having to stop shopping. So we've made it as efficient as we could Like used to. When we started out, it was this whole ordeal.
Speaker 2:We made it way too complicated.
Speaker 1:We pull out a tripod that collapses down to about a foot, and a phone, a laptop, put it all in and we're like we're live and they're like wait, are you? And we're like we're live and they're like wait are?
Speaker 2:you like we're good, I could do a lot. I'm not kidding, I could do a live snail now in the car, yeah.
Speaker 1:We need to do a training. If anyone we need to do live sale consulting for those who are interested. It was funny.
Speaker 2:We were taking this stuff out and I told Dylan I said we're going to do this, we'll do this one, then we're going to come back, we're going to get more and we will just take it to Hawaii. We're going to do a live when we're in Hawaii.
Speaker 2:He's like are you serious? I'm like, yeah, it's just like I'll set it up before we go and it's just going to be an hour. Yeah, and we can do it like at the pool. Yeah, and it will be fun to bring all of our customers along while we're in Hawaii, and we'll have fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and the good thing is that with the time difference there, I forget how many hours. It is six hours, so like if you're doing one, it's a seven or eight eastern time it's two in the afternoon, you're good to go? Yeah, it's not like you know it's your lunchtime or something, yeah, uh, so, yeah, so I was impressed. I don't know how we got off on all the live sales, but but it was.
Speaker 2:It was very fun and, uh, the good news is is there's even like more ideas that I got while while we were there and there's so much uncharted territory, oh yeah, and I think it's fun and I think our customers really like us finding like some of the new.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all the new stuff and I feel like they really love the variety.
Speaker 2:You know, sometimes we're doing home decor, sometimes we're doing jewelry, and it's all learning, like we did moissanite jewelry and if you don't know what moissanite is basically, dylan corrects me on this so he'll be like don't say that it's lab. It's real diamonds, lab created diamonds and moissanite is right under that. It's the third level down from a real diamond, but it is chemically it is so close to a diamond that if you have the electronic diamond scanner it doesn't pick up that it's fake. Oh, really, really, that's crazy. So we took our Cartier rings that have the Cartier diamonds, bougie.
Speaker 1:Bougie.
Speaker 2:We took the Cartier diamond and put it next to the Moissanite. We took a photo and then zoomed in.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and they look the same you cannot tell the difference.
Speaker 2:And see, I'm a dumbass when it comes to diamonds you could tell me this is a fifty thousand dollar, you know, six carat diamond. I'm gonna be like, okay, yeah, I mean, unless it looks like a piece of quartz you found got out in your driveway, I'm gonna believe you. Yeah, but I was. So I was skeptical about moissanite, um, but then we read about it, you know, we saw it, and it even comes with like a certificate it does, it does, and it's set in sterling silver and the sterling silver doesn't tarnish because it's rhodium plated on top of the silver.
Speaker 1:So you've got I mean, you've got a nice piece, um, I call it travel jewelry, I was gonna say, especially if you're traveling or if you or maybe you just want variety of a ring, yeah, and you don't, and you don't want to spend thousands of dollars.
Speaker 2:If you want three different types of diamond earrings, you're not going to. Who's going to spend that money other than Kim Kardashian on that kind? You know? I mean I, it just has its place, the customers loved it. I know that, yes, I was shocked how many people were familiar with moissanite yeah but you know I mean that. I guess that's more of a oh and they were buying it up.
Speaker 1:I know that it's, it is so you have to do that one again, because you only did a few pieces, like five maybe seven.
Speaker 2:We did four earrings, yeah, and there's probably 40,000. Four earrings and a couple of rings, but I didn't have time I had 30 minutes to get it on, and so we had to do it was a good trial.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But there's so much more. Like the stones, like the earrings. I kept it basic, and then there was a lot of different styles. But then I'm like, well, we can't do that because it gets too confusing for the warehouse. So I figure we can just keep doing different.
Speaker 1:Layer it in. Layer it in, add some more. Give people choice. Well, and on Tuesday, if you're listening, he'll be back in Atlanta doing the bags, but so we went to Florida.
Speaker 2:Yes, this is going to air Tuesday. Yes, so we'll be live in Atlanta. Dylan and I will be around 2.30 or 3 pm.
Speaker 1:Eastern Hoping for 2.30 Eastern time. Yeah, all inside the Nested Fig app. If you don't have the app, see the notes below. You can click the link there or just search the Nested Fig in your app store. So we went to Florida this past week. We were only there. We left on Monday, came back on Thursday and it was a great time. Sorry you weren't there.
Speaker 2:You had to work. I know I haven't been in two years I need to go.
Speaker 1:It was so much fun going this time. This was the first time we've gone, been down there before and Daniel's parents came down for a few nights, but this was the first time going with my parents and my niece was there and she's six. So this time we went as we were vacationing, like as if we were vacationing. So it was a lot of fun. We did, you know, just fun things, and we weren't working on the house or you know anything like that.
Speaker 2:This time did you?
Speaker 1:take her to water park. We did not, I mean, it went by so fast. But she was very happy at the beach and she just, it was so fun. She loves daniel and they were playing and we were at the beach and the pool and then we went to eat and it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1:It goes so you know, so quick. So it was really good. But on the way down there. So we flew, we had from Greenville to Charlotte Wait, on the way down there, yes, Greenville to Charlotte and then Charlotte to the Destin Airport, whatever it's called Fort Walton. So we made it to Charlotte no problem On our flight from Charlotte to Fort Lauderdale you mean Fort Walton, Fort Walton, Fort Walton, not Fort Lauderdale, Fort Walton, Our plane. So I don't know, I still don't know what happened. I think he was talking about something they have to hook up to at the airport, our plane. So I don't know, I still don't know what happened. I think he was talking about something they have to hook up to at the airport.
Speaker 1:Some kind of like power source didn't work, so that bring like a portable one. Well then, that portable one didn't work, so they had to bring another portable unit. But when they brought that, one of the workers hit his head under the plane, gashed his head open and we had to wait for, like, the emergency services to come get him. And I mean it was like he's still under the plane. The pilot kept, the captain kept giving updates. He's like the worker is still under the plane. We're waiting on them to bring him out from under the plane.
Speaker 2:We were delayed like over an hour. I would have been like let me off. I would have pulled him out of the way and said can we get on with?
Speaker 1:this. That's what I was like. I mean, I hate that someone hit their head but can we not? Like drag him out from under the plane and get going. We were laughing, it was funny and it was hot. Part of the power source was the AC wouldn't work. Laughing, it was funny and it was hot. Part of the power source was the AC wouldn't work. You and I have been in that.
Speaker 2:Okay, I've got to ask because I said I was never flying into Fort Walton Airport again. Was it better it?
Speaker 1:was better. It was smoother and I did notice they had all new scanning machines, so it was better. So Stephen and I flew into Fort Walton when we had bought the cottage. You know, we bought it sight unseen, that's a whole nother story. And then, once we went under contract, I was like, do you want to go down there and look at this to see if you even like it? I don't know how we can get out of it, but you might want to go. So we went down there and we flew into Fort Walton. We were only there like 24 hours right.
Speaker 2:When we were there.
Speaker 1:It was a cluster, but it was also during COVID it was during COVID 2021, and their scanning machine went down is what it was. Oh yeah, that's what I noticed. The baggage scanning machine, like you know, to go through security, went down and they only had one, I guess, at the time, and it the line was like something you would see at like New York City airport, when something happens. It was wrapped around the door. I couldn't figure, I couldn't remember how that ever ended.
Speaker 2:It was wrapped around the whole outside of the damn airport.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's what I'm saying. But how did that end? Did we get on the flight? I remember us standing in line. We couldn't get a rental car because they were all gone already. Did we just stay there and stand in line for hours and hours? Yeah, we did, and get out. I couldn't remember when I was there.
Speaker 2:We met friends.
Speaker 1:We all you know it was fun, it was fun.
Speaker 2:You know, after the fact that time it was not fun, I was not happy and it was like peak.
Speaker 1:you know travel summer season down there. It was in July sometime, I don't remember.
Speaker 2:And my thing is I just can't June. It's just a lot when you're hot and there's no rental car, I don't mind. If there's a solution, I can deal with it. If there is a solution, if I'm like, okay, well, we can get in this car and drive home. We're going to be three hours late. Okay, yeah, but we were just standing there Dead in the water.
Speaker 1:Another big thing this week. What you want to talk about it Steven's getting a colonoscopy.
Speaker 2:I'm getting roto-rooted on Friday.
Speaker 1:His first time, well, for a colonoscopy. I don't know about roto-rooting.
Speaker 2:Oh, I dread it so bad. I dread the whole thing. But you know it's one of those things you have to do. You do, you do and it's going to be fine.
Speaker 1:I just want to know from you, because I know people you know make it funny.
Speaker 2:But I'll tell you the truth.
Speaker 1:I want to know from you, like you know, because you're going to go to the bathroom a lot, but I feel like if you prepare for that, like hey, on this day I'm just this one I'm gonna be doing yeah, I mean when we get back from Atlanta on Wednesday, I mean really I'm out of work from.
Speaker 2:Hopefully I'll be coming back.
Speaker 1:Sunday Can you go ahead and like juice cleanse the day before that you're supposed to take all the stuff?
Speaker 2:Well that they say go eat, because you're not going to eat Okay.
Speaker 1:So what is the what is?
Speaker 2:the procedure. I have not looked. I have the bag in the pantry, so you start on.
Speaker 1:Thursday.
Speaker 2:You're having the colonoscopy on Friday. I start Friday, friday. I don't know where that came from. Friday On Friday.
Speaker 1:I don't even say Monday, tuesday, wednesday, friday, friday I don't know where that came from. Colonoscopy on Friday, so you have to prep on Thursday.
Speaker 2:I have to take and I'm shocked. Okay, for those of you that do not know, I am a huge, huge vitamin and supplement person. Love my vitamins and my supplements. It's almost comical, but if you know me, you know I'm all about it. Like I have a routine, I take supplements twice a day.
Speaker 1:He almost took too many. I did. Well, you did take too many he was having negative effects, maybe for a minute.
Speaker 2:You have to be careful, so anyway, I had to stop. I had to stop the. I had to stop. The last supplements I've had were Thursday and I feel like I am just about to die.
Speaker 1:Oh, you had to stop like a week before All supplements you stop a week before. Oh, so you can tell a difference.
Speaker 2:No, Mentally I can't.
Speaker 1:Not physically. So it's mental that you can. You're like, oh, I need.
Speaker 2:The timing is really weird. So you're supposed to stop all blood thinners, like a week before. Well, I mean, I'm not asking, I mean it is what it is, but steroids thin your blood. Well, my immune system started. I have a a huge overactive immune system. Um, so I you know from working so much in Atlanta, just being bam, bam, bam bam. If I don't get enough rest, um, my immune system will just start going crazy. So I have to take steroids to calm it down, Right, and I was like, oh my gosh, I'm not supposed to take these. So I'm like, well, I've got to get it calmed down. I can't be sick for a week. Yeah, so I just took them. I took them yesterday.
Speaker 1:Well, Friday, yesterday and today Bloody mess, and I'm not taking anymore.
Speaker 2:Okay, so I'm like that should be fine.
Speaker 1:Might be a bloody mess.
Speaker 2:Yeah, five days, but then Thursday. I guess every doctor handles it different, but I take four at noon on Thursday.
Speaker 1:Is that when it all starts? That's when you start taking stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I take four Ducalax pills, oh, and then I can't remember I think at three o'clock, two or three o'clock, I start drinking the Drano. That really blows it out. But the hard thing is.
Speaker 1:And here's why you're going to, or anything.
Speaker 2:No, you can drink chicken broth and green jello. You can eat green jello, drink chicken broth or vegetable broth. Yeah, but I'm just going to.
Speaker 1:I'll eat jello.
Speaker 2:I don't need it, and the hard thing for me is going to be not any of that but I have to get up at five o'clock.
Speaker 1:Friday morning and do it again, oh, and take more stuff. What time is your colonoscopy? It's good noon. Oh, my gosh, I'm gonna be exhausted. Yeah, but they put you out right, yeah, yeah, so you'll get a good nap, you'll sleep, you'll be good by Saturday, hopefully. Yeah, you know a lot of yeah, that 5 am part would be the worst. And then do you get any sleep? Are you getting up and down all night?
Speaker 2:Yeah, they say you're just exhausted. Yeah, and but one friend of mine had it done. She had an excessive amount of polyps in her colon which they removed and it was all fine, but she was in pain. She was like in the bed for a week. I'm like, yeah but you know it's fine, it's what is you know as long as, as long as I am cancer free and everything's good, I'm not going to complain.
Speaker 1:You know we wish you the best of luck. We'll be thinking about you. Everybody be thinking about Steven and we'll get an update next week with how Do you need me to record it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, the whole process.
Speaker 1:Have you prepped down there? Have you like I don't know? Have you done anything down there? No, you like I don't know, have you done anything down there?
Speaker 2:No, I'm not doing anything down there, but they did put notes and it said that your butt will get raw. They like have Vaseline and stuff.
Speaker 1:I'm like that sounds horrible. Oh my God, that does I think. Hmm, I don't know. You need to clean it up down there and stuff before you go. Listen, it's. I think you should write a note like on your butt cheek, hey, y'all.
Speaker 2:Welcome, mind the curves.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, that is so funny. I have a little riddle for you. We haven't done a riddle in a long time. Oh, great Spell, what.
Speaker 2:W-H-A-T.
Speaker 1:Spell what again.
Speaker 2:W-h A-T-A-G A-I-N.
Speaker 1:Now what does that spell if you remove the W Hat? You're right, most people say hut Really, because it tricks your brain.
Speaker 2:What, what, Remove the W.
Speaker 1:Most people say hut, but you said hat, you got it right.
Speaker 2:Okay, Today, Southern is us. Oh God, we're still doing this. We are and we're going to cover some I think we're out of time.
Speaker 1:No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2:We're going to cover some food. Oh, did you eat yet? Well, that means, did you eat yet? Yes, but one food in particular. If you're from the North, y'all, just do not eat it and you need to open your mind.
Speaker 1:It's probably something Grits oh grits. I like grits I love grits. They don't eat that up North.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Is that just it didn't travel up there? I mean why? It's just like oatmeal or something.
Speaker 2:They don't eat grits and they don't drink sweet tea.
Speaker 1:Oh, Well, I know sweet tea, just because I mean, I guess that's just, I don't know, I don't like sweet tea.
Speaker 2:I like unsweetened Sweet tea is way too sweet for me.
Speaker 1:Sweet tea you have to grow up on. Yeah, if you've grown up on it and then but it's so sweet. But see, I don't. I never drink tea anymore. I haven't. I don't drink tea ever, but growing up we always had a pitcher of tea. It's very good for you if it's not full of sugar. Ours was full of sugar.
Speaker 2:Ours was too, but I order it now at restaurants unsweetened with lemon. It's gross, just drink water.
Speaker 1:Speaking of that and sweetened, that made me think. Used to as a kid and I think this is a Southern thing, or maybe it was just a my household thing Let me know about this one. We used to put a little sugar on our white rice with butter. We'd have white rice, just a pinch of sugar, just the same way you would do like salt or something, just a little sprinkle and then butter on it.
Speaker 2:Did you do that? Yeah, and also kind of akin to that is, my grandma Merck made bread pudding, which I mean not bread rice pudding, which now I have never had anyone's rice pudding that I really loved.
Speaker 1:I don't know that I've ever had, except my grandma.
Speaker 2:Merck's. Yeah, it was so good. Mm-hmm, it was so good. So one of the things, one of the 5,000 things I got out of my grandparents' house. I was very, very close to my grandparents and so one thing that I have is this one casserole dish. She made her squash casserole and or her rice pudding in this casserole dish.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I was there one day and I said I need that yeah, and she was like really, and I was like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:That's fine.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I have that yeah.
Speaker 1:Um what's your next Southernism?
Speaker 2:Biscuits and gravy.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, biscuits and gravy.
Speaker 2:Is that? That's a southern thing too.
Speaker 1:That is a southern thing, and they're just missing out on all the stuff they are and funny story.
Speaker 2:This is a true story. So when my grandfather proposed to my, my grandmother this would have been in the 1930s. Yeah, it was so romantic, his one of his requirements to marrying her. I mean she should have. My grandfather was a great man but he was a bit of a chauvinist I guess. But you know that was probably common in the 1930s, in the South Part of his proposal. Yeah, you know, I remember my grandmother telling me this and I thought I would have ran. Yeah, Like I would have said, no, thank you was.
Speaker 1:she had to promise that she would make three hot meals a day and she had to make fresh bread at every meal oh my god, how romantic I'd have been like no, like hell no, so I'd have been like we're that's gonna be on a moving scale of how much you provide you know, that was how he was, and listen y'all, he mellowed out.
Speaker 2:By the time I was born, he was a cupcake. I don't think he was anything like. According to my father and my aunts, he was nothing like that when they were young. Right, yeah, but yeah, he so my entire life. You know, as long as my grandfather was alive. Things changed when he died, yeah, but while he was alive there were three hot meals a day. There was never. We're just going to have a sandwich.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no, no, no. It was like full on meal.
Speaker 2:Yes, three times a day. And we had biscuits at least biscuits three times a day, cornbread twice a day. And we had biscuits at least Biscuits three times a day, cornbread twice a day.
Speaker 1:Okay, but so did she just cook. I mean, was her whole day just cooking? No, no, no, no, no, no. Was she just?
Speaker 2:efficient. I mean how she was efficient. So before I was born, in the early years, they were cotton farmers, yeah, and so she worked the cotton fields all day. She had four children at home. She would literally have a baby and go back to the field. That's crazy, that is just crazy. It's true, yeah, and when I was a kid their gardens were. I mean, now I look at it I'm like holy cow. I mean it was work but it was fun for me because that was fun. But their gardens were like five to ten acres. That's crazy.
Speaker 2:So it was we would. I would get up early in the morning and we would go work in the garden. I thought it was fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We would hoe the garden.
Speaker 1:But how do you do stuff like that and cook three meals a day? She?
Speaker 2:would leave. How she did it, I don't know. She would honestly leave the field and in 30 minutes she had a whole spread.
Speaker 1:You're like how'd you make all that?
Speaker 2:I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:And the thing is is my grandfather did not have a tractor until I don't know I might have been 10 years old. Until then, he used a mule. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:That's even crazier. Well, that goes to. We have some we can talk about this right, some friends who his mom had a menu. Yes, can we talk about that?
Speaker 2:Yes, so we have friends we won't say who and they got married. This is kind of like my grandfather's level. This is the rich city folk in Greenville compared to the country version yeah, yeah, yeah. So they get married, and I've seen this menu by the way they get married, and I've seen this menu by the way they get married. They're professional adults, successful professional adults, not young, and they're discussing well, how do you want to do meals? What would you like to?
Speaker 1:eat, and this is after they had gotten married.
Speaker 2:After they had gotten married. They didn't date long, got married, you know. They knew. Yeah, you know, let's get to it. We're, you know, getting long in the tooth. This is good. And he responded with. Well, what my mom did was she created a menu for my father and, on like Sunday, he would circle everything he wanted for the week and turn it in.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then that was his dinner.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was just for dinner, yeah, which I think is almost genius in a way, because then you know what you're cooking every day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and she could go to the grocery and get it.
Speaker 1:The lady the wife. So this would have been the people we know Parents, Parents. So the lady the wife would present a menu and I guess it was kind of the same menu every week sort of thing. I mean, she would change it up, but it was a printed menu.
Speaker 2:Oh, it was a printed menu, but it was a lot. Picture a meat and three Mm-hmm, a lot of combos, times, three, yeah. So like you would pick your appetizer, so he would circle like Monday.
Speaker 1:Let's say Monday he would circle what he wanted for an appetizer, what he wanted for a meat, what he wanted for sides. And then he'd go to Tuesday and then go to Tuesday and then so she knew all the groceries she needed to buy and what she was cooking each day, which honestly sounds kind of like an efficient way to do it, because if you can prep something you know, while you're cooking this meal on Monday, well, tomorrow night we're having this. Let me go ahead and prep this.
Speaker 2:And actually I don't think you know this, because I really didn't expect this. She had a job, oh yeah, and a much lower paying job. Like a very respectable and important job, yeah, but she had a lower paying job. You know, she was married to a very successful man. She did not have to work by any means. Yeah, she worked. So I guess she was like if you want me to cook dinner, I need to know what we're. Uh-huh.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it kind of takes the decision-making off of her. You know what I'm saying, you know when you get home? Well, what do you want? I don't know Whatever you want to make, well, what do you want?
Speaker 2:And there's this back and forth, and she could put stuff on the menu, she only has to put what she wants to make and she might be like oh, I'm energetic tonight, I'm going to go ahead and prepare this this, this, this and put it in the freezer and then I know For the rest of the week I can go ahead and prep this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but our friend didn't respond. The same, no.
Speaker 2:She said well, that is not going to happen, so we don't need to talk about the menu any longer. But the funny thing is and we've discussed this at links, yeah and um, we've discussed the menu many times and we've gotten a good laugh and you know, and I helped them move and found the menu and I had to sit down and just look through the menu yeah it just honestly, if my grandfather had thought about it, my, my grandma would have been putting a menu on yeah so he could pick.
Speaker 2:That would have been right up his alley. But the thing with our friends they said we don't know what we want to eat. You know, her point was I don't know what I want to eat tomorrow, much less Friday night, like I don't want to pick that. And then what if I'm just like I don't want that?
Speaker 1:But I feel like maybe if you present the menu and then you circle it and you read it, then you kind of get in your oh, like Friday night we're going to have blah, blah, blah, like you kind of start to look forward to it. I would think.
Speaker 2:And there wasn't like a. There wasn't like let's skip it, go to dinner one night. There wasn't that option on there.
Speaker 1:But do you think if she was like, hey, I'm not cooking, sorry about the menu we're going out tonight? I don't think so. It just didn't happen at all like that.
Speaker 2:I don't think so. I think it would have been a special occasion. I need someone to present me a menu. I would love to see that.
Speaker 1:Daniel, I'm going to need a menu.
Speaker 2:It would be very efficient.
Speaker 1:We'll have to hire a personal chef before there's a menu.
Speaker 2:But I'm just shocked that they didn't have. I would have thought, like when they first told me this story, I thought they did a menu for a housekeeper to have it ready. That would have made sense to me. That's the only way I would get given the family right. But no, no, no, no, it was for her to make it To make it.
Speaker 2:But can you imagine Dylan handing me a menu for the week and said this is what I want for dinner this week? Hell, I would have been like I'm not even in town. That week. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Good luck, I'm not cooking it. I'm glad you got your menu together, but you better get in there and cook it yourself. Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2:I have to work up when I cook and I like to cook, but it isn't anything I love to do. Yeah, you don't cook at all. I like to do it, but I make a mess, yeah, and I have to really get it in my head like, okay, I'm going to make this. Yeah, I do it. I want it cleaned up over with, done, ready to go. Yeah, and I I'm actually, you know, I guess it's cooking is not hard for me. My mother was an amazing cook. Like my mother was one of those cooks. My mother was like a Martha Stewart, but I hated cooking because a lot of times I had to help wash dishes. We didn't have a dishwasher.
Speaker 1:She dirtied Everything, the whole kitchen at one time.
Speaker 2:Everything. And I would always say like mom. And I would always say, like Mom, why do you have to use a different bowl and spoon and ladle, and can we not just rinse something off and reuse it for the same dish? And she would just say, oh, be quiet, get out of my kitchen.
Speaker 1:But, she.
Speaker 2:I've never seen anybody just amazing cook, yeah, and she would drive you in like helping her. That's the reason I never helped. I tried to never help her because it was she made nothing out of a like if she made it out of a box, it was out of a box. We're having hamburger helper. Yeah, there was no hamburger helper.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there was no disguising. No, everything was scratch. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean, her soups were like amazing and twice baked potato, just everything was so always so pretty, yeah, and so I kind of like it. I like doing it when it's really pretty. I guess I got that part of my mother.
Speaker 1:Well, do you have any other Southernisms? That's it for today.
Speaker 2:Just the food.
Speaker 1:Okay, well then we're going to move on real quick and then we got to wrap this baby up, so I got a lot. You know, we never know how a podcast is going to go and be perceived and sometimes, you know, everyone thinks they're funny and sometimes, you know, everyone thinks they're funny and I'm like I don't know what was funny. I have to go back and listen to them. I got so many messages last week and maybe because I posted a small clip, but you know, I asked you what you secretly judge people on and you said women who wear like blue eyeliner.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, Do you know how many messages I've gotten?
Speaker 1:I have. Literally that's what I was liner. Oh my God, do you know how many messages I've gotten? I meant to ask you are you getting messages on this Cause? See, we weren't together. Normally, when I start getting messages, I'll be like oh, we hit something this week. He'll be like yes, I'm getting the messages too, but I forgot to ask you.
Speaker 2:I'm like and I, you know, yes, I have gotten dozens and dozens and dozens of messages.
Speaker 1:Not even that but comments.
Speaker 2:But you know what? Not one person was offended. They're like. You are correct that is what I.
Speaker 1:So I was surprised that someone didn't say I didn't see any of my messages and I tried to watch. No one said like well, I love blue eyeliner. Or like everyone was like I agree with Steven, no, blue eyeliner. No, do you know the?
Speaker 2:and it's funny that I even know about eyeliner because I mean, you know, some people, even some, some gays, are into makeup and I don't, I could care less. I would never. You can look at me and tell I don't put shit on my face, but when I was a kid or a teenager, a lot of time my mother was obsessed with her makeup. My mother was a true toehead blonde and she had, like, blonde eyelashes and eyebrows, so she had to wear, you know, more makeup, and so many times, because I worked in a town next door that had a Belk that sold she wore Lancome makeup, so I would. She would always make a list that I would have to go by and get Makeup, the Makeup counter.
Speaker 2:And you know I said, you know this blue's really pretty, and she was like no, but in the 80s that would have been the thing. She wouldn't have done that. But it was funny because I was like she sent me to get eyeliner one day and she said go to the lancome counter and get me the, the pencil, and it's charcoal gray. Yeah, I'm like why are you wearing charcoal gray? She said black is too harsh for me.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:So it was funny. I guess that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I guess you know, depending on your skin tone, and she would have been a cool tone person, so the gray would have been better than brown.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there you go, and the more you know, mm-hmm, I mean heck, yeah. Well, it's time to pull this baby over. We've got to get ready for our lives, still In the backyard, on the patio. I know I meant to make us some of the drinks, the frozen drinks. I even brought it home, but I forgot to put it in the freezer.
Speaker 2:What a shocker.
Speaker 1:I know we're just going to hang out there and have fun, but we will see you next week. Remember, you can listen anywhere. You get a podcast or you can go to whosedrivingpodcastcom and you can listen for free there, or join our online community. That's where you can watch us. Oh, I want to.
Speaker 2:I've got a question. Okay, do any of you do a menu in your home?
Speaker 1:Oh, hotline number.
Speaker 2:The hotline number is 864-982-5029.
Speaker 1:I forgot to check the hotline.
Speaker 2:like the last two weeks, we'll have to go back and see what people have said Let us know if you use a menu, because I honestly kind of like the idea, text or call us or, if you're in the community, leave it in the notes.
Speaker 1:You can leave comments 864-982-5029. We'll see you next week. Yep, yep, bye, y'all.