Who's Driving- When friends drive separately, the conversations get real. S3E20

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Transcript

Welcome to Who's Driving

Speaker 1 0:00

Who's driving? Ain't nobody driving Separately, but we're here, we're driving separately. I've been in the office. You and I have a packed week. I feel like it's getting busier and busier. In the summertime it's supposed to be a little bit slower, but it's time for another episode of who's Driving. Welcome to who's Driving. I'm Wesley Turner.

Speaker 2 0:18

And I'm Stephen Merck. We're two best friends and entrepreneurs.

Speaker 1 0:21

Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the behind the scenes of our lives, friendship and business.

Speaker 2 0:26

These are the stories we share and topics we discuss, as two best friends would on a long road trip.

Speaker 1 0:32

Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer a wide range of informative topics centered around running small businesses, social media and all things home and garden.

Speaker 2 0:40

Buckle up and enjoy the ride.

Speaker 1 0:42

You never know who's driving or where we're headed. All we know is it's always a fun ride. So, girl, what you doing.

Speaker 2 0:52

I've been in my office all day.

Speaker 1 0:54

Steven is in a mood I had to like come on, girl, let's do this Listen it's one of those times.

Speaker 2 1:05

If I could reach through my computer and grab this woman on the other end in Indiana, I would probably be in jail right now if I could get my hands on her.

Speaker 1 1:17

It's one of those times I'm glad I'm in my own. We're driving separately. I'm pulling out of it now I'm pulling out of it now.

Speaker 2 1:28

It's one of those moves when you really want to slap the hell out of somebody, but you can't. It makes you real frustrated.

Speaker 1 1:38

That's where I was. This will loosen you up having a fun little chat. So what have you been? Working on so everyone knows, so they can sympathize with you.

Speaker 2 1:47

I've been doing our workers' comp insurance audit, so anybody out there. That has to do anybody that's in business for themselves or works for a company and they're in administration. You know about workers' comp audits. You have to do them every year every year yeah, every year, and it should be very simple, clean, clean, cut, streamlined. And this one auditing company just keeps making it more and more and more complicated. I like it doesn't need to be complicated. It's really not complicated. Here's what we paid out. Here's their jobs.

Speaker 1 2:32

The employees what do?

Speaker 2 2:34

we owe you.

Speaker 1 2:35

Well hopefully your mood gets a little better.

Speaker 2 2:42

It's just the way it is.

Speaker 1 2:44

Well.

Speaker 2 2:44

I was in McDonald's North Carolina and South Carolina McDonald's owners are self-insured, so I really liked that. It was very clean, cut and easy and you got dividends back when you didn't have any accidents and expenses. Oh, that's cool, yeah, so I got. Even after I got out of McDonald's, I got rebate checks for seven years. Oh dang.

Speaker 1 3:15

That's nice.

Speaker 2 3:17

I mean, some of them were in the thousands, but I had no. I think I had one worker's comp in all my years. Well, it is such a pain.

Speaker 1 3:29

I used to do all of that and then I said I'm not doing this. Well, it was so. The company, the insurance that we have, makes it complicated, and so I would usually call our insurance rep and say if you want this policy, then you need to fill out this report for me, and I would send all the information. And they did. But then the owner of the insurance, our person, left, and so now we're on our own, and then I was like you got to take this over because I ain't doing it.

Speaker 2 3:56

But it's all good, I got it done. That's good Much happier now.

Speaker 1 4:02

So last week, when we left off let's see where were we leaving off oh, you were going to Atlanta, which you did, did some live sales. Oh, your colonoscopy is what you were left off with. So let's talk about the colonoscopy, the good old roto-rootering.

Speaker 2 4:19

Yes, I forgot. Okay. And you said you know I'll tell you. And you told me. Wesley said when I was going in, he said I'm so glad you're having it done because you will tell me exactly what's what.

Speaker 1 4:33

Well, I feel like all of us, you will tell the truth and you know how it was.

Speaker 2 4:41

It was fine, and you know people talk about the prep. None of that bothered me, it wasn't that bad, I don't. I usually only eat really one meal a day. I might banana popsicles and lime jello, which I like, and it was fine and everything was fine. The only thing was I'm not a huge salty person and I guess the magnesium and sodium, whatever, whatever, in that mixture that you drink was like the best way I can describe it. It's like drinking ocean water, even mixing it with something. But you know I just killed.

Speaker 1 5:36

That's not. That's not the worst, though, either. I mean, it's not like it was. Uh, you know, uh, I don't know some kind of Putrid taste. Yeah, it was just salty, it wasn't like a rurk taste.

Speaker 2 5:49

No, but so I mixed it up the day before I had to take five Dulcolax pills at noon.

Speaker 1 5:58

Yeah. And then about two hours later that hit, so that was okay so when you're going through the uh, the process, the prep process, yeah, which you know, you gotta, you're, you're, you're getting everything out, you're flushing everything out. Is that like, and you take like those pills and you have to do this drink or whatever does it hit? Are you in like cramping pain or is it just like, oh, I got to go to the bathroom, no, it's like I got to go to the bathroom and it's not that big of a deal.

Speaker 1 6:31

So it wasn't torment, you were just going to the bathroom. A lot, and. I thought, so you know it was like the first time after the Dulcolax was like a normal Movement Extreme coffee poop.

Speaker 2 6:47

You know it was. It was it was. I drank three cups of coffee poop.

Speaker 1 6:50

And everyone can relate to that. You know everyone, everybody everybody can.

Insurance Audit Frustrations

Speaker 2 7:00

So I was like, well dang, I don't know how much could be left. And so then I killed that drink. Like I drank that in like 20 minutes the mixture. I had to do that at five, the first one at five, and after I did that, let me get rid of that. After I did that, like before I finished it in that 20 minutes, I was like, ooh, I gotta go to the bathroom. It was, honestly, it was kind of clear after all that when they say clear, it's really it looks like urine. It has a yellow hue to it. So I did that. I was completely done, going to the bathroom within two hours. Okay, so I slept. I slept normal. I set my alarm to get up at six because I had my colonoscopy was at one, got up at six, I did that drink again it did the same thing, but quicker.

Speaker 2 7:57

Yeah, and it was just a pale yellow, and then I went Okay, yellow. And then I went okay and my only only issue with the whole thing was really not related to anything. It was just I have horrible anxiety, so it wasn't even the procedure. It was like my mind was the OCD.

Speaker 1 8:21

I had OCD and health anxiety. I was going to say health anxiety because anything related to it. You just start spiraling.

Speaker 2 8:31

I can't shut it off. Yeah, and you know. So, you get there, Got there. Everyone was really nice. I checked in. Dylan got to go back with me, so I went in, went in the room I had to undress completely, panties and all. I left my socks on and they had heated blankets. So I said I need two please.

Speaker 1 9:06

And.

Speaker 2 9:07

I explained to the nurse. I said I have severe health anxiety so I need the doctor. I want to talk to the doctor prior to and immediately after when I'm awake, where we're going to have a big issue. I mean, I was very nice and they were the best. Like I can't even tell you if you live in the upstate South Carolina area and you're going to.

Speaker 2 9:36

You know, please go get a colonoscopy. Even if you have terrible health anxiety like me, it's good to go get it. It's good to know Colon cancer is the most curable cancer and preventable that there is. So just go do yourself a favor and go go do it and get it over with and you'll feel so much better about it. But it's. I went to Dr Lizardo at Greenville Gastroenterology and he was phenomenal. The nurses were phenomenal. They had great personalities. I mean it couldn't have been a better experience. He went through it with me. He got me calmed down. He was like I think you're fine, let's just get through the procedure. I woke up, it was great sleep. And he was like I think you're fine, let's just get through the procedure. Yeah, I woke up, it was great sleep. That propofol is. I wish he could come here like once a week and just give me propofol to sleep for like one hour a week and I would be a much happier person.

Speaker 1 10:42

Okay, Michael Jackson.

Speaker 2 10:43

I see how it happened.

Speaker 1 10:44

I see how it happened, I see how it happened.

Speaker 2 10:48

But I woke up and it was funny, Dylan was there and I woke up. I was like this and all of a sudden I woke up. He said I was like Is everything okay? Is everything okay? You were immediately. I didn't miss a beat. I was true to myself. So I had two small polyps, one two millimeter, one five millimeter. I have some diverticula that were not severe, not infected. He said overall my colon, everything looked great and like. He brought the photos in to see me and I don't like gross things and I was like no, I don't want to see that, but you like sending gross stuff.

Speaker 1 11:38

You send me gross stuff all the time.

Speaker 2 11:41

But you know, that's after I've seen it. And so Dylan looked at it and he was like, steven, it's nothing, it's you can. I was like, let me see, yeah, and it wasn't. It wasn't anything, it just looked like my gums inside my mouth and um, so it was a. It was really a great experience. You know, I I never felt like I'd been violated or anything. I will say this, and I'm glad one of the nurses told me because when I got home I did bleed some, I guess, from removing the polyps. Yeah, the nurses was in, was in her early thirties and she had had, she had had it done and she was like you're going to feel a little weird in like where he'd removed them. So don't get alarmed. And then till they heal over.

Speaker 2 12:36

Yeah, it was like it was like two days. I could tell they did something, but it didn't hurt, if that makes sense. I could just tell something was going on and and then it was fine. But I knew um, a friend of mine had had it when she had a lot of polyps removed and she was sick for like a week, just really uncomfortable, and I was like but I see why, now I see where she was where she was coming from now, but it wasn't bad at all and he said I could come back in probably 10 years.

Speaker 2 13:13

And I'm like, no, we're gonna do this every three to five, just stay on top of it he's like okay I figure, if it's, if I do sooner than later, I won't be as anxious about it, right, because you know they grow so small. Yeah, yeah, so that was it. Well, that's good, it was an.

Speaker 1 13:36

A-plus experience and you're telling everybody, because you know there's people listening that hadn't had it done and they're way past their time and people who've been putting it off.

Speaker 2 13:48

Yes, please go do it. You'll feel so much better about it afterwards and you'll know I mean it's good to know if you have any diverticula in your colon. You know that way, if you do get sick or something comes up, you know that's there and you can address it. But you know there's some people that just don't. My dad is in his mid-70s. He's never had one, which is crazy to me.

Speaker 1 14:19

Yeah, some people just don't do it, refuse to do it. Well, I'm glad everything turned out and we're not having to, you know, talk you off the ledge.

Speaker 2 14:33

Yeah, I agree. I'm glad it's over with and it wasn't bad at all. Yeah.

Speaker 1 14:40

So coming up this week, speaking of being busy, and this is why we have a quick turnaround in today's Monday when we're recording this. This comes out tomorrow, which is Tuesday, Wednesday we are going to the Dallas market.

Colonoscopy Experience Breakdown

Speaker 2 14:55

Yes. I'm looking forward to it you ready for another trip? Yeah, this is my favorite gift market. Is my favorite gift market I mean High Point is extra special because that's my first love is the furniture and design and all that. But for gift market, dallas is my favorite just because it has those things that Atlanta doesn't it's like a open-air mall with a big atrium, yeah, so last, year.

Speaker 1 15:29

Last June was our first time going to the Dallas market, because Atlanta is two hours from here. We can be from our doors in a showroom in like two hours. Two hours and 15 minutes.

Speaker 2 15:40

Which is great.

Speaker 1 15:56

And Atlanta is the largest market to go to. So if you are a small business owner, which is great, you're going to get the most bang for your buck and you're going to get to see a lot more variety and vendors than Dallas, correct, but Dallas, like Stephen was saying, is so much it's nicer, the people are nicer. It's more. I don't know even how to explain it. You got to go to both if you haven't gone there.

Speaker 2 16:23

To me, the best way I can describe it is going to go to both. It's just you haven't gone there it. To me, it the best way I can describe it is going to the mall in 1985 or coffee and food and bistro tables, and it's just more comfortable yeah, they have atriums where you can see that it's daylight.

Speaker 1 16:42

They have a koi pond and fountains.

Speaker 2 16:46

Atlanta. You feel like you're locked up in a high-rise building Office building when you can't see anything which you are you?

Speaker 1 16:52

are, you might see something. When you're walking to the escalator or some showrooms, you might can go what's out that window or something. I go look, it's been raining for all day. We had no clue. Yeah, and Atlanta is just, they used to be very. They were there for the business owners, they were putting on events, they had food, they had parades.

Speaker 2 17:25

They had celebrities things going on, and now it's like just come if you want to.

Speaker 1 17:34

We're going to open the door for you.

Speaker 2 17:35

There's no we have some sandwiches from yesterday, if you want to buy it.

Speaker 1 17:42

Yeah, it's just weird how it's not as set up. But anyway, maybe they'll get it figured out one day. When I started going to market back in the day they like out in front of the buildings they were passing out free goodie bags. They had like people on steel, I mean it was like a circus out front. You could register for free things and then every showroom had amazing food.

Speaker 2 18:07

Uh, it was an event, even. It was an event ago, even 15 years ago. It was, it was, it was more like that.

Speaker 1 18:16

Now it's like but dallas was closer to that they were having giveaway like announcements, like come to this place, we're giving away this or we're doing that. I don't know. It wasn't much nicer feel. But we're going on Wednesday and the goal is to knock out a couple of our big orders that we do in Atlanta just to give us some more time. We always seem to run out of time, so we'll get some of our big vendors knocked out and do some live sales.

Speaker 1 18:44

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Speaker 1 19:07

You can get our app and join us live, because we have no idea what times we'll be live, but we're going to be there Wednesday afternoon. We're going to be there Thursday, friday and all day Saturday. We get back home I think it's at like 12.05 am on Sunday morning. So I can't believe it's already market season again for the summer market. I mean, we've been going to market for the small shows and to do live sales and stuff, but this is when we're going to actually start shopping for spring of 2026. So we'll be ordering spring Easter anything that we need for early 2026. Isn't that crazy?

Speaker 2 19:48

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 19:49

It is.

Speaker 2 19:51

But I'm excited to go to Dallas.

Speaker 1 19:54

Me too, me too.

Speaker 2 19:56

So I was scrolling on the gram and I read and I thought, oh my gosh, this is true, a trend going on in home design and decor, and I hadn't really thought about it until.

Speaker 2 20:14

I read this and they were showing photos and whatnot and they were saying the look is intentional clutter. And they were saying the look is intentional clutter, like you're instead of your. You know, we've kind of we kind of went through that whole minimalist phase and this is your, your maximalist kind of intentional clutter. And I got to thinking about it you know that that's a good way to describe it and I like some intentional clutter. I decided that I like it. I like intentional clutter contained in a specific area, like on a buffet.

Speaker 1 20:58

Yeah, intentional clutter feels warm, it feels cozy is what it does. It feels homey, so that's why it's appealing to most people. I've never heard it defined that way, but that is a good way to define it. But that's like showing off your collections, but not making them look junky. It's clean, it's styled. But it's intentionally, yeah, but put together and contain.

Speaker 2 21:26

that is a good way you have, if you have a, if you have a collection of whatever milk glass um right, silver jadeite you actually you have a collection of jadeite, what pottery, whatever. It looks nicer if you can display it all together in one collection rather than having it strewn over throughout your whole home. And I kind of put that in the intentional clutter and I'm like.

Speaker 1 21:59

Yeah, I like intentional clutter. Who would be really good, who is really good at defining this? Look, if you want to go see, it is Deb and the Nail. She does it so well because she'll have like a collection of bowls or whatever it is.

Speaker 2 22:15

Cream layer.

Speaker 1 22:16

Yeah yeah, she styles it really well together. So if you want to go, what the hell is intentional clutter? What are you even talking about?

Speaker 2 22:24

Go check out Deb and the Nelle on Instagram and see their have them back on, and it looks really great when you do it correctly.

Speaker 1 22:34

Yeah, it does, because what it does is it takes a lot of individual items and it makes a eye-stopping mess when you group them all together. I mean, it's basically what we do in our retail stores when we're styling something.

Speaker 1 22:51

You know this is the hardest thing Steven and I have had to teach over our years of having the retail stores is grouping everything that's alike together. Pile it together if you need to, don't have it strewn throughout the store Employees. And you know, specifically at our home store we get a lot of home designers, decorators, interior designers and that sort of thing and they always want to merchandise a store the way they would design a home, which is totally different when you're doing individual items. So to have that intentional clutter kind of plays off the merchandising where we group everything together, you turn some pieces on their sides, you stack them inside of each other.

Speaker 2 23:39

Yeah, so I've been working on the table in our foyer to create some intentional clutter there, and I have not. I told you I was working on it and I have not completely figured it out, but I'm buying, I know the look I'm going for, I know what I'm using, but I've just started collecting. You got to collect all the pieces and then do it.

Speaker 2 24:08

And then I decided I was laying in bed the other night and I was like I need a center point and I was like I'm going to do I haven't done this in a minute I want to go to the garden store and I'm going to do an arrangement. I need to do, I need to make a reel out of this. I'm going to do an arrangement as you would do a floral arrangement, but I'm just going to use dried mushrooms, pods and feathers. Not flowers, no greenery, just different things to make an arrangement.

Speaker 1 24:48

So very natural kind of masculine.

Speaker 2 24:52

Yes, yes, and then I want to use old silver. But God, I just got to complain for a minute. We went when Dylan and I were in Atlanta the last time we ran in my favorite antique store for about 20 minutes.

Speaker 1 25:08

The antiques are having their moment and they have gone up.

Speaker 2 25:12

Well, dylan was like Stephen. Here's a silver trophy vase, which is, you know, I want one or two of those. I was like $289. $1,100.

Speaker 1 25:26

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2 25:27

I need excuse me, where's the plate?

Speaker 1 25:30

I need the plated silver. You need the plastic.

Speaker 2 25:35

I was like good gracious.

Speaker 1 25:38

That's crazy.

Speaker 2 25:39

I mean that's a lot.

Speaker 1 25:41

I think we'll start seeing more reproductions of things like that in antique style coming. You know it takes a while to trickle in, but I think antiques we talked about it are really having their moment of coming back. I mean, antiques never, obviously go out of style. It just depends on whether you want that look. But then you know, a new generation discovers it and they think it's something new and it's not. They don't think it's something new. I hate when people say that like, oh, we've been doing this for years. They know it's been around for years, but now it's what they want too.

Speaker 2 26:14

so then it makes more people want it, but I think it's cool for them yeah, um, I hate when people like.

Speaker 1 26:21

Like on instagram. I posted a couple of weeks ago about you know, I antique the mirror behind me, the um window, with the mirror paint behind me, and some lady and she sells. She sells antiques. Oh, heifer. And she was like this is nothing new. I've been doing this for 20 years. I'm like I didn't. I didn't say look what I invented. It's just showing you had to learn it 20 years ago from somewhere. Did you pull it out of your ass? No, did you learn that? No, I just rolled my eyes. I've learned just to. I don't give people the time of day I wanted to be like. And yeah, people's been reselling antiques for hundreds of years. It's called selling products.

Speaker 2 27:06

And honey, if you've been doing it for years, you should be a pro at it. Why don't you have a reel on there doing?

Speaker 1 27:12

it. Yeah, I mean it's so funny Anytime you do something that's like a tutorial, like that or cooking, and they're like I've had this recipe and I'm like I didn't say I invented the damn brownie, I'm just showing you and then someone else is always learning something. I mean there's tons of things, recipes out there that I'd love to know how to cook or do it. It just trips me up.

Speaker 2 27:36

People cannot help themselves to say something negative or hurt or just be ugly. That's why I am so thankful, even when I want to do it and I want to say things a lot of times, especially when people are telling people to do things incorrectly. I want to say no, no, no, but I am not the Instagram police. I'm not. You know, you do you and you know they'll figure out that they, you know, shouldn't use scotch tape as a flower frog I don't need to go on there and correct you.

Speaker 2 28:15

I just don't, I will not do it Right.

Speaker 1 28:18

I know I will not do it Right. I know I do the same thing. I do have the urge sometimes and then I'm like scroll away, scroll away. And then if I have that urge multiple times, I don't know we're off on it. You got me off on a tangent. If I have that urge multiple times with the same person, I just don't follow them.

Speaker 2 28:37

That's exactly what you should do. You never want to look at them again.

Speaker 1 28:41

They're not for me, and that's okay, the same way, people don't follow me all the time.

Speaker 2 28:47

That comedian, shelly Belly. I don't know what her name is Shelly, something or another, I do not know why. I cannot stand her. I hate her voice, I hate her laugh.

Speaker 1 29:05

What if she's listening to our podcast? She might be a fan.

Speaker 2 29:09

I've always wanted to tell her that I can't stand you.

Speaker 1 29:12

I can't stand you, and that is okay, shelly, if you are listening, that is fine, because you know what. Not everybody has to like everybody.

Speaker 2 29:21

There's plenty of people that don't like you. One of my favorite comedians. You can't stand. It's just the way it is. That's why there's chocolate, vanilla and strawberries.

Speaker 1 29:35

Who's your favorite comedian? That I can't stand.

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Speaker 2 29:37

One of Fortune, one of Fortune theme stirrer. Oh God See, I love her, but she comes across more sincere to me and genuine.

Speaker 1 29:50

There is nothing I guess I can relate. There is nothing funny about her. From head to toe Boy, nothing.

Speaker 2 30:01

I like her. It's okay. That is okay. Chocolate and vanilla Chocolate and vanilla.

Speaker 1 30:08

It's true, it is true. Yesterday I spent the whole day installing. You'll be so happy and I kind of told you about it. But it gets to something. I want to talk about A whole home water filtration system. So we've been here on the farm for nine years now. Right, it's been nine years.

Speaker 2 30:29

I've been smelling your water for nine years. His water smells like somebody farted. I'm always like there's just a lot of sulfur in the water.

Speaker 1 30:42

Evidently yes, and it's come and gone, and we had like a little filter that was like this big under the house that we wouldn't change for like a year at a time. Then we had a thing attachment on the well pump that was supposed to help with that. I don't know, anyway, but it seems to be working. I just got it installed yesterday. It was very easy to install. Seems to be working great. So we'll see when you're here. I'll let you drink some water from the tap when you get here and tell me what you think next time, but I haven't smelled it and I went upstairs.

Speaker 1 31:18

You know I'm more used to it than you are. You know you come in and turn on the faucet and you're like, oh my gosh. And I'm like I don't smell it. But I can when I go upstairs to like one of our upstairs guest bathrooms, I think because the sulfur gases probably go up, get trapped or whatever. So when you first turn it on if you haven't turned on the shower, you know in a while you can usually smell it, and so I did that today and I didn't smell it.

Speaker 2 31:50

So, and that happens in our condos at Hilton.

Speaker 1 31:52

Head. Yeah, I have never noticed it in the Florida house.

Speaker 2 31:53

I've never noticed it in Florida, but it must be a lot of sulfur around in this state.

Speaker 1 31:58

It is, I guess. Yeah, and you know the um, our cleaning lady told us one time at Hilton headlight you got to be careful that it doesn't sit there too long because it will get trapped or something like in your hot water heater. So ever told you that like and they have to, like I don't know drain it and kind of get it out. If it so they're, like, if you're not booked for a long time, you should really turn your hot water heater off. I guess it's the heating of it up or something.

Speaker 2 32:25

But so what I do is like if I go there in early spring, when there haven't been a lot of rentals in the winter, I just I drain the tank, I just turn all the hot water, pull all the hot water out and it gets rid of it.

Speaker 1 32:38

Yeah, that's a good thing to do, but so I told you this yesterday that I had done this and we were talking about it in the live sale last night, which you love to make fun of our water, as you just did, and that sort of thing. But you brought up and I know we talked about it on here one time before, but it was like year one episode early on the whale story with the mouse and I think it just needs to be retold.

Speaker 1 33:07

This is why he hates whale water or anything like that. In our defense, before we do move on, we do have bottled water and, like our refrigerator waters, filtered, we get water delivery all of this time, so we haven't been consuming it. We use it to cook, but you're boiling it sort of thing. Now Daniel will. He'll get a glass of water right out of the sink and I'm like it tastes like pennies to me it wouldn't bother him, it never has, never will, but anyway.

Speaker 2 33:40

He could eat roadkill and it wouldn't make him sick. He has a stomach. I've always said he has a stomach of steel. He really does.

Speaker 1 33:48

He really does, but when we were moving to the farm, stephen was like oh my gosh, you got well water, get it tested. Let me tell you about my well experience.

Speaker 2 33:59

So I grew up my whole family on both sides. You know we were out in the country, not like Piedmont country where Wesley lives. It was the damn country and all we had was we had well water and spring water. That was it when I was a kid and spring water. That's the best water ever, and I inherited that spring, by the way.

Speaker 1 34:26

So I am yes our pond is spring fed. I guess we could have tapped into that at some point, but it's out in the flower field.

Speaker 2 34:35

Yeah, that's way, way better water, but anyway. So I was at my aunt's house and you know they had a new refrigerator. This would have been in the early mid 80s.

Speaker 1 34:49

And you know you could.

Speaker 2 34:50

That was very new. It had the water that came out, you know, in the door. Of the refrigerator yes, water that came out, you know, in the door of the refrigerator.

Speaker 1 35:04

Yes, we got, I got water and I was like this smells, like it smelled bad, and I was like that's gross.

Speaker 2 35:08

So me and my cousin realized it didn't smell. Wesley, are you there? I, I'm here, you just went away. It smelled so bad that, but we realized that if we mixed it with like grape Kool-Aid, we didn't notice it.

Speaker 1 35:30

You covered the smell up with the grape Kool-Aid.

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Speaker 2 35:32

So we could drink the grape Kool-Aid and it didn't smell. Didn't taste didn't smell. So this went on for a week or so and they actually got a whale person out there and there was a big filled rat floating in the whale. We'd been drinking rat juice.

Speaker 1 35:54

That is so gross. That is so gross. How did y'all not get something is the crazy thing.

Speaker 2 36:03

I don't know. I was just thinking about that yesterday because an article popped up about Gene Hackman's wife and how she died from that virus, from that rodent, presumably a rat. And I'm like I drank rat juice, dead rat juice and it didn't hurt me.

Speaker 1 36:26

Like how are we not dead? I do not know, because that was obviously floating right there in the water. I mean, if you smelled it you know the bacteria and rot was coming.

Speaker 2 36:41

Okay, okay Enough. You went just a little too far there. Oh my gosh. So, I've got some new Southernisms.

Speaker 1 36:53

Oh good, you, just you know you have really committed to this bit. I say that every week, but let's go it's very, it's very, very important.

Speaker 2 37:04

You know, yeah, uh huh, we've got a lot of people coming into South Carolina. They need to know these things they do so um? I'll tell you. First are two sayings.

Speaker 1 37:19

I love a good Southern saying.

Speaker 2 37:20

When somebody's upset, sometimes you might hear they're having a dying duck fit. Did you grow up saying that?

Speaker 1 37:30

Yeah, just a dying duck fit.

Speaker 2 37:33

Yeah, she had a dying duck fit over that I haven't heard that in a while. I guess ducks have a fit when they're dying.

Speaker 1 37:45

Can you Google that? Oh no, you're on your phone, I can't Google either. Well, we'll have to Google for next time.

Speaker 2 37:52

Yeah, and then the other is. Now I have said, I do say this one wouldn't hit a lick at a snake. So lazy he's so lazy, he wouldn't hit a lick at a snake.

Speaker 1 38:08

I'm not familiar. That one doesn't sound as familiar. He wouldn't hit a lick, I feel like.

Speaker 2 38:14

Wouldn't hit a lick at a snake Like too lazy to even kill a snake. Wouldn't hit a lick at a snake Like too lazy to even kill a snake. The other thing, you know one, I've really always said he's so lazy, he wouldn't work in a pie factory tasting pies.

Speaker 1 38:28

Now, that is a good one, that's true. Well okay, Go ahead. No go ahead, no go ahead, Because it's going to.

Speaker 2 38:39

One other thing this is a Southernism. It's a food, because you know we've got to cover some food products.

Speaker 1 38:47

Always.

Speaker 2 38:49

And you and I have never talked about this, but we had this in the summertime just about every meal at my grandma's house. My grandma made this every day, at least at one meal, but usually two meals. She made milk gravy three times a day.

Speaker 1 39:11

Oh really.

Speaker 2 39:12

Yes, for breakfast she would take the sausage grease and make milk gravy from that. At lunch she might take the sausage grease and make milk gravy from that. At lunch she might make it from chicken chicken grease. You know we had milk gravy three times a day.

Speaker 1 39:29

We did not have that much gravy.

Speaker 2 39:32

Oh, every meal, every meal.

Speaker 1 39:35

Now my grandmother, bobby. She would make biscuits and gravy with the white gravy. Yeah, that's milk gravy With the little sausage chopped up in it, and some good homemade biscuits. She would make that I mean, we weren't really there for breakfast a lot, but she would make that.

Speaker 2 39:56

Well, you know, I told you one of my grandfather's romantic and his so romantic proposal was I need you. If we're going to get married, you have to promise me that you'll make three hot meals a day and fresh bread.

Speaker 1 40:13

We talked about that on the last show.

Speaker 2 40:15

Yeah, so romantic. But my grandmother made. We had milk gravy for every meal and for lunch and dinner, which we called it dinner and supper. Dinner was lunch and supper was dinner Really.

Speaker 1 40:34

Yeah, that's a Southern thing Well supper was always dinner, the nighttime meal for us and lunch we called lunch dinner. We just called lunch lunch. We didn't call it dinner. Dinner and supper meant the same thing and were interchangeable, but both meant the nighttime meal.

Speaker 2 40:55

in my growing up meant the nighttime meal in my growing up. But you know, my grandparents had enormous, enormous gardens.

Speaker 1 41:04

What'd you fix them for?

Speaker 2 41:06

Yeah, and we had different fields, for I mean, for different things. It was I don't really see people doing that anymore but we had a field with strawberries. We had a field for just watermelons and cantaloupe, and then we had a garden that had everything, you know, your whole beans and squash and cucumbers and all of that, squash and cucumbers and all of that. So we had just tons of fresh vegetables and melons. So we would have twice a day, grandma would cut up a cantaloupe and we had cantaloupe with milk gravy over it. Gross, no, delicious, no, delicious, no, mm-hmm Delicious. It's your sweet. Yes, I know it sounds crazy, it does?

Speaker 1 42:10

That makes me want to gag. I just think about those two textures together the slimy cantaloupe with some gravy on top.

Speaker 2 42:19

It's really the only way I like cantaloupe.

Speaker 1 42:22

Mm-mm, there's something. I really that's something. I don't know Something wrong there Y'all, if you're listening and you eat cantaloupe with gravy.

Speaker 2 42:33

let me know it is good.

Speaker 1 42:35

No, no one else out there does that. You are not going to convince me that other people? I have never heard of that in my life, never seen that no one else does that. That cannot be a thing.

Speaker 2 42:50

I'm just telling you, my mother's family did not do that. But my dad's family If you're out there and do that.

Speaker 1 42:57

I need to hear about it.

Speaker 2 43:00

I need to know. It's a. Thing. It is really really good.

Speaker 1 43:07

That is so gross.

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Speaker 2 43:10

It's got me like we got to talking about it yesterday. We didn't have milk gravy yesterday. Anyway, uh, at lunch at my aunt's house, but she had forgotten to take the cantaloupe oh wait, is that what you did?

Speaker 2 43:25

yeah yeah, and for father's day so we got to talking about cantaloupe and I was like I love cantaloupe with milk gravy. I mean that was just a thing, no it is so good. So yesterday I got to thinking I need to make some milk gravy just to eat cantaloupe. Don't, nobody do that. Yes, they do. In the South they do.

Speaker 1 43:58

What I was going to say a minute ago is what are Northern sayings Like? We have Southernisms. What's Northernisms? Is that a thing Do?

Speaker 2 44:13

they have their own Yankee-ty things up there, you guys.

Speaker 1 44:16

I don't know Well besides that, like do they have phrases? I don't know Well besides that, do they have phrases North? If you live up there or in somewhere else out west midwest, let us know. I don't know a hotline number. It's down below in the comments, but I'm not in the podcast room, so I don't know what it is.

Speaker 2 44:35

Here's another food thing. My family did not do this, but I know people that eat this in the South, but I think I might like it. I would try it.

Speaker 1 44:46

What is it?

Speaker 2 44:48

I love mayonnaise, duke's mayonnaise, and in the South, by the way, if you are in the South, there's only one mayonnaise. There's only one, and it is Duke's.

Speaker 1 45:03

It's only one mayonnaise there's only one, and it is Duke's. I think that's a perfect mayonnaise South Carolina thing.

Speaker 2 45:06

It may be a South Carolina thing because that's where it started, but it's the best mayonnaise. It's the perfect little lemon bite to it. It's not sweet at all. I do not like a sweet mayonnaise but some people put mayonnaise like in their pinto beans like a spoonful of mayonnaise. I guess, I guess it would be. I've never done that, but I guess it would be like sour cream.

Speaker 1 45:37

So if you think about it, give it a little twang.

Speaker 2 45:42

Yeah, yeah, I mean I could see that being kind of tasty. I would try it I don't know.

Speaker 1 45:46

I'm not a big pinto bean person either. I love they're too like dry, like they're too. I don't know like I like black beans, the pintos are a little too. I don't know I like black beans. The Pintos are a little too pulpy for me.

Speaker 2 46:04

They're good, I need to put me on a pot of beans. I love, love to make Pintos.

Speaker 1 46:16

When's the last time you made Pintos? He's going gonna be like I did it last few months ago, you ain't made no pintos.

Speaker 2 46:24

It's been a year, but now when I do it I make a ton, so you're kind of pintoed out for a while that'd be something good to have after your colonoscopy and clean out.

Speaker 1 46:36

Just go ahead and get you some pinto beans.

Speaker 2 46:40

Well, I'll cook mine forever. You know, I make soup beans. It's not just old, dry beans, I make soup beans with onions and garlic and pepper and then, like, use chicken stock. I like them to have flavor.

Speaker 1 46:55

I don't know, I like black beans and that's. I mean I like other green beans and stuff like. Don't know, I like black beans, nuts. I mean I like other green beans and stuff like that, but just not a pinto. It's too meaty there.

Speaker 2 47:07

I don't like black-eyed peas.

Speaker 1 47:10

Oh see, I like black-eyed peas. See, that's kind of to me like pinto beans, but smaller, like same texture.

Speaker 2 47:18

Black-eyed peas are grainy, see, I feel like p cut peas are grainy, see, I feel like pink beans are grainy like that they're good for you, though.

Speaker 1 47:27

It's time to pull this baby over, cause I am sweating out here. I shouldn't have sat outside, it is nice and hot, it's like 68 in here.

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Speaker 1 47:36

I'm comfy. Granny's got her shawl on over there. That's right, all warm, and I'm about to head over to the warehouse. I have been putting some things in a little sizzling summer sale collection. So if you have the Nessie Big App or go to our website, we do have some great things on sale. I'm going around the warehouse each day and things that we only have like one or two of, because you know we're starting to get in things on sale. I'm going around the warehouse each day and things that we only have like one or two of, because you know we're starting to get in our holiday stuff. I am throwing in a little you know sale, but no, we're not getting it back this year again. So it's a great time to take advantage of some good deals over there. So check out the app or the website. So I'm going to go do that Might do a little live sale. Go, do that Might do a little live sale. Try to get to the gym today, see, I can work all that in, and then Wednesday we'll be headed to Dallas. So make sure all week long if you're listening this on Tuesday or maybe Wednesday Wednesday through Saturday, we'll be at the Dallas market, as a reminder. So join our live sales. Make sure you have your notifications turned on so you know when we go live.

Speaker 1 48:39

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Speaker 1 49:09

All right, that's it, we'll see you next week, right back here, we might should record a podcast while we're in Dallas. That could be fun too. Towards the end, we should do that. We should All right Bye y'all.